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Little gripe about my "BFF," and a clicky-poll

Mommysaurus123Mommysaurus123 member
in December 2010 Moms

So about a month ago, I started asking DH if my surprise shower was October 9, because I saw on FB my best friend from high school was going to be home for her birthday, Oct. 11. She is going to grad school in New Orleans, but her undergrad school's homecoming is this weekend, and that's about 3 hours from home. Her parents currently live an hour in the opposite direction from home, so I thought if she is going to homecoming and to see her parents, she'll be stopping by this area.

DH eventually spilled that my shower is Sunday, 10/10, but said that this friend won't even be there.

I think this totally sucks... she graduated 2 years ago and doesn't really have friends left at her college, but she is still going there and to visit her parents, but is skipping right over me and the shower. It's not so much that I want her to be at my shower, you know? I just haven't seen her in a year? I can't even remember. It's been forever.

 

 

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  • Chick7806Chick7806 member

    Your shower = a lot of drama.

    I hope you have fun this weekend. Don't be upset by the friend thing. You probably won't notice too much.  

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  • erind0213erind0213 member

    I have been let down by friends at my wedding shower last year, and am having similar issues this year.

    One of my BFF's from college had been living local, and moved a year and a half ago. When she was prego with her first child I was there for everything, even helped her mom plan the shower which was 2 and half hours away and in that baby's first year I was like their personal photographer.

    Well now that they moved an hour and half away, and I am expecting, she has been MIA, negative about everything and anything pertaining to my pregnancy, and then informs me she won't be able to make my shower, using different excuses from when I originally told her the presumed date.  Then she hits me with, im not going to BRU for your gifts so can I tell you what I am getting you so you can take them off your registry and not get duplicates!

     I would have rather of not even known she could have made it, that is why the RSVP was to my mom, not me, and what the big deal if I get duplicates or not?? I can return one or the other!

    My thing is, i'd rather not know about the drama, and cherish and appreciate those that make the effort to be there and share in this special time for my husband and I, rather then focus on the no shows. 

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  • lulu8109lulu8109 member
    I think we should start a club for people with sucky BFFs.  Seems like a lot of that has been going around lately.  This sounds like something my so-called BFF would do too.  Since I got married last year, I've come to realize she and I just have WAY different priorities.
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  • paigeapoepaigeapoe member
    My BFF has been doing this to me for years. I've been living in SC for 3 years. I go home at least 2 times a year. She lives 3 hrs from where we grew up and every time I have been home she has been in our home town but yet I still have not seen her in 3 years because she's too "busy". Ok. Whatever. You just have to learn to not stress about it, you can't change them.
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  • jedrumwrightjedrumwright
    Maybe he's trying to surprise you by making you think she won't be there? When DH and I were dating we lived 8 hours apart for a while and he came home the weekend of my birthday and went to his colleges homecoming 2 1/2 hours away but told me he hadn't come home. He ended up surprising me on Sunday and had taken a few days off from work to spend with me. It was all a plan to make me think he wasn't coming, maybe they're doing the same.
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  • Mommysaurus123Mommysaurus123 member
    imageSchick'sChick:

    Your shower = a lot of drama.

    I hope you have fun this weekend. Don't be upset by the friend thing. You probably won't notice too much.  

    I just think it's funny that the whole reason I thought the shower was this weekend was because I saw on facebook that she is home this weekend... and she won't even be there.

    There has been drama up til now, but I am so excited and I can't wait to see everyone. DH said that a lot of his family is coming, and we haven't seen them in 2 years, so I'm thrilled. It sucks BFF won't be there, but I am looking forward to seeing the people who care enough to show.

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  • Chick7806Chick7806 member
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    imageSchick'sChick:

    Your shower = a lot of drama.

    I hope you have fun this weekend. Don't be upset by the friend thing. You probably won't notice too much.  

    I just think it's funny that the whole reason I thought the shower was this weekend was because I saw on facebook that she is home this weekend... and she won't even be there.

    There has been drama up til now, but I am so excited and I can't wait to see everyone. DH said that a lot of his family is coming, and we haven't seen them in 2 years, so I'm thrilled. It sucks BFF won't be there, but I am looking forward to seeing the people who care enough to show.

    Good. : )) Hope it turns out to be a really good time.  

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  • jnicolenjnicolen

    maybe she already had something planned before she got invited.

    or maybe she has a test on monday and a sunday event does not work for her.

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  • Mommysaurus123Mommysaurus123 member
    imagejnicolen:

    maybe she already had something planned before she got invited.

    or maybe she has a test on monday and a sunday event does not work for her.

    Nah, she is going to be out at her alma mater on Monday (holiday) for her birthday... so she is going back and forth, right past me. Oh well.

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