Crappy day

butterfly843 · September 2010

Just found out one of my friends is expecting twins. She keeps telling me I will have a baby soon and maybe twins because I'm meant to have twins. I told her how high risk that would be and she doesn't get it. After telling me today she is expecting she told me I need to go to church and pray more and it will happen for me. She has had a few losses so you think she would understand, but she doesn't seem to understand how sad I still am over my losses. For now I'm just hiding her on fb.

KelinandKevin · September 2010

Wow, gee wiz. I wish it was as easy as praying. That just makes my blood boil. It comes back to that whole religious thing. Laura.... hold me back before I turn into the hulk or something..........

piedpiper07 · September 2010

That is ridiculous for someone who has had losses! Plenty of people pray lots and still have losses so WTF. That is just plain awful.

I hate when people get pg and forget the pain they felt before, and become all AW-y about their pregnancy.

GuppyAmy · September 2010

I'm sorry... I had a best friend who I hardly speak to now because she just doesn't get it. It's just easier. I hope one day we can be friends again.

BabyMimi · September 2010

After my best friend (the most awesome and sympathetic person in the world) got pregnant on the first try and then proceeded to tell me that if I relax, it will happen, I've come to the conclusion that no matter how awesome a person is and no matter how much they understand your pain, once they are pregnant they sort of forget about all that. Everything becomes happiness and to be honest, I am kind of jealous for that kind of bliss. I don't think they mean to hurt us with their words and actions. I think hiding her for now is a great idea and I also think that being honest when talking to her is called for. If she says to pray again, tell her that you know she means well but that kind of advice just upsets you and you would appreciate her not saying things like that to you anymore.

ColindaP · September 2010

I'm so sorry hon. What a crappy thing for her to say.

dondraandluis · September 2010

Sorry you had a crappy day and you have to put up with such insensitivity (((hugs)))

butterfly843 · September 2010

Thanks I just hid her, I figure if she is acting this way at only 6 weeks along she will just get worse. I'm just so tired of my friends not understanding how hard this is for me. Especially when I feel like it's never going to happen.

jen629 · September 2010

I am so sorry

Clerk9 · September 2010

BabyMimi:
After my best friend (the most awesome and sympathetic person in the world) got pregnant on the first try and then proceeded to tell me that if I relax, it will happen, I've come to the conclusion that no matter how awesome a person is and no matter how much they understand your pain, once they are pregnant they sort of forget about all that. Everything becomes happiness and to be honest, I am kind of jealous for that kind of bliss. I don't think they mean to hurt us with their words and actions. I think hiding her for now is a great idea and I also think that being honest when talking to her is called for. If she says to pray again, tell her that you know she means well but that kind of advice just upsets you and you would appreciate her not saying things like that to you anymore.

This! (Couldn't have put it better myself.)

I'm so sorry your friend is too fogged up with happy hormones to relate to you right now. Sounds like what you're doing has the best chance of preserving your friendship. Hope it works.