nosy people asking about weight gain

jkaplan84 · October 2010

Why do people (moms, etc) think it is ok to ask how much weight we have gained? Although I have had a pretty good body image throughout my pregnancy, I still have days when I feel fat (like last night when I noticed how huge my thighs and hips have gotten). No matter what we are women who will be sensitive about weight gain...so moms (or whoever is asking the question)...shut up!

Candicane8287 · October 2010

I totally agree with you! its not ok to ask a lady how much she weighs! i also hate when ppl try to compare you to how much they weigh or how much they gained when they were pregnant!

Tamzin418 · October 2010

My step mother made a comment to me about my weight at my sister's wedding when I was about 18 weeks along (or so). Instead of a snappy comeback, stupid me said that I'd only gained 5 lbs. Her response, "Are you SUUUURE?" I didn't take offense because I neither like her nor care what she thinks, but needless to say I avoided her the rest of the time we were there. People are idiots and seeing a pregnant woman makes their preexisting inclinations towards insensitive comments even worse. It's totally them, not us.

futureCLJ · October 2010

Candicane8287:
I totally agree with you! its not ok to ask a lady how much she weighs! i also hate when ppl try to compare you to how much they weigh or how much they gained when they were pregnant!

I agree with this! And at any time in her life!

JulietL129 · October 2010

I hate it. Idk what people plan to accomplish by asking.

principessa81 · October 2010

An (obnoxious) family member asked me this question the last time I was visiting my family in WI. He just came right out and asked me in front of the whole family. After I quickly got over my humiliation, I said,

"That's so funny, I was just about to ask you the exact same thing!"

He looked kind of shocked for a minute, then turned away and muttered something under his breath. Geez. I swear my family thinks that just because we're related they can ask me anything they want (or offer unsolicited advice, but that's another topic).

Tamzin418 · October 2010

principessa81:
An (obnoxious) family member asked me this question the last time I was visiting my family in WI. He just came right out and asked me in front of the whole family. After I quickly got over my humiliation, I said,
"That's so funny, I was just about to ask you the exact same thing!"
He looked kind of shocked for a minute, then turned away and muttered something under his breath. Geez. I swear my family thinks that just because we're related they can ask me anything they want (or offer unsolicited advice, but that's another topic).

I love this! Perfect! I can never think of these snappy comebacks when I'm in the moment.

xxbabycakesxx · October 2010

i think it depends on whos asking me about my weight. when ppl on the bump ask, i tell. my coworker is about 17 wks pregnant and we compare weights everyday, even though it doesnt really matter because we know every pregnancy is different. if random clients at work ask, id be weirded out. a few times dh's cousins have asked and i was a little uncomfortable telling them, but i did and only after i made them tell me their pregnancy weight gain lol. so for me its really who im comfortable with.

lucyloo10 · October 2010

i agree... i'm sick of this question!

utlawgirl · October 2010

principessa81:
An (obnoxious) family member asked me this question the last time I was visiting my family in WI. He just came right out and asked me in front of the whole family. After I quickly got over my humiliation, I said,
"That's so funny, I was just about to ask you the exact same thing!"
He looked kind of shocked for a minute, then turned away and muttered something under his breath. Geez. I swear my family thinks that just because we're related they can ask me anything they want (or offer unsolicited advice, but that's another topic).

That's so perfect! I am soooo glad no one has been rude enough to ask me yet, but if they do, I'll have a response at the ready.

njmandy · October 2010

Because pregnant women are public property!

For my first pregnancy, my SIL asked me at the Thanksgiving dinner table in front of 25 of our family members.

starb4long · October 2010

principessa81:
An (obnoxious) family member asked me this question the last time I was visiting my family in WI. He just came right out and asked me in front of the whole family. After I quickly got over my humiliation, I said,
"That's so funny, I was just about to ask you the exact same thing!"
He looked kind of shocked for a minute, then turned away and muttered something under his breath. Geez. I swear my family thinks that just because we're related they can ask me anything they want (or offer unsolicited advice, but that's another topic).

You are Awesome!

PunkyBooster · October 2010

I have a friend who constantly asks me this. I am just waiting to see if friends tonight ask me, but there is another pregnant girl going out as well who is a lot bigger than me, so hopefully the topic will be taboo.

My thighs are getting all of my weight too!

DaisyCakes18 · October 2010

I think it's had the opposite effect on me. The gym teacher at my school and I were talking and she asked out of curiosity because she said it looks like I'm just all belly so I told her I'd gained 11 pounds as of my last appt and she was like, Damn, I gained 50 with both of mine...and seeing as how's she's super athletic and in great shape (she looks awesome now for just having a baby a few months ago) it made me feel good about my own gain. It also just goes to show that some people just gain more weight no matter how healthy/active they are during pregnancy, anyway.

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