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kimilane · October 2010

Is it wrong of me to think that DH should learn to be a bit more considerate of other people? This thought occurs to me a lot, but the most recent example I have for this question is this:

I order groceries online and DH picks them up on his way home from work. The service we use only allows a certain number of orders to be booked to be ready per 1/2 hour slot (meaning only x orders will have a pick up time of 3-3:30 and so on). Anyway, tomorrow is our big U/S and the appointment is at 9am. That means DH won't be in the office until at least 11am and he's already told me that they're short-staffed this week so he can't take the day off. When I asked him what time he wanted groceries to be ready tomorrow he said "Noon." I told him I wouldn't ask for that ready time because it's inconsiderate to the other people that really could pick up their groceries by noon since we'd be taking up a spot in that time slot knowing they won't get picked up until (at the earliest) 2. He thinks I'm crazy and says if he can get off at 2 and the groceries aren't ready then I can go pick them up and pay for that gas.

Now...am I being crazy for thinking this is inconsiderate?? I guess I'd just like to think that my daughter will learn to think of other people (even if she can't see them or know them) when she's doing things.

dbertagni · October 2010

Since you SAHM, why don't you pick up the groceries or shop in store anyway? My husband would think I was inconsiderate if he worked all day and then I asked him to go do that, so no, I don't think your husband is being rude. Honestly, those are my responsibilities as a SAHM.

kaysi82 · October 2010

he's right.

not inconsiderate.

kaysi82 · October 2010

although, i agree with dbert. i work full time and still do the grocery shopping myself.

but i realize everyone's situation is different and obviously you are doing what works for you.

kimilane · October 2010

dbertagni:
Since you SAHM, why don't you pick up the groceries or shop in store anyway? My husband would think I was inconsiderate if he worked all day and then I asked him to go do that, so no, I don't think your husband is being rude. Honestly, those are my responsibilities as a SAHM.

We only have 1 car and shopping online allows us to keep impulse buys to basically non-existent. The grocery store is between his work and our house. Literally, it's on his way to his work so it also keeps us from having to make a separate trip for groceries which cuts down on the amount of gas used.

starz080 · October 2010

I don't think he's being inconsiderate.

mrsmikey · October 2010

Does that happen often that they're not ready when they're supposed to be? So the earliest he can be there is 2? Are all the slots after 12 full? Why don't you do a 1:30 slot? I get what you're saying, so I'd try to take a slot as close as possible to when you think he's actually going to pick up. I don't really see it as inconsiderate really, but if they don't always have them ready by the time then I'd probably schedule them early too.

raceyrae · October 2010

mrsmikey:
Does that happen often that they're not ready when they're supposed to be? So the earliest he can be there is 2? Are all the slots after 12 full? Why don't you do a 1:30 slot? I get what you're saying, so I'd try to take a slot as close as possible to when you think he's actually going to pick up. I don't really see it as inconsiderate really, but if they don't always have them ready by the time then I'd probably schedule them early too.

I agree with Mikey.

Given you have one car and its on his way to work, I think it makes sense to have him pick up groceries on the way home, especially if they're already ready for him to grab.

kimilane · October 2010

mrsmikey:
Does that happen often that they're not ready when they're supposed to be? So the earliest he can be there is 2? Are all the slots after 12 full? Why don't you do a 1:30 slot? I get what you're saying, so I'd try to take a slot as close as possible to when you think he's actually going to pick up. I don't really see it as inconsiderate really, but if they don't always have them ready by the time then I'd probably schedule them early too.

No, usually they're ready early. At the latest they're ready when you request for them to be done.

And thank you to the women that stayed on point. I told DH I posted this and that apparently I'm just being overly sensitive about the "other people" in this situation and that I'm sorry.

dbertagni · October 2010

Well it makes more sense now that you explained it!

becki777 · October 2010

dbertagni:
Since you SAHM, why don't you pick up the groceries or shop in store anyway? My husband would think I was inconsiderate if he worked all day and then I asked him to go do that, so no, I don't think your husband is being rude. Honestly, those are my responsibilities as a SAHM.

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