TTC After a Loss

I just caught my SIL..

charting...she just got married..

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  • Ugh.  I like to call these cases the "ticking timebombs." 

    I have 3 in my life, and every day I wait for the BFP explosion.  I know I shouldn't care, but I do, so suck it DH (and everyone else who thinks I am being ridiculous.)

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  • imageRunSchwartzRun:

    Ugh.  I like to call these cases the "ticking timebombs." 

    I have 3 in my life, and every day I wait for the BFP explosion.  I know I shouldn't care, but I do, so suck it DH (and everyone else who thinks I am being ridiculous.)

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  • A lot of people chart to avoid, though. My SIL and BIL are really devout Catholics and that's what they did.  Maybe that's the case?
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  • imageRunSchwartzRun:

    Ugh.  I like to call these cases the "ticking timebombs." 

    I have 3 in my life, and every day I wait for the BFP explosion.  I know I shouldn't care, but I do, so suck it DH (and everyone else who thinks I am being ridiculous.)

    That's a good way to put it.  I have a few in my life also, and I live in fear of their announcements.  I know it's not a race, so why does it feel that way!?

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  • in the last 3 (consecutive) weeks my 2 closest friends and baby sister have gotten married. i'm dreading the day that i find out one of them is pg. not that i won't be happy for them. i totally will. but...you know. i feel like it's only a matter of days until one of them speaks up..
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  • imagebbhalphen:
    A lot of people chart to avoid, though. My SIL and BIL are really devout Catholics and that's what they did.  Maybe that's the case?

    I really hope that's the case because the last thing you need in another FH SIL running around you. That would be complete and utter bullsh!t.

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  • imagebbhalphen:
    A lot of people chart to avoid, though. My SIL and BIL are really devout Catholics and that's what they did.  Maybe that's the case?

    I did think about that. I wonder.. I dont want to just ask her though.. or should i?

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    imagebbhalphen:
    A lot of people chart to avoid, though. My SIL and BIL are really devout Catholics and that's what they did.  Maybe that's the case?

    I did think about that. I wonder.. I dont want to just ask her though.. or should i?

    That depends, would you really want to know the answer? She very well may be trying, and it may be better to not even get into that conversation.

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    BFP #4 - Due 04.24.13
  • imageerinlovesdavid:
    imageRunSchwartzRun:

    Ugh.  I like to call these cases the "ticking timebombs." 

    I have 3 in my life, and every day I wait for the BFP explosion.  I know I shouldn't care, but I do, so suck it DH (and everyone else who thinks I am being ridiculous.)

    That's a good way to put it.  I have a few in my life also, and I live in fear of their announcements.  I know it's not a race, so why does it feel that way!?

    It feels like a race to me, too. I think because we'll be less hurt and reminded of our loss if we are expecting already. At least that's what I tell myself when I cringe when the phone rings and it's someone I fear is ready to announce another pregnancy.

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  • imagebbhalphen:
    A lot of people chart to avoid, though.Maybe that's the case?

     

    This.  I started charting to avoid right after we got married so I didn't have to take bcp because they gave me horrible migraines.

    I'm hoping for you that this is the case. 

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  • Now that the high season for weddings is winding down - we attended almost 10 weddings this summer - I am dreading the next wave of pregnancy announcements. I totally agree with Erin - I know it's not a race, but it def feels like it sometimes.

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  • I hope they are just charting to avoid. I went to a bunch of weddings this summer and I know I will start hearing about bfp's soon. Just hoping it's not till after the holidays which are hard enough for me. I just found out one friend (not one who just got married) is expecting twins and thats hard enough to hear.

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  • Oh jeez...You know she will be posting her bfp on fb  in a few months...GREEEEEEAT...UGH!
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  • imagebutterfly843:
    I hope they are just charting to avoid. I went to a bunch of weddings this summer and I know I will start hearing about bfp's soon. Just hoping it's not till after the holidays which are hard enough for me. I just found out one friend (not one who just got married) is expecting twins and thats hard enough to hear.

    This. Fortunately (wow, this is what has become of me, huh?), one couple won't be TTC since she's in med school and has yet to start residency and they live 4 hours apart from each other.  Plus she is training for another Iron Man.

    It IS a race to me too, because it is a race to get myself back to an excited, mentally-stable place, before those other people have never had their hearts broken this way end up even happier than they were to begin with.  Plus, a couple whose wedding party we were in this summer is planning to TTC already, and she was the person I told of BFP before DH even (shifts and FMU don't always work), and that seems like so long ago, so if they get KU before us, that shows how much time has passed and we're still not KU (for good).

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