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Questions - how long before you told work?
How long did you wait until telling people at work that you were pregnant? And how long do you think you could have gone before people would have noticed on their own?
I just found out I'm pregnant with my first and I'm curious about how long I can push it. I would prefer not to tell anyone until Thanksgiving, but I also don't want people guessing that I'm pregnant before I tell my boss. I will be at about week 14 by then.
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Re: Questions - how long before you told work?
Same here. Some people were really clueless and didn't notice until I was almost to 3rd tri (or maybe they just thought I was getting fat).
With my first I was 14 weeks when I told them, but I was already starting to show, and my boss already had figured it out.
With my second, because DS was only a few months old, I was only 6-8 weeks along when I told them. I started showing really early with both.
I didn't tell my manager til around 14-15 weeks, I wanted to wait until 2nd trimester. I wasn't showing at all.
In retrospect, I wish I had waited this long. I told at 12 weeks. Some people had guessed, but were respectfully waiting for me to tell them.
The thing is, once you tell people, you are "the pregnant lady" and EVERYONE wants to ask how you're feeling, tell you that you're not showing, tell you what it was like when they were pregnant, blah blah blah.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
I was horrendously sick starting at week 4. I ended up telling my boss when I was 5 weeks with DS. With this one, I told her early as well. We're rolling out a huge project that I'm leading a few weeks before my due date, so I felt like we needed to talk about it.
That being said, my boss is extremely supportive and understanding. She has two young kids as well, so it was an ideal situation. If things were different, I would have waited.
I told at 17 weeks. I thought I was starting to have trouble hiding it but people were still surprised when I told. I kind of popped at 20 weeks and started wearing maternity clothes then.
Our last pg, which we lost at 11.5 weeks, I hadn't told work yet, and I was very glad. It was nice to go somewhere and not have people looking at me sympathetically or asking how I was doing.