sex drive = 0 mph

mooretiggr · October 2010

LO is nearly 10 weeks old and I still have NO interest in physical intimacy yet. I'm feeling guilty... Am I the only one who didn't jump back in the sack when they were cleared?

I have had no PP issues, I got cleared physically at 6 weeks, I'm not any more exhausted than any other new mom... I want to "fix" it, but I don't know what "it" is, if that makes sense....

JJ1973 · October 2010

mooretiggr:

LO is nearly 10 weeks old and I still have NO interest in physical intimacy yet. I'm feeling guilty... Am I the only one who didn't jump back in the sack when they were cleared?

I have had no PP issues, I got cleared physically at 6 weeks, I'm not any more exhausted than any other new mom... I want to "fix" it, but I don't know what "it" is, if that makes sense....

Absolutely the same scenario here at about 10 weeks...my poor husband. I'm thinking I may just force myself to get it over with...and that just sounds horrible, doesn't it?

CourtneyR2N · October 2010

My little one is 3 weeks, but I can't even imagine having sex any time in the near future. DH wants to be all kissy with me and it makes me cringe, he doesn't get why I don't want to make out.

My only advice on this is to fake it until you make it. Do things romantic with your husband. Massage, take a bath together, light candles, etc. Then do everything you can to relax and only think about what is happening at the moment.

Good luck.

MrsMommyQ · October 2010

I felt the same way...and still kinda do. We did it one time and it was fine. It was NOT horrible at all, and it did feel good to be that close to DH again. My advice is to just do it.

cmhicklin · October 2010

On top of all of the first time mom stuff, and general baby exhaustion, my brother is living with us. He is in college, and on the weekends he goes back to my dads, but during the week...his room is right under ours and that weirds me out. Then my DH has been super busy at work and with a class he is taking. Sex has been a no go around here too, even though I've been cleared.

stephmike52 · October 2010

JJ1973:
mooretiggr:

LO is nearly 10 weeks old and I still have NO interest in physical intimacy yet. I'm feeling guilty... Am I the only one who didn't jump back in the sack when they were cleared?

I have had no PP issues, I got cleared physically at 6 weeks, I'm not any more exhausted than any other new mom... I want to "fix" it, but I don't know what "it" is, if that makes sense....

Absolutely the same scenario here at about 10 weeks...my poor husband. I'm thinking I may just force myself to get it over with...and that just sounds horrible, doesn't it?

Same here. I ended up just forcing myself and I was soooo not into it, but poor hubby has been so patient....hopefully it'll get back to normal soon.

CMSullivan326 · October 2010

My LO is almost 4 months old and I still want nothing to do with it...I don't get it! Before I got pregnant and even during my ENTIRE pregnancy, I wanted sex all the time! But after I had LO, I just don't ever get in the "mood". Of course I suck it up and just do it for him, but honestly, I don't really enjoy it because I don't really want it and it SUCKS! I'm very much attracted to my DH but for some reason, I just don't get into it like I used to. I wish it would go back to normal =(