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The Hydroxy Girl got me thinking
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Seeing that her and her boyfriend are trying to concieve I was just curious if there were other ladies trying that weren't married. In no way Im I trying to say you can't have a baby unmarried or that its right or wrong, I guess I just assumed most of us were married. So I thought I'd ask!
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Re: The Hydroxy Girl got me thinking
I agree with you, I had the same feeling. ?
For one... my Grandma would have probably disowned me & offered up 2 million masses in my name for being an unwed mother.
And anyway... I'm too traditional to do anything like that.
I was terrified too!!
TTC #1 - May 2010 - IUI #3: BFP
TTC #2 - May 2012 -IUI #2: BFP
I was terrified of getting pregnant before getting married too because I thought my parents would be incredibly upset up until the point where my parents actually asked me and DH (he was my boyfriend back then) when we were planning on having kids :]
Heck, I was terrified of getting pregnant even after we were married. DH was in law school and I was the only income earner. It has only been in the last year that I stopped freaking out about the idea of getting pg and that's only because we're more stable financially.
I am definitely on the conservative side when it comes to pregnancy before marriage (for myself). I, of course, have no issues with what other people do. DH thinks I offended my SIL when she asked if my brother was going to have more kids. I instinctively responded, "well, he'd have to find another wife first." Her sister had a kid without being married. It was totally not on my mind at the time. But DH thinks I put my foot in my mouth I didn't mean anything by it. It's just that I'm still used to the married first, kids second pattern.
Although my parents, aunt/uncles, and even grandma were all pg when they got married. Oops!
Definitely wouldn't try to have kids when un-married.
My DD was a surprise that I couldn't say no to. Best decision I have ever made. Yes my parents basically disowned me for a year or so. It was a tough thing to tell them, that's for sure! I didn't go to their house for nearly a year. They were too embarassed and mad.
Now of course,they love my daughter and are thrilled for the new one on the way!
Getting pg was what prompted my marriage. DH wanted kids (9 years older) and I told him I wanted to wait until I was married, he waited another 6 months and proposed!
Pretty much all my friends have kids out of wedlock and I love them just the same however everytime I thought about it I just pictured my grandma. If that wont take the urge away I dont know what will!
Happily married and personally wouldn't have dreamed of having kids before we were married!
Ditto. The thought of having to tell my dad was enough to use triple protection. I can care less about what other people do though.
We had a m/c back in August right before my birthday, and before I lost the baby my hormones were all over the place. One minute I screaming about dirty laundry then I was crying over the stupidest thing. So, I'm sure he wouldn't have left me if it had happened before we got married, but it would have some people running for the hills.
I am happily married and didn't try to have any children until I was. On the other hand, both of my sister's had babies before they were married (one got married at 5 months pregnant) and even though that would not be personally my choice, they could not be happier in their lives, and having children changed them into amazing moms and wonderful human beings. Things happen, and sometimes they are for the better.
I must admit that my sisters and I all still joke that I am the only one who is doing things the "right" way
I'm married and couldn't ever even think of TTC before getting married. I know its that much harder for a man to walk away from a pg woman when he's married to her than if he's only dating her (seriously or not).
I'm not one to judge, but I haven't ever seen it work out if they start trying and suceed before the wedding day.