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self soothing

natalee215natalee215
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At Caroline's 2 month appt last night, the ped asked if I'm still feeding or rocking her to sleep.  She told me that she needs to learn to self-soothe.  Of course, I'm all for this, but it's not working.  If I put her to bed not sleeping it leads to crying.  It seems like everything I'm reading says they should do this around 3-6 months.  Is she just too young?  If not, why is the ped telling me that at 2 months?  It's that's the case, this really sucks because I have to go back to work in 3 weeks and can't keep playing these games with her every night.  I've been really trying to get her on schedule this past week and it's just not working.  I think another month of maternity leave would really help the situation, but that's just not an option.

Any suggestions?

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Re: self soothing

  • CanadianBride84CanadianBride84 member
    I know with Aislyn she uses a soother to sleep sometimes. Sorry the schedule is not going well
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  • ash.fleaash.flea

    I've always heard they can't really self-soothe until about 4 months.  It's odd that your pedi told you to start now. 

    Sometimes I can put G down awake and he'll stare at his seahorse until he falls asleep, but if he cries I go and put his paci back in and talk to him/shush him.  I try not to pick him back up unless he doesn't calm down.  I feel like it's working because he's been going to sleep on his own without crying maybe a third of the time.  But most of the time he does need me to come back in.  Usually I can just hold his hand and shush him and he'll go on to sleep, but then sometimes I have to pick him up and rock him to sleep.  I feel like he's still too young to cry it out.

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  • Mrs.Gale920Mrs.Gale920
    try reading the no-cry sleep solution book it has helped us a lot!
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  • Jennifer43Jennifer43
    This is something I have been working with C on lately. We are already lightyears ahead of where we were, and if I get him at just the right sleepyness, he will fall asleep with minimal shushing and patting in his crib, but most times, I just rock him until he is asleep and then I can put him down. I think it takes until about 3 months or so for them to really grasp the self-soothing, so I wouldn't feel like you have to force her to soothe herself to sleep just yet. And I'm against letting them CIO so I think whatever works to help them get to sleep at this age, is what you should do. C is starting to get mad at me if I try to help him to sleep too much, which is way different than the first 3 months because he couldn't sleep without me holding/walking/bouncing him. So I know things happen at their own pace and when she is ready, she will start helping herself get to sleep.
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  • natalee215natalee215

    imageMrs.Gale920:
    try reading the no-cry sleep solution book it has helped us a lot!

    I'm a moron.  I read both this and Happiest Baby on the Block while PG and I completely forgot that I should be referencing them.  I have been doing the logs and trying to establish patterns based on those logs, but it doesn't seem to be working yet. 

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  • MrsBlayneMrsBlayne member
    imagenatalee215:

    imageMrs.Gale920:
    try reading the no-cry sleep solution book it has helped us a lot!

    I'm a moron.  I read both this and Happiest Baby on the Block while PG and I completely forgot that I should be referencing them.  I have been doing the logs and trying to establish patterns based on those logs, but it doesn't seem to be working yet. 

    B didn't start to get on any sort of schedule until 4 months, and that was only after I started waking her at 7 am each morning. I went back to work at 2 months and had the same idea as you, but no dice here Sad. I do think it's strange your pedi said that at 2 mos.
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  • trevesstrevess
    Right around 10 weeks is when Hayden started sucking her thumb & self-soothing more. She didn't get on much of a schedule until about 4 months, like Blayne said. Hang in there!
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  • WendellsWendells
    everything i read said that it's too early.  shoot....i nursed gavin to sleep as long as it worked.  it was a lot easier to feed him and put him (and myself) back to sleep.  when he got a little older we would definitely let him fuss, but if he was full on crying we always went to him.
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  • BlondeBeachBride08BlondeBeachBride08
    I feel like a lot of pedis are working at hyper speed. Yours suggests that a 2 month old should be learning to self soothe. My friend's said to stop swaddling her baby and wean him from the paci at 6 weeks. Can't they just be babies for a little while?? /vent
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  • Ms.Beachbum08Ms.Beachbum08
    Natalee - Do whatever works for you.  They are definitely rushing things along.
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  • trevesstrevess
    imageBlondeBeachBride08:
    I feel like a lot of pedis are working at hyper speed. Yours suggests that a 2 month old should be learning to self soothe. My friend's said to stop swaddling her baby and wean him from the paci at 6 weeks. Can't they just be babies for a little while?? /vent
    Well-put, Morgan! I feel the same way about telling them to start cereal at 2-3 months.
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  • WendellsWendells

    imageBlondeBeachBride08:
    I feel like a lot of pedis are working at hyper speed. Yours suggests that a 2 month old should be learning to self soothe. My friend's said to stop swaddling her baby and wean him from the paci at 6 weeks. Can't they just be babies for a little while?? /vent

    Totally!!

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