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I have an overly attached little boy

Mrs.ClariCMrs.ClariC
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So as you know, Abraham started daycare three weeks ago (he's gone 2 full weeks and 2 days). He still cries when I drop him off!! Actually, he cries when we're like 4 blocks away (my kid has a better sense of direction than my 18yr old brother lol). When we get there he cries and clings on to me and the lady literally has to rip him off of me. Then he won't eat there, he'll just drink his sippy with milk and eat yogurt (though she does feed them quite early and he eats a big breakfast before going so I don't blame him for not eating), and he refuses to nap there too. I pick him up at 2pm (kids start nap at 12) and he goes to sleep when we get home (if I'm lucky, some days he refuses-I think he's scared I'll leave him??). Anyway, is this normal?!? I know the kid is totally attached to me, it's crystal clear by the way he acts, but I didn't realize HOW bad it was until now.  It breaks my heart every time I leave him crying (the lady calls me 2min later to let me know he stopped crying and to tell me what and who he's playing with- which she doesn't have to do, but thank God she does, for my sanity!). I'm glad I started him now because I need him to be okay with it before his brother gets here but it makes me so sad:(  Has anybody's child done this?? How long do you think it'll take him to fully adjust to drop offs?

 

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  • GenaAndJoshGenaAndJosh
    I can't speak on the daycare subject, as Spencer very rarely cries when he is dropped off.  However, I can speak of the attchment issue, and that Spencer would crawl back into my womb if there was enough room! 

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  • Mrs.ClariCMrs.ClariC
    lol do you think it's just their age then and that they'll get over it? I just keep thinking about what's going to happen when I have to carry another baby and he has to just watch. I wish I could help him detach a little, but daycare is the only thing I can think of and obviously that's not going as well as I hoped.
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  • MrsJOSEnADRIMrsJOSEnADRI

    Usually, 2 weeks is about the time it takes for kindergarteners who have never been to pre-school to adjust.  So, I'm assuming that with a younger child it could take longer. 

    IDK if they already do this at the daycare, but make sure that they have some kind of distraction/activity as soon as he gets there and make the goodbye process short.  The longer you hold him or try to console him, the more he'll cry. 

    It does sound like lunch and naptime may be too early for him.  Talk to them to see if he can eat his lunch a little later or maybe give him breakfast earlier.  Also, if you prefer for him to nap when he gets home, maybe they can accommodate for him to do another activity during naptime. 

    IDK how strict the daycare is, but considering how young he is they should be able to work with you to make the transition smoother. 

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  • AlbahAlbah member
    i agree with Adri, those are great tips to help him adjust. I'm not too experienced in the daycare dilemma as Big E has not gone to daycare but I can tell you that the attachment is completely normal. Big E has been super attached to me, especially now that baby is here. It's terrible because there are moments that I have to be with baby (i.e. breastfeed) and that's when he wants the most attention. I just try to keep him occupied with things he likes such as watching a Jack Johnson music video. 
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  • Pats&AdriPats&Adri

    Although I'm not a mommy (YET!), I am a Kindergarten teacher... so I think the suggestions these ladies have given you are great. I think some children take longer to transition into daycare/school. I agree with PP though. I think the the goodbye process should be quick and that there should be something to distract him once he arrives at daycare. It definitely is true that the longer you take to hug and say goodbye, the child usually cries and gets even more upset.

    Good Luck! I can't imagine how it must feel to leave your baby!! Embarrassed

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  • Mrs.ClariCMrs.ClariC
    When I drop him off it's usually very fast. I kind of start saying bye as soon as I get him out of the car. Once he gets in there all the kids (there's only 4 other kids) go up to him with toys and the lady takes him and entertains him. I'm going to talk to her tomorrow about feeding him later though, that would be good, Thanks for the great tips!! I hope this doesn't last too much longer but it helps to know that older kids take about 2 weeks.
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