PSA: your vagina and head are not that far apart.

outnumbered · October 2010

I read the post below and saw that quite a few husbands are going to stand by your head and not watch their child being born. Most likely your husband is going to be asked to hold your leg during pushing, you will be spread eagle, and you might be sitting up while pushing. He is going to see your vagina and he is going to see a baby come out. It is messy, but amazing. If he is a man and not a 12 year old he will still find you sexy and beautiful.

ETA: Obviously, if your husband passes out because he does not like the sight of blood this post is not meant for you

hisbabybear · October 2010

My mom was in the room with me so she held one of my legs but yes, my head was basically bent down to my vagina. Ive never felt more flexible in my life. Everyone saw everything.

"If he is a man and not a 12 year old he will still find you sexy and beautiful" ... best part of this post.

I totally agree. Yes

yourmom5309 · October 2010

I had a male nurse who may be weighed 140 lbs holding one of my legs. I thought I was going to break him.

TiffanyTheMom · October 2010

hahahaha... But I do agree. Your head is what, 3-4ft or less from the delivery site? Unless you have a c/s and there's a curtain, he's going to see something. Don't let your DH watch youtube videos of natural delivery, either. It will gross him out because that's not his wife's cooch and not his baby coming out.

leneae10 · October 2010

totally agree. DH saw me deliver our twins vaginally close up and he wants me ALLLLLLLLLLLLLL the time still. If not, your DH needs to grow up!

DesignsOnYou · October 2010

To me, this falls under the category of once you go through it, you realize it's not that big of a deal.

Prior to giving birth, you worry about pooping on the table, your husband no longer being attracted to you, etc. etc. After the fact, you realize how stupid those worries were.

My husband intended to help catch the baby but he was permanently stationed behind me rubbing my back at my request. I couldn't let him move b/c it was the only thing that helped with the pain. Also, I gave birth on a birthing stool so it was hard to see anything anyway.

Molluskwrangler · October 2010

I'm not worried about him not wanting to have sex with me, it would take a lot more then that. I don't want to see or know what's happening, poop, fluids etc, and I know he will give me a play by play if he can see it all lol.

ohootw · October 2010

Well, some people can't stand blood. My husband is one of the strongest men alive, trust me. I'm just saying that I don't think they should be "required" to be in the delivery room, or marked "a 12 year old". The whole time I was in labor, my husband was as white as a sheet, and he never saw "down there", it simply made him sick that I was in pain. He was never asked to hold my leg, because his mom was there for me for that part. It doesn't have anything to do with him not finding me sexy because my vagina is spread as big as a basketball, he just can't handle seeing my blood. He passed smooth out when I had to have blood drawn in the ER back in February. My husband is no less of a man or not as strong in my eyes because he doesn't want to see. I don't care to see it either, I was asked if I wanted a mirror, and I said no. Does that make me any less of a mother, nope.

Ivana_Stolichnaya · October 2010

My husband was squeamish about the idea of it but once the game started he was right there in the mix of things. Oh and my mom, MIL, dad and younger brother also stayed around for the show. Not the original plan but they were so excited and I didn't have it in me to kick their asses out.

kateweave · October 2010

so funny. I totally agree!

yourmom5309 · October 2010

DesignsOnYou:

To me, this falls under the category of once you go through it, you realize it's not that big of a deal.

Prior to giving birth, you worry about pooping on the table, your husband no longer being attracted to you, etc. etc. After the fact, you realize how stupid those worries were.

My husband intended to help catch the baby but he was permanently stationed behind me rubbing my back at my request. I couldn't let him move b/c it was the only thing that helped with the pain. Also, I gave birth on a birthing stool so it was hard to see anything anyway.

So true!

psychobillymama · October 2010

I dont think it makes my DH any less of a man. It is a beautiful thing and if you husband wants to watch it then thats his preverence. Everyone is different so you cant make judgements.

on_the_move · October 2010

I didn't even think to ask DH not to watch our son being born. I kind of wish I could have watched. This time I am going to ask if I can have a mirror. DH sex drive has not been effected by this at all!

pawcall · October 2010

ohootw:
Well, some people can't stand blood. My husband is one of the strongest men alive, trust me. I'm just saying that I don't think they should be "required" to be in the delivery room, or marked "a 12 year old". The whole time I was in labor, my husband was as white as a sheet, and he never saw "down there", it simply made him sick that I was in pain. He was never asked to hold my leg, because his mom was there for me for that part. It doesn't have anything to do with him not finding me sexy because my vagina is spread as big as a basketball, he just can't handle seeing my blood. He passed smooth out when I had to have blood drawn in the ER back in February. My husband is no less of a man or not as strong in my eyes because he doesn't want to see. I don't care to see it either, I was asked if I wanted a mirror, and I said no. Does that make me any less of a mother, nope.

Yes

outnumbered · October 2010

psychobillymama:
I dont think it makes my DH any less of a man. It is a beautiful thing and if you husband wants to watch it then thats his preverence. Everyone is different so you cant make judgements.

I am not judging. I am just noting that it is almost impossible that your DH will see nothing and if he subsequently finds you less sexy then he is not a man.

lovemytannerman · October 2010

Mine was there for all the action with our son, he did fine.

I'm having a c-section this time and he said he's not gonna look cause he doesn't want to see my guts. ( I think there is a curtain anyway?) I thought that was funny cause he's a firefighter so it's not like he's never seen blood and guts! I can't blame him though..i'm sure there is a curtain there for a reason, I sure wouldn't want to see a c-section either!

IncogNeato · October 2010

My husband turns green when they take his blood... I just want him conscious for the birth of his child. If he has to sit in a chair behind me in order to be lucid when she arrives, he will. If he wants to look, he can. But, if he chooses to look and then passes out, I will kill him.

bam0219 · October 2010

I totally agree! When I read that post it shocked me! It never even crossed my mind that a man would not want to watch their child being born, unless of course, they couldn't stand the sight of blood. My husband has watched both times I have given birth and trust me, it has not done anything to our sex life!

Hyfagal · October 2010

Me not wanting him to see my stretched out, bleeding vag, with a head coming out of it doesn't make him less of a man. Birth can be very symbolic and emotional but it's not butterflies and rainbows. He can stand and face the head of my bed and turn to meet his daughter when she's out.

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