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daenikoffre
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Old cussing habits & new babies: Thoughts?
daenikoffre
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Hmn........ What're you guys planning on doing?
I mean.. I never shout profanities out of anger or anything, but my BF and I are fairly casual with our "French".. Like saying, "F*ckin' a!" when finding a moldy dish under the sofa, or screaming "Oh SH*T!" when a giant spider is coming at me when I'm on the toilet and can't really go anywhere.. hahaha!
Anyway.. do you plan on practicing to not cuss before your LO comes? Or is it not a big deal to you? Or will you cut back when you think about it but not be too strict on yourself?
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Re: Old cussing habits & new babies: Thoughts?
haha!
Being that I'm from Jersey and my husband really was a sailor, we have a tendency to be pretty casual with the language. However, we've noticed that we are a lot better when their are kids around. I work with kids and am usually pretty good (though things come out of all of us occasionally) and we have a lot of kids that come over with the neighbors - or we go there - and we are usually pretty good.
There was one incident where I had just told a story about when I was younger and shortly thereafter DH uttered a F**K! There was an 18 month old and a 5 yr old. I told him 'yes honey, I was five'. Somehow it worked and the kids never blinked. If it comes out, figure out how to cover your tracks!
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I'm probably going to cut back and hope that by the time she's repeating things that I've gotten it under control.
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
I have never gotten in the habit of using foul language so retraining myself is not an issue.
With that said, the first time your child uses your favorite phrase word for word, you will quickly change your vocabulary.
It's definitely not easy. I work in a classroom with children all day, & never once have I let a cuss word slip. However, at home with DS it is a little harder to control. While I will say I've gotten pretty good at not letting so many words slip (after 3 years & 4 months of practice), I can also say husband is way sh!tty at censoring hisself.
Thankfully DS has never had more than a handful of times when he's cursed (& yes, I'm a terrible parent, but sometimes it's kinda' funny). It does suck though that DS is finally at the stage where he knows what all the "bad" words are & won't say them, and now we gotta' start trying to censor ourselves all over again for this LO.
They may not come out talking, but they do start learning from day one. At 12 months my daughter could say many words, at two she could carry on a conversation with the best of them. At 6, she asked the difference between a gasoline engine and a diesel engine. You never know when you will have an overly bright one that will outsmart you quickly. Its best to just not use language you do not want to hear come out of your child's mouth.
it happened to me-- it was horrifying. dh and i both greatly cut back on swearing when DS came along, but we've both slipped on occasion. one day, DH was backing out of the garage and hit our retaining wall with his car. he pretty much screamed the F word like 4 times. next week, DS was tossing it around at daycare like crazy. it took us a few weeks to completely break him of it.
We had this problem, we actually tried to institute the swear jar at our house. $.25 for every swear word you said. And then that money would be spent on DD. It worked for a while, but then people didnt have change on them, so they had a tab running... turned ugly. We have finally cut back on what we say, it was hard, and they still slip out every now and then. DH is worse at it than me, I honestly think it will take DD saying a curse word for DH to fully get the picture. But until then I will continue to get on DH's case.
side note: we had friends who intentionally taught their kids curse words. They would hold up the phone and say "Tell Uncle Chris Fc*k you" Or "Uncle Christ you are a B!tch" and the kids would repeat it back. This I can not stand! They knew what the finger ment and everything. DH and I swore to each other that we would never let our kids get that out of control.
omg. you have plenty of time to be all worried about that.
lol!
Your words of wisdom are aaaamazing. Thanks for teaching me to parent better. [/end sarcasm]
I was raised with a mother that swears like sailor, and I grew up knowing a. I couldn't say swear words when I was a kid, and b. know enough when and when not to swear as a grown-up.
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
DH and I are going to try, it's gonna be tough though! My niece is only a 1.5 and already says F*ck, not in the right context, but she says it pretty well! She's such a good little repeater haha