Pregnancy can be used as defense for murder, right? (venting)

normajeane6126 · October 2010

Because tonight I am going to fvcking kill SO's brother if he does not STFU. Mind you, this is the guy that leaves dishes in the sink for WEEKS, doesn't clean up after himself or his dog (who sh*ts all over the place, because he doesn't walk her), smokes weed in the apartment, and has a tendency to make threats towards SO because he can't control his temper.

I'm sitting here, bumping, minding my own business, waiting for SO to get home from work. Enter the doucher:

Him: Kay, there's dishes in the sink that need to be done within the hour or I'm putting them on the floor in your room.

Um, excuse me? So I said SO a text warning him that if doucher continues to make threats, he will not be coming home to a very happy household.

And SO calls me to tell me to do dishes and quit complaining!

Am I over-reacting? Probably. Should I just do this dishes? Probably. But FFS, would it kill you to back me up, SO?

summerjenny · October 2010

I don't think you are overreacting. He sounds pretty annoying. Why is he so interested in you washing dishes if he never does his? Good luck!

jteneback · October 2010

Why is he living with you guys? Is this going to change before the baby comes?

normajeane6126 · October 2010

jteneback:
Why is he living with you guys? Is this going to change before the baby comes?

It's a whole ridiculously long story, but in a nutshell, SO's mom is also on our lease (she no longer lives here though), and therefore, has allowed him to stay, since she still helps with rent.

I pray every day that it will change before baby comes, and SO swears it will... but I guess we'll see.

GenaBoBenaWife · October 2010

Justifiable homicide. Since becoming pregnant, it occurred to me that there aren't many pregnant women in the news being accused of murder lol.

mrandmrssimeone · October 2010

Justifiable homicide, I would not do the dishes...you should pick them up and put them on the floor in his room...UGH I'm mad for you!!

flamingos2010 · October 2010

holy lord. I don't know what I'm more irritated at.. your DH for not backing you up, the brother, for being him ...or you, for thinking that you are over-reacting. I have no words except I'm sorry you are living in this type of situation.

AlaskanKisses · October 2010

I would start by telling him to STFU and if he wants something to eat on then he can do the Fing dishes himself or go buy some paper plates that only he eats on. He should not be telling you what to do at all, that is not any one's place, if this were me I would flush his stash, break all the dishes that are needing to be washed, on the floor in his bedroom and on bed and tell him to STFU or sleep very lightly and not eat anything else in the house because it may have rat poison in it.... Also, why not try to find a friend to have his dog, say oh it needed to be let out so I let it out. Sorry, I don't like *** on my floor.

this is JMO and what I would do, but I don't take much ***. If your SO is so concerned with having the dishes done for his family then maybe he needs to do them. Good luck, put your foot down woman!

Bree4011 · October 2010

I know this wasn't the point of your original post, but you have got to get him out of your place if you can.

Obviously it will not be sanitary for a baby to be in a place where dog *** is not picked up (you know if the brother picks it up, he doesn't actually clean the floor)

You can not have weed in your household. You're putting your baby at risk, your putting your custody of your child at risk if he gets busted.

If you plan to breastfeed, having a roommate like that will make it complete hell for you.

My husband let his brother come stay with us "for just a visit" when DD was only 2 weeks old. He brought pot into our house, and it was so hard to breastfeed, he was always walking in while my boobs were out bringing random people over. I felt like a prisoner in my room. So not cool. He did not stay for very long.

mne0617 · October 2010

I couldn't agree more, working w/ family court, if SO's brother is that careless he needs out. I see children removed all the time because its considered an injurious environment. Not only that, but breathing in the smoke/residue has led to many false positives.

You are totally not over-reacting. On the dog s***. Get a napkin, put it on his bed, under his covers. Maybe then he will learn.

I see you have a 2 yr old too, the feces could make her sick too. Ugh, I am annoyed for you!

michavid · October 2010

I would let him have it - not ok, even if you weren't pregnant.

The most disturbing aspect of this is him smoking in the apartment, that needs to stop like, yesterday.

oolalaa21 · October 2010

I dont mean to offend you at all or overstep my bounds but it does not seem to me like you are in a healthy situation period. YOU ARE PREGNANT!!!! YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR AND HAVE ANOTHER HUMAN BEING INSIDE OF YOU!!!! You should not have to deal with the stress of shitty people nor should you have to inhale their second hand smoke of any kind. And let me tell you, if my husband EVER suggested that I stop being a baby and just do the dishes/laundry/whatever, he'd be served with divorce papers the following day. That is no way for someone to speak to or treat the woman that is carrying their child let alone another human!!!!! Take a serious look at your relationship and situation and demand some respect.

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