No. Not because I wouldn't love to give someone that gift but because I can't handle being pregnant.
If I could be guaranteed a good pregnancy, then I would. If I knew 100%, I wouldn't end up with HG, pre-e, and all of this, I would. Since that's not possible, I can't.
JinglesChic:Only for certain people. It's not even the giving up the baby aspect, I think the recovery of getting my body back/permanent changes really took a toll on me and how I view myself.
I hate being pregnant so I would do it for only a few people. It would be major sacrifice for me. I would be happy to give them their baby though.
JaysonandKristin:I offered to do it for my aunt, but they decided to go with a "stranger." They ended up not even going through with it, but if it ever came around again, I'd totally do it.
My sister and I were just talking about this yesterday. My aunt (LO's godmother) - has had 4 non-viable PGs - the baby never has a HB. I was saying now that I have had a LO and experienced how amazing it is - I could probably do it for her. It would be very hard to give the baby up - but his godparents would be amazing parents and it breaks my heart that they have never been able to get PG. Other than that - my sister and a couple very close friends - maybe, it depends on the situation. I could never do it for a total stranger - it was too hard on my body.
I used to think I could do it for my younger sister if she needed me to, but after having two kids, no. The wear and tear on my body makes me really question having another kid for our family, let alone someone else's. Plus, I had a c/s this last time, and my first priority is to have as many healthy kids as we want (possibly one more) and then be done and hope my body still *mostly* works right.
And then there's the whole question of whether I could actually give up a baby I'd carried -- nope. The only thing that makes pregnancy worthwhile is getting to take home our babies.
Now that I'm raising my own kids, I've also realized that I don't think I could gracefully handle a family member parenting a child I had carried. I just think I'd have a really hard time dealing with differing parenting decisions and not feeling some sense of parenthood to that child.
But it's a moot point anyway, since my sis is KU!
Maybe, the only people I would be willing to do it for already have a baby each and one has another one on the way. I kinda feel like, I would have done it for them, but since they have one....they have one. The other three people I would have done it for probably won't be ready to have kids by the time I'm 40 and I won't do it after 40 for anyone...not even myself.
I want to say that I would. In theory I would love to do that for someone especially someone I was very close to.
That being said I would know that I carried that child which would make me have a deep connection and that would be difficult.
But I think I would probably say yes.