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Really need to vent....kinda long

JulsWJulsW
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So my DH calls me on the way home from work and asks out of the blue "Are you ok?" I say ya, same as always. He says, "well I got a call from Renee (his sister) this afternoon, she said she got a call from their cousin, who had read your blog and was worried about you (me). So Renee read your blog and she wanted to know if you (me) were ok. What did you write that made them worry?" I say I was just venting, I am having a rough day and AF isn't helping matters.

My vent is this: Is has been two months next weekend since the loss and people just now want to be worried? They should have been worried when I was taking care of my other two children alone after the loss and could barely walk across the room! I am irritated because they couldn't even contact me, either through the blog, my email, or a call or text. I mean why did they have to go through DH? SERIOUSLY just now be concerned! WTF? I am just a tad bit past slightly to the right of irritated!

Thanks for listening and all your support and kind words over the last several LONG weeks. You gals are great people and I am sorry that we all have to be here together, but grateful for people who understand.

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  • Rawr08Rawr08
    Oh I'm sorry.  I totally know what you mean.  I hope the rest of your day is better.
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    I'm sorry.  Sometimes I just think people walk on eggshells around us, KWIM?  It's not that they don't care, they are just afraid to say anything.  (Hugs)
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  • jamilynn9jamilynn9 member
    Yeah, that sucks.  The fact that they weren't there when you needed them most and now they are afraid to approach you sucks.  Sorry.
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    I am so sorry ((((hugs))))

    Some people just don't have a clue!

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  • PrincessDi80PrincessDi80
    I am sorry hun, that sucks.  Sometimes people can't handle our emotional issues so they don't ask about them because they don't know how to respond. 
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    I'm so sorry... ((hugs))
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  • JulsWJulsW

    imagelrachelle80:
    I'm sure you just want to shake her and ask her where she was when you needed her, but I guess at least she's trying??

    This, but I can't understand because she (DH's sister) had a loss before her three boys, so on some level, I would certainly think she could have come up with an "I am so sorry for your loss". Right? I mean a family member who had been through a loss? I would def say at least an I am sorry to anybody that I knew who had a loss. Sorry, guess I am a little more irritated than I thought! :)

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