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If you BF and need to leave DD with sitter at night HELP!

littlebabyVlittlebabyV
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

For the first time I need to leave DD with a friend who is gonna watch her from 5pm to 11pm while we attend a ball that my dh has been invited to. I dont know how to avoid or make it easier for both friend and dd  at night.   She is used to fall sleep cuddled and bfing her. Once dd has to put her down and she cried out for 30-45min until finally gave up.  I feel bad for my friend and for her.  Do you have any tricks, techniques, or ideas to make the transition more "enjoyable"?

I dont know if i should make her very tired during the day so she is out at nigth or the opposite.

any suggestion??

Thanks

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Re: If you BF and need to leave DD with sitter at night HELP!

  • E CE C member

    I find that trying to keep DD awake for the sake of sleeping at night generally backfires.  She ends up over-tired and hysterical.

    I would write down your bedtime routine for your friend to follow.  Friend should still be able to cuddle her, just replace the nursing with a bottle (I assume you pump).

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  • teach2183teach2183 member
    Do you have some time between now and then?  I have DH very involved in the bed time routine.  All I do is feed her.  She eats last, then DH takes her to her crib.  I highly suggest having someone other than you put her down, it will make it easier for the sitter.
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  • jeffs_bakerjeffs_baker

    Don't try to keep dd up... she will just be an overtired mess for your friend.

    Go about your day like normal, and have your friend do dd's bedtime routine with her. Instead of nursing, she gets a bottle. I had to do this a few times, and my dd didn't like it, but she dealt with it. I usually come home to dd and my mom rocking in the glider and then I take over. There is no need to let dd cio.

     

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  • Bearbride05Bearbride05
    Just like pp said- keep to her normal routine and have your friend do her nighttime ritual, just substitute nursing for a bottle. Babies can be flexible if you just let them. DS will accept a different nighttime ritual from different people (i.e. he doesn't expect to be nursed when Grandma puts him down) He will allow DH or Grandma to put him down in ways he would never allow me to! So don't worry, things will be fine and have fun!
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  • 7/04Bride7/04Bride member
    I hope you have some time between now and then.  I recommend having DH try the routine with her with a bottle like your friend will do.  Try REALLY hard not to intervene if it's not going well.  It'll be fine - worst case scenario is you'll come home to find your friend still holding an awake baby.  Is DD comfortable with your friend?
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  • littlebabyVlittlebabyV

    Dh has never dealt with dd since she was born.  I have tried few times to let him put her to sleep and has not gone well so i intervene.  She does not know my friend very well but i have no choice. The times she has been around her she is happy like she is with anybody else.  More than anything I am just trying to diminish the crying that i am visualizing when the time comes after bathing for her to nurse ( eat) and then sleep.  She still does not sttn so thats another thing to add.  I am going to try to let him do more until the date ( 3 weeks from now) and pray for the best.

     

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