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christenmchristenm
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Hi, I've never posted before but would like to find out some information on adoption.  I recently had a baby but had congestive heart failure afterwards, as a result of having the baby.  The cardiologist and my OB say that there will be a risk of this if I do ever try to have another baby myself, so they suggest I don't. 

I love my new daughter more than life itself but always wanted a big family, but I want to be alive to enjoy my children.  That said, it looks like we might go the route of adoption.  I know that this is a long and costly process, but that is really all I know about it.  Can anyone give me any suggestions on where to start?  I'm clueless!  I think we will probably wait a few years but I want to at least start on the research and everything.

 Thanks!

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  • Amy720Amy720

    Congratulations on your daughter.  I'm sorry you've had to go through so much to have her. 

    I would just suggest you start researching adoption websites.  The first thing you must do is decide international or domestic.  They're different things you have to do for each one.  You might want to start researching agencies in your area.

    We used a facilitator who helped us with our profiles and pointed in the direction of some agencies they work with.  We worked in states where once the birthmother signs there is no waiting period.

     I wish I could be more helpful, but at the beginning it sounds overwhelming.  The home study takes a lot of time and effort, but it can be done quickly.

    Good Luck!
     

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    Thanks!
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  • crystalpopcorncrystalpopcorn member
    I just wanted to say hello, and that I am in almost the same boat. ?My son was born in January at 31 weeks. ?To make a long story short, I was diagonsed with cancer when I was pregnant (I'm ok now), but I cannot have more children of my own. ?I still want to give my son at least one sibling. ??We are starting to research, although it seems crazy to start the process when my baby is so young. ?The little I know is that adoption can be a lengthy process, which is why I am starting to look into it now.?Maybe we can help each other find good sources! I did some searches on google last night, and checked out adoption.com and adoption.org. ?HTH.??
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  • BabySweetPeasMomBabySweetPeasMom

    Welcome to the board!

     

    Congrats on your little one, I'm sorry you had to struggle so much as she was born!

     There is a program out there for anyone and everyone who wants to adopt.  It's just a matter of finding out what works best for you.  Some can be costlier than others, take longer or shorter than others, etc - it really does all depend on the route you take.

     Good luck!

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    Hello, and welcome.  I?d like to echo the sentiments of the others:  congratulations on the birth of your daughter.  I am sorry to hear it was so difficult and life-altering.

    I think books like "Adoption for Dummies" or "The Complete Idiot's Guide To Adoption" are a great place to get started.  They provide lots of basic information on adoption, the different types, the process, and how to research an agency.  Another good book is "The Complete Adoption Book."

    If you then decide that domestic adoption is right for your family, you?ll need to find a good agency.  I highly recommend researching any agency you are considering to make sure it abides by ethical standards.  For domestic agencies, a great place to look them up is on the yahoo group called "AARD" (Adoption Agency Research ? Domestic).  That group is dedicated to giving honest feedback on agencies.  You can ask about the agencies you are interested in directly, and also search their archives and files.

    If you choose international, you?ll then need to pick from which country. The US Department of State's website lists the requirements to adopt from each country (https://snipurl.com/2patx).  Once you've made your country choice, you'll need to find an agency that has a program specializing in adoptions from that country.  The yahoo group "Adoption Agency Research" is a phenomenal resource for vetting agencies, and works the same way as ?AARD.?

    Best of luck on your journey!

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