i feel a little bad even saying it out loud

bridexcite · October 2010

But as LO's arrival nears i found myself getting a little blue last night thinking about it being the end of it just being DH and I.

Please do not get me wrong i am thrilled about LO and we have been wanting this for some time AND we are So excited to meet him.

It just dawned on my that it is sort of the end of an era comming up here in the next few weeks.

Mrs.Johns · October 2010

I feel the same way. I think it's normal.

Soap1 · October 2010

That is totally normal! ENJOY these last few weeks! You will look back on all the stuff you did and miss it. Just last week I turned to DH and said, "Remember when we could just go out? Like, we want to go eat sushi for dinner and we would just GO?"

You guys need to go see as many movies and go out to as many dinners as you can right now! Before you have to worry about sitters!

daenikoffre · October 2010

I don't know if this is related, but I feel myself getting clingy with DH. I seem to always want physical contact and much more affection and being cozy together than normal. He's fine with it.. kinda pokes fun at me for it, but, I just feel like I don't get enough time with him even though all his time while not at work is spent with me.

Maybe it's my version of your feeling.

It also kinda bums me out that we can't do much for our anniversary coming up since we're saving up for baby things and don't really have extra cash w/me not working anymore.

happilyeverafter2005 · October 2010

Don't feel bad for saying that. It's a big change and adjustment. You will both be great though!!

SpartanChick88 · October 2010

I've had the same thought. It's the end of being able to go to a movie last minute, of being able to hop in the car and just go. But at the same time I'm excited to introduce a new generation to the fun that life can bring. Just because it will take a little more planning doesn't mean it will be any less fun! Even more so once little girl is old enough to understand - we will take her to get a Christmas tree but she won't care until next year.

I'm looking forward to the wonder that we will see on her little face when we bring a tree into the house. And the excitement she will have when we carve her first pumpkin and she gets her little hands all squishy in pumpkin guts. It's going to be different but great!

CinemaGoddess · October 2010

Oh yeah. I've felt this way for awhile now. DH and I have made a list of things we want to do as a couple before the girls get here. The majority of the list is movies we want to see and restaurants we want to go to.

I do get bummed when I'm sitting on the couch cuddling with the cats and watching movies. I know that three weeks from now I'll be completely sleep deprived and I may not want to watch movies or cuddle with the cats.

danienross · October 2010

you are not alone! my hubby spent almost our whole first year of marriage in iraq (i saw him 45 days total the first year, counting our wedding day. plus he missed our first anniversary). now i'm due just nine days before our second wedding anniversary (this was a surprise pregnancy as i was on BC). as excited as i am to become a mother, i too am sad that my time with my husband has been so limited and soon it will never be "just us" again.

*edited for spelling*

wife1014 · October 2010

Totally normal. I am actually feeling it even now with us adding to our family again. I highly recommend searching and finding an amazing babysitter.

juliedooley · October 2010

I feel this too, on and off. I go between "OMG, I'll never be free to do what I want again!" and "OMG, I can't wait for us to have our own little family!" It's such a huge adjustment that it's hard to absorb, I think. I'm trying to let myself sleep in as much as I want while I can these last few weeks! And cuddle with DH a ton too.

damensmummy · October 2010

I too felt this way with DS but now can't imagine our family as just the two of us! Yes things change but gradually you start to make plans for date nights and stuff. We found adding a little one to our nest helped bond us even more!

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ktwilley · October 2010

I feel the same way. I love my DH and love my alone time with him. Of my friends who have kids that I've told this to they say that they felt the same way, but that kids are so awesome that it more than makes up for the loss. I'm very excited to meet LO too, and we've been waiting 3 years for him, but I think it will still be a huge adjustment not being just me and DH all of the time.

candr09 · October 2010

I feel the same, I think its normal.

Mommysaurus123 · October 2010

DH and I feel the same way sometimes. I think it's normal... this is the end of a lot of your freedoms. Can't wait for our little guy to arrive, but at the same time, I will miss being able to just get up and go with DH whenever we feel like it.

Enjoy the last few weeks!!!

SimoneSays22 · October 2010

bridexcite:
But as LO's arrival nears i found myself getting a little blue last night thinking about it being the end of it just being DH and I.
Please do not get me wrong i am thrilled about LO and we have been wanting this for some time AND we are So excited to meet him.
It just dawned on my that it is sort of the end of an era comming up here in the next few weeks.

I could have written this. I agree with PP that this is a normal feeling.

jessie395 · October 2010

I feel the same about becoming a family of four. My DD is 9, so she's been the only child for a long time. But I'm sure once LO gets here, everything will fall into place Smile

BeachM · October 2010

I feel the same way. DH and I are going out to dinner at a nice restaurant this weekend and we both are kind of thinking of it as our "last date." Obviously we will go on dates again, but this just feels like it's marking the closing of one chapter before the next one opens.

However, I am adamant that we will go see Harry Potter in December! My mom has already agreed to babysit for whatever weekend night we decide on.

yourmom5309 · October 2010

That is totally normal. I cried several times before I had DD. The last nine months before DD was really great for DH and me. Now that I am about to have another child, I sometimes get down about the special time I have with DD coming to an end. But if it is anything like last time, the end results are amazing.

katymcf · October 2010

I am sure all of these emotions are soooo normal. It's good that we have this board to talk about it. I have been a mess of emotions, especially over the past few weeks.

hewinked · October 2010

After we had DD, I remember just sitting in the hospital and crying to DH that things between us were going to change and it wouldn't be *us* anymore. It's totally normal to feel that way. I definitely miss just going out with DH whenever we want, without it having to be this whole deal of finding a sitter, can we go now cuz DD needs to nap, etc. Shoot, I miss just running to the store to get a soda! Even that takes planning out.

Now I think, I'm never going to be able to go out and get lunch with DD anymore cuz I'll have two kids and it will be so much harder. All these feelings are normal.

BananaBlitz · October 2010

I'm the exact same way... I even started to tear up just now and emailed H telling him we're going on a dinner date tonight.

Temp984666312503071 · October 2010

You are normal.

When my DD was born we had been married for 6 years and together for almost 12. That is a LONG time to get "set in our ways". We had our routine and loved our get-up-and-go lifestyle.

But it is just so much fun having her. While we don't go do some of the things we used to, we are doing so many NEW things. There is nothing like re-exploring the simple things through the eyes of your child. Last weekend we went to a farm and she helped pick a pumpkin, played with other kids in the corn box, got to see baby animals, and tried pumpkin pie for the first time. She had a BLAST and we just loved watching her. It is truly amazing.

So enjoy your last few weeks as a party of two. But I can promise you that things are so much fun as a party of 3 .

ju.vanderw · October 2010

I think most of us feel that way! Before DD came, I was really bummed that it would be the end of "us", and that I'd even have to compete with DD for DH's time and attention. Which made me feel like a really bad mom.

But once DD got here, it totally wasn't that way! It's okay to be worried/blue. Things will be okay once your LO gets here!

Mrslove78 · October 2010

Having a LO sure changed the relationship between the two of us! Not in a bad way, it is just so different. We don't touch as much, but we spend more time together, and have more fun.

MissyNY · October 2010

Normal!!

And, imo, it's good you are realizing that things will change. I think people who are in denial of that are the ones who have the greatest challenges ahead. It'll be ok. You'll see.

best wishes!

girgirgir · October 2010

My husband and I are handling this feeling by thinking of Baby as another adventure for us. We started dating when we were so young (22), that it feels like we've really grown up together over the last eight years and become adults - grad school, moving, jobs, buying a house, etc. We high-five whenever we do something great, even if it's as simple as cleaning the house together or as boring as reviewing our budget.

We've tackled everything together as a team, and we're looking at children the same way: another awesome thing we get to do together. This baby feels like a love letter we're writing to each other.

eknoll33 · October 2010

This post makes me kind of sad. My pregnancy was a BIG surprise and about 4 months into it, my husband and I decided we needed to get a divorce - we couldn't raise the baby in a miserable home - we'd rather her have 2 happy, but separate homes.

I wish I had a DH whom I felt this way about. I wish I was bringing this little baby into a home with parents who loved each other.

So, for me - please enjoy this time together. I will live vicariously through all of you and your happy marriages! Smile

Warm wishes,

EKB

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