FFFC thread: you know you've got something to say

lovebug630 · October 2010

My mom doesn't listen to me, and it drives me to distraction. I've told her many times that I'm making a black and red tutu for DD's birthday invite, to go along with her ladybug theme. So she calls yesterday, saying she's found the cutest pink tutu, and did I want her to buy it for the invitation? NO!!!!

This isn't the first time she's found a tutu and wanted to get it. Do I want pink? No. Did I explain to her that I already have the materials and want to make it myself, and that I've already started it? Yes, over and over again. SHE DOES NOT LISTEN.

Okay, maybe this turned into more of a vent. Sorry.

Scooter359 · October 2010

(edited because i obivouly dont know how to read) If that's the worst thing shes done then I think you'll be okay. Maybe she just wants to help, and be involved, ask if she wants to help you make it or something. Mine? I cant help but compare Mason to bump babies, and I feel like he is falling behind and it's all my fault somehow. Like I am not doing enough to promote his development and encourage him to do things, I feel like a terrible mom.

SnowflakeBaby2009 · October 2010

I have one.... I've had a stomach bug for a day and a half, and last night I wanted to take a hot bath to help. I was too sore and weak to go get a new towel, so I just figured I'd use the one from Nathans bath. Shortly after I remembered he peed on it, but used it anyway. Gross, I know, but I felt way too sick to go and grab another.

kimberleigh30 · October 2010

I ate an entire bag of double stuffed oreo's in 2 days. All by myself.

lilbit923 · October 2010

I am angry at my brother for using my parent's for years to bail him out of every mistake or problem he's ever had and living at my parent's house rent free for years. I'm angry at him for marrying his girlfriend in secret (found the license on google) whom none of us can stand, nor do we approve of her and she's old enough to be my mom. I'm angry at him for not having the balls to come to my parents and admit he did this but instead he chooses to lie and be a coward about it when confronted. I'm angry for him for not having explained this situation to his three children (ages 13, 9 and 3) who, next weekend, will learn they've had a new stepmom for months that they have never met.

On the upside...I'm glad it's not me in trouble. I know this is more of a vent than an FFFC but I had to get this out.

**Should I tell both of my Ex-SIL's that my brother remarried without telling them and their children will have new places to live when they come to visit instead of the designated places in the court orders....hmmm.

lilbit923 · October 2010

kimberleigh30:
I ate an entire bag of double stuffed oreo's in 2 days. All by myself.

You go girl! Emma helps me eat them. She taps my hand to twist the top off and leans forward with her mouth open to eat the cream. When the cream is gone she taps my hand to get another cookie.

mrs_sherod · October 2010

I don't like my step son. I'm not mean to him or anything, I'm just not fond of his personality.

mefsta777 · October 2010

i hate rude people (doesnt everyone?). this girl my BIL is dating (or i guess, engaged to?) is 39 (hes 22), has a two year old, and isnt even divorced yet! i have been trying to be nice for over 5 months to meet up with her to have a playdate, i get rejected every time. but now she has ORDERED me to make food (without her paying for the materials or time) for her kids birthday party. god i hate rude people.

lilbit923 · October 2010

mrs_sherod:
I don't like my step son. I'm not mean to him or anything, I'm just not fond of his personality.

Is yours a teenager? I got one of them. He's 16 and thinks he's slick. He and DH joke around like he's an adult and I guess that's his mannerism but he tried that with me once. He was reading a book and I asked him "What you reading?" He didn't look up and his face scanned to the next page he replied "It's a book, it's got words on the pages." I snapped quick and leaned in to him "WTF did you just say to me?" He cowered down and showed me the front of the book..."It's physics!" He never did that crap again.

Mrs.Keith2B · October 2010

DH and I are separated (not my FFFC) and we've agreed to split the DCP costs. He's been really good about it so far, as well as repaying any debits from our checking account that he hasn't switched over to his account yet (truck insurance, etc.) It's his week to pay and I haven't seen the money yet. I reminded him on Monday and again yesterday. If I have to pay our DCP today when I pick up DS (because I refuse to screw over our DCP and I'm not paying late fees) I'm telling DH he owes me an extra $30 for the late fee we were charged. He doesn't need to know I was covering his asss.

kimberleigh30 · October 2010

lilbit923:

kimberleigh30:
I ate an entire bag of double stuffed oreo's in 2 days. All by myself.

You go girl! Emma helps me eat them. She taps my hand to twist the top off and leans forward with her mouth open to eat the cream. When the cream is gone she taps my hand to get another cookie.

LOL> I gave Noah a few bits of the cookie. None with the cream on it. They were saved for me! The best part of the cookie.

kimberleigh30 · October 2010

Mrs.Keith2B:
DH and I are separated (not my FFFC) and we've agreed to split the DCP costs. He's been really good about it so far, as well as repaying any debits from our checking account that he hasn't switched over to his account yet (truck insurance, etc.) It's his week to pay and I haven't seen the money yet. I reminded him on Monday and again yesterday. If I have to pay our DCP today when I pick up DS (because I refuse to screw over our DCP and I'm not paying late fees) I'm telling DH he owes me an extra $30 for the late fee we were charged. He doesn't need to know I was covering his asss.

Sorry to hear. I hope you guys work it out.

LilMissSunshine · October 2010

I really wish I could "break up" with a friend. She sucks and I pretend things will get better but they don't. It's worse than trying to get away from a bad S/O!

mrs_sherod · October 2010

lilbit923:

mrs_sherod:
I don't like my step son. I'm not mean to him or anything, I'm just not fond of his personality.

Is yours a teenager? I got one of them. He's 16 and thinks he's slick. He and DH joke around like he's an adult and I guess that's his mannerism but he tried that with me once. He was reading a book and I asked him "What you reading?" He didn't look up and his face scanned to the next page he replied "It's a book, it's got words on the pages." I snapped quick and leaned in to him "WTF did you just say to me?" He cowered down and showed me the front of the book..."It's physics!" He never did that crap again.

Pre-teen...he's 11. Long story, but he lives with MIL and she lets him do whatever. He tried that mouthy crap with me before and I shut him down quick. H thinks it's okay that he sometimes calls him by his first name. The kid needs some boundaries in life. He likes to call my FIL by his first name as well. For his birthday, he received a number of gifts and refused to call anyone to thank them. MIL called H and he told him he had to thank the people. That behavior won't fly with me. I told him he should have all his gifts taken from him until he thanked the people. He's a brat!

Cheekie4 · October 2010

Scooter359:
This is a prime example of people just wanting to hate their MIL. If that's the worst thing shes done then I think you'll be okay. Maybe she just wants to help, and be involved, ask if she wants to help you make it or something. Mine? I cut off all ties with my father, and feel fantastic about it.

I don't think it's her MIL. I think it's her own mother.

Mine (and I sorta feel badly about this)...
I have a hard time feeling sympathy for someone who is sick b/c of their own choices (alcoholism or tabacco users).

ETA: When I say "I sorta feel badly about this," I mean that I know that I shouldn't feel this way at all.

anukindaluv · October 2010

My youngest sister's house got broken into earlier this week. They lost their big screen TV, laptop, digital camera, and small flat screen TV. When I asked if they had renter's insurance, she told me "No, we can't afford it".

Our renter's costs us 17$/mo. I don't feel bad for them, at all.

kimberleigh30 · October 2010

anukindaluv:

My youngest sister's house got broken into earlier this week. They lost their big screen TV, laptop, digital camera, and small flat screen TV. When I asked if they had renter's insurance, she told me "No, we can't afford it".

Our renter's costs us 17$/mo. I don't feel bad for them, at all.

Ironic.

madeleines_mommy · October 2010

Cheekie4:

Scooter359:
This is a prime example of people just wanting to hate their MIL. If that's the worst thing shes done then I think you'll be okay. Maybe she just wants to help, and be involved, ask if she wants to help you make it or something. Mine? I cut off all ties with my father, and feel fantastic about it.

I don't think it's her MIL. I think it's her own mother.

Mine (and I sorta feel badly about this)...
I have a hard time feeling sympathy for someone who is sick b/c of their own choices (alcoholism or tabacco users).

I feel the same way, but I don't feel bad about it. No one is making you smoke, drink, or eat crappy foods that are destroying your body!! NO sympathy from me!

ETA: When I say "I sorta feel badly about this," I mean that I know that I shouldn't feel this way at all.

Vuja_de · October 2010

I recently found out that an acquaintance of mine (we used to be very good friends in HS) who just had a baby, isn't speaking to the baby's father because he won't leave his wife and family. I was supposed to meet her for lunch and to give her a bunch of clothing this weekend. I am not going to show up because I am disgusted that she knowingly slept with a married man.

(she gave me the whole backstory and now I want nothing to do with her)

zeptattoo · October 2010

Vuja_de:

I recently found out that an acquaintance of mine (we used to be very good friends in HS) who just had a baby, isn't speaking to the baby's father because he won't leave his wife and family. I was supposed to meet her for lunch and to give her a bunch of clothing this weekend. I am not going to show up because I am disgusted that she knowingly slept with a married man.

(she gave me the whole backstory and now I want nothing to do with her)

My cousin did this. Their son is 11 years old and he still has not left his wife.

redhotchili83 · October 2010

I frebreezed a pair of dirty pants and wore then to work yesterday.

Nikibug · October 2010

Today is my anniverary (12 together, 6 married) and I didn't even attempt to do anything for DH because he rarely does anything for me and I am sick of being let down every year.

I know I should just be happy our relationship is good though and not care about gifts, but a card would at least be nice! He thinks it is waseful to buy cards...we recycle so I dont see the big deal.

Scooter359 · October 2010

Cheekie4:
Scooter359:
This is a prime example of people just wanting to hate their MIL. If that's the worst thing shes done then I think you'll be okay. Maybe she just wants to help, and be involved, ask if she wants to help you make it or something. Mine? I cut off all ties with my father, and feel fantastic about it.

I don't think it's her MIL. I think it's her own mother.

Mine (and I sorta feel badly about this)...
I have a hard time feeling sympathy for someone who is sick b/c of their own choices (alcoholism or tabacco users).

ETA: When I say "I sorta feel badly about this," I mean that I know that I shouldn't feel this way at all.

Ah I see that now, wow, I guess I'm just so used to seeing vents about ILs. Oops. And I totally agree with you. I hate feeling that way, but I'm sorry. You make your own choices and know what these things do to you and yet you still do it...not my fault.

Mereou12 · October 2010

When it comes to food and other "parenting" decisions, I rarely follow our pedi's advice.

So far they've said no meat 'til 9 months (we started at 7), no eggs til 1 year (again, started at 7), and various other recommendations. Since they're military docs, they're required to strictly follow the AAP's recommendations...so even though one of the pedis agreed that the recs regarding highly allergic foods ARE going to change soon, she still can't support my decision to give William peanut butter before the age of two. I gave him some yesterday, and he LOVED it.

If the pedi were giving individual suggestions for MY child, I'd be more willing to listen. But their recommendations are blanket recs that they give to every kid that comes through the door. I know MY kid better, and I don't feel badly that I don't listen to their recs.

etude de la vie · October 2010

I stopped flushing the toilet. I am home alone ALL day and seriously peeing 200x a day. The pressure of my uterus is right ontop on my bladder so only a tinkle comes out and then 20 min late I need to go again (no pain or UTI but just peeing a lot and drinking a lot)! I think of it as saving on our water bill!

Also this week I allowed DD to watch more than one episode a day of Sesame street (the only time she watches TV is for sesame street).

emiliemadison · October 2010

mrs_sherod:
lilbit923:

mrs_sherod:
I don't like my step son. I'm not mean to him or anything, I'm just not fond of his personality.

Is yours a teenager? I got one of them. He's 16 and thinks he's slick. He and DH joke around like he's an adult and I guess that's his mannerism but he tried that with me once. He was reading a book and I asked him "What you reading?" He didn't look up and his face scanned to the next page he replied "It's a book, it's got words on the pages." I snapped quick and leaned in to him "WTF did you just say to me?" He cowered down and showed me the front of the book..."It's physics!" He never did that crap again.

Pre-teen...he's 11. Long story, but he lives with MIL and she lets him do whatever. He tried that mouthy crap with me before and I shut him down quick. H thinks it's okay that he sometimes calls him by his first name. The kid needs some boundaries in life. He likes to call my FIL by his first name as well. For his birthday, he received a number of gifts and refused to call anyone to thank them. MIL called H and he told him he had to thank the people. That behavior won't fly with me. I told him he should have all his gifts taken from him until he thanked the people. He's a brat!

I've gotta ask...why does your husband's child live with someone else? You list all these things that he does and how he needs boundaries and that he's rude. Yet, he's essentially being pawned off on people who, while family, are NOT his parents. Why is his new baby being raised by him but not his first child? "Long story" or not, your husband isnt raising his own child and you have very little room to complain about this kids behaviour. You're putting a lot of blame on this kid. If you want to point fingers and place blame, take a good look at the guy you married.

MarthaP18 · October 2010

mefsta777:
i hate rude people (doesnt everyone?). this girl my BIL is dating (or i guess, engaged to?) is 39 (hes 22), has a two year old, and isnt even divorced yet! i have been trying to be nice for over 5 months to meet up with her to have a playdate, i get rejected every time. but now she has ORDERED me to make food (without her paying for the materials or time) for her kids birthday party. god i hate rude people.

Oh, hell no. I wouldn't do it. I'd flat out say no. If she's not even nice to you, why should you go out of your way for her? Plus, the way she asked sounds super rude, and the fact that she didn't even offer to pay for the materials you would need? nope. I wouldn't do it.

MarthaP18 · October 2010

Here's mine, inspired by a post below about older kids with binkies.

I'm done fighting the battle with my SD when she's with us, to get rid of the binky. We've gotten her off the binky addiction 3 separate times already and then she goes back to her mom's house and her mom gives it back to her. She's 5.5 years old and it's far from cute anymore for her to be walking around with a binky in her mouth. It's not even just to sleep. She uses it all the freaking time. But DH and I can't keep fighting this battle if her mom gives in the second she goes home. She lives primarily with her mom and only comes to our house for like 2-3 months during the summer and another 3 weeks or so in the winter (they live several states away and she's in school already).

Also, I'm not at all surprised that she's having behavioral issues in kindergarten. Everyone is always like, oh, it's okay, she's just a kid, blah blah blah, and no one was disciplining her. She's not used to having to face repercussions for breaking rules, and we're always the bad guys when we enforce the rules at our house. Now that she's in school, she's being sent home with notes about her behavior pretty much daily. I'm not at all surprised. I think school will be a zillion times better for her than being at home with her mother has been.

zeptattoo · October 2010

Snuggle is going to DC on Monday even though I am off of work that day. I have not had a day off from both him and work since August and he loves DC so I do not feel bad about it. I am going to clean our shower and play video games.

BethD76 · October 2010

I prefer the company of men because I think they are easier to get along with. To me a lot of women, especially the ones I work with are only out for their own agendas, and like to stir up drama. Some people I know haven't changed since grade school. I will go all day without speaking to the other ladies at work so I don't have to overhear them discussing in detail what I might have meant by something I said. This happens all of the time. If I tell someone something confidential and I hear about it from a thrid party I don't talk to that person again unless I absolutely have to.

The female friends I have are not like this at all, and I treasure them. I appreciate my fellow bumpies too.

lovebug630 · October 2010

Cheekie4:
Scooter359:
This is a prime example of people just wanting to hate their MIL. If that's the worst thing shes done then I think you'll be okay. Maybe she just wants to help, and be involved, ask if she wants to help you make it or something. Mine? I cut off all ties with my father, and feel fantastic about it.

I don't think it's her MIL. I think it's her own mother.

Mine (and I sorta feel badly about this)...
I have a hard time feeling sympathy for someone who is sick b/c of their own choices (alcoholism or tabacco users).

ETA: When I say "I sorta feel badly about this," I mean that I know that I shouldn't feel this way at all.

It was my own mom I'm talking about, and I certainly don't hate her. I love her; she's my best friend besides DH. I just wish she'd listen to me because it makes me feel unimportant. And she definitely doesn't want to help me with the tutu...she hates crafts.

smilelari · October 2010

I found my cousin's screen name on baby gaga and now I don't know what to do. Apparently she lies. A lot.

Singingmama · October 2010

lilbit923:

kimberleigh30:
I ate an entire bag of double stuffed oreo's in 2 days. All by myself.

You go girl! Emma helps me eat them. She taps my hand to twist the top off and leans forward with her mouth open to eat the cream. When the cream is gone she taps my hand to get another cookie.

That's hilarious! I can totally picture my daughter doing something exactly like that!

Amalthea03 · October 2010

First off: I am so embarrassed by this that I can't bring myself to post this under my own name, even though I'm not even one of the more popular posters on this board.

I have not had sex with my husband in over a year. I do, however, use my vibrator almost daily. I have a sex drive, I just have no interest in having sex with my DH. I still love him and find him attractive, but I just can't bring myself to do it. I don't know why, and it makes me feel like a terrible person. I am also incredibly angry with him over the most stupid, ridiculous things. I mean, over the top, throwing things and crying, type of angry. I used to be the most peaceful person. I don't know what has happened to me, and it makes me really sad. I feel like I've lost myself in so many ways since I had DD, but I love her so freaking much that I would never change a thing.

Scooter359 · October 2010

lovebug630:
Cheekie4:
Scooter359:
This is a prime example of people just wanting to hate their MIL. If that's the worst thing shes done then I think you'll be okay. Maybe she just wants to help, and be involved, ask if she wants to help you make it or something. Mine? I cut off all ties with my father, and feel fantastic about it.

I don't think it's her MIL. I think it's her own mother.

Mine (and I sorta feel badly about this)...
I have a hard time feeling sympathy for someone who is sick b/c of their own choices (alcoholism or tabacco users).

ETA: When I say "I sorta feel badly about this," I mean that I know that I shouldn't feel this way at all.
It was my own mom I'm talking about, and I certainly don't hate her. I love her; she's my best friend besides DH. I just wish she'd listen to me because it makes me feel unimportant. And she definitely doesn't want to help me with the tutu...she hates crafts.

Yeah, I noticed my mistake. Sorry. I get what you mean though about feeling unimportant. For the past few months my mom has blown me off multiple times to go hang out with her ex, ex husband. And like you is my bestie. just try to let her know that your only going to tell her so many times before it's gets to the point where your feelings are being hurt.

Singingmama · October 2010

Amalthea03:

First off: I am so embarrassed by this that I can't bring myself to post this under my own name, even though I'm not even one of the more popular posters on this board.

I have not had sex with my husband in over a year. I do, however, use my vibrator almost daily. I have a sex drive, I just have no interest in having sex with my DH. I still love him and find him attractive, but I just can't bring myself to do it. I don't know why, and it makes me feel like a terrible person. I am also incredibly angry with him over the most stupid, ridiculous things. I mean, over the top, throwing things and crying, type of angry. I used to be the most peaceful person. I don't know what has happened to me, and it makes me really sad. I feel like I've lost myself in so many ways since I had DD, but I love her so freaking much that I would never change a thing.

Oh boy! I totally understand how you feel! My situation is not as drastic as yours, but I'm definitely in a similar situation. My DH is awesome and I love him completely, but I'm just not interested in sex with him. I also get angry with him for weird and unknown reasons and just the other day he made the comment that I'm always mad at him, even when he tries to do things to make me happy. Ugh! I felt so awful!!

I have a question for you:

Do you have the Mirena IUD?

I have the Mirena IUD and I've done a little bit of research lately that leads me to believe that some of my issues are being caused by the hormones from the IUD. I'm thinking that I'm going to have it removed and go back to a regular birth control pill.

Want a personalized experience?

FFFC thread: you know you've got something to say

Re: FFFC thread: you know you've got something to say

Choose Another Board

Search Boards