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DH, strange behavior...urs too?
vanessagorc
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DH has always taken a blindly positive outlook on our IVF. He is also not a very "touchy feely emotional type".
Last nite he tells me that he has some baby names in mind, but he doesn't want to tell me. He desn't want to "jinx our cycle". I got emotional bc I feel like he is being strong for me, and hiding his real feelings.
Then today, he bought me a blood pressure monitor!?!?!? He said I need it for when I am pregnant; to monitor my blood pressure HUH. I don't even have high BP and I am CLEARLY not pregnant.
So much for not "jinxing us". Clearly he is blindly optomistic again.
Obviously I want a BFP for our IVF, but I think I am more realistic about the possible outcomes. I wonder what is going on in his head?
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Re: DH, strange behavior...urs too?
I think my DH is too optimistic. I think I am realistic - he thinks I am Debbie Downer!
But as our IF struggle continues, his optimism wanes.
I'd say too optimisic for my DH too.
You could have been writing this about my DH. He is exactly the same way and sometimes I just want to punch him and other times I worry that if this doesn't work that he is going to fall apart. I guess it is good that at least one of us is optimistic. I am positive about the cycle but also am totally consumed with self doubt and worries.
Me - DX Hashimoto's Disease, Hypothyroid, Rheumatoid Arthritis
DH - DX Azoospermia - Sertoli Cell Syndrome
DS-IUI #1-4 BFN IVF #1 - BFP! It's a boy!!!
We are def in the same boat bc i feel the same as u...positive, but with natural worry.
MH is the same way! too optimistic, I'm pessimistic/realistic.
Bless his heart...I know...my DH was SHOCKED when our first IUI didn't work...during my 2ww, if I mentioned ANYTHING going on with my body he said, "That's because you're preggers!" I kept reminding him that even people who have NO IF issues, there's still only a 30% chance each cycle to get pregnant. Obviously it'll be lower if there are issues....I think it's just that guys have in their head what our health class teachers told us in school...that you can get pregnant if the wind blows! Sometimes it's not that easy unfortunately. I wish you two the best of luck though and hope you DO get a BFP this time around!!!!
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
E & C Born 10/19/2012