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NBR: anyone move to SoCal & then back to Seattle?
I am a Seattle native. I have lived in San Diego for 9 years. Love the weather and the good friends we have made here, don't love the crowds, traffic, tourist season and shallow people. My entire family is in WA. DH's in New Mexico and he doesn't want to move back. Now that we have DD, I feel so homesick. But... I really worry about adjusting to the weather again since I have been away from it so long. Anyone make this transition successfully? TIA!
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Re: NBR: anyone move to SoCal & then back to Seattle?
I just moved back to Seattle after 3 years in San Diego. I love it here, this is home for me (lived here for 20 years before moving to SD). I actually missed the weather up here occasionally. It's just so... boring? in San Diego. Nice boring but always the same. I also felt claustrophobic in the summer down there. Too hot to go hiking, the mountains were so far away. And I missed the water up here. Yes, there is ocean down there, but we like to sail and I missed all the island destinations we have here. So I was incredibly homesick and am now so happy to be home.
There are times I miss the San Diego weather, but right now we are having a beautiful fall and I had forgotten how much I loved this. DH still works for a SD company so he goes down about 4-6 times a year and I'll usually go down and meet him for the weekend, and get our SoCal fix. So yes, I've made the transition successfully. I do miss the Mexican food down there though...
Hope that helps.
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I went to school in SoCal - then was over seas for a period of time, then in Idaho - then to Seattle.
The adjustement took some time - but I was tired of one season.
You WILL adjust if you elect to move but I will say this - do some DEEP DEEP soul searching before you pack your bags, give your notice at work, etc.
What do you miss? Do you miss things rooted in REALITY or fantasy? Is your family (or whoever/whatever you're missing) really as supportive as you imagine them to be?
You've spent nearly a decade building a support system, network, jobs, etc....do you think the sacrifice of moving again to "see" if what you think you miss is really waiting for you here worth the risk of completely having to start over?
What's your contingency plan if you get up here, give up everything you've got in SD and then you are not happy? Do you own in SD? Selling now is almost like paying someone to take your house....especially down there.
I only say this because I've spent the better part of my adult life "running" and moving to find Utopia and the things I was looking for, weren't in geography or any set of people. My family made huge huge promises "if you just move back..." then when we did, they had nothing to do with us. Certainly less so than they did when we lived 2000 miles away. They didn't visit, they didn't babysit, they didn't want to share holidays (unless we traveled to them or fit into their already set plans - I mean after all I'd been away for years and their traditions and routines had changed and morphed without me being considered part of the plan).
In the process, I've built and given up many many awesome friendships. Now, my very best friend is 2000 miles away and we're living our lives totally separately. I have other very very good friends staggered across the nation - no central source for support.
I know you asked about weather but being someone who has done this a few times, I thought I'd add the other part. My experience says, "if you're nervous about something as trivial as the weather and that isn't trumped by 20 other things that wouldn't make you think twice about rain, there might be other situations to consider."
Good luck! If you want to chat, feel free to PM me
I?m a SD native and have been here for 9 years. I hated the SD weather. Boring! No trees. Ugly ?mountains.? No lakes or rivers. Too much military for a woman who was single and did not want to be a military wife.
I think the transition was easy for me because I wanted it so bad.
I grew up in Santa Monica, and moved to NorCal for College (my family sill lives in So Cal) - Moved to Seattle, but instantly hated the weather, stayed there nearly 6 years, and moved BACK to California last year.
It's a hard transition, but mostly because I have kids and husband and MIL with me, so EVERYONE needed to adjust. But I am SO HAPPY to be out of Seattle weather. I miss Seattle, but do NOT miss that weather.
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Thank you, you raised some really good points - some I have thought of, and some not. I do fear that I've built up the move back to be something its not... I think the thing that keeps tugging on my heart is that my parents are getting older, they are divorced and neither has a ton of $$ so they just can't come down that often. I am so sad at the thought of them missing seeing DD grow up. You've given me a lot of food for thought, so thanks again!
I *just* moved to San Diego a few weeks ago for my new job. So far its pleasant. I get the feeling that it's going to feel like September 2010 for as long as we live here.
What area do you live it? We're near UCSD.
We're near Balboa Park - close to downtown. Feel free to PM me if you need any tips on local stuff