PSA: Just relax

brookelynpaisley · September 2010

If one more person tells me to "relax and it will happen," I'm going to fvcking.snap. It won't be called "going postal" anymore - it will be called "going brookelynpaisley." You - the people of the world - have all been warned. That is all.

Sorry, I'm sure these posts are annoying - I'm just feeling full-on fed up, exhausted, and in need of a good cry this morning. I know 3 cycles is nothing in the grand scheme, but with no BFP at 14 DPO and no sign of AF, I'm feeling emotional and in limbo. Just had to get it out. Thanks for allowing me to vent.

Feel free to get it all out, ladies.

EDIT: Missing word

kerrbear72 · September 2010

I'm sorry love.

((hugs))

youngin12 · September 2010

((hugs))

funny bunny · September 2010

Ya.. just did...right under your post..

*Hugs*

daisyross · September 2010

So sorry you are having a rough day

Tomsbabyboo · September 2010

I'm sorry :-( I agree that it is so annoying to hear "just relax". I had someone imply that to me yesterday. It's so annoying that being proactive (with charting, etc.) is construed by some people as people "up tight" and over thinking everything. It's frustrating that because I am being diligent about this process that I am made to feel like that is the reason why it may not be happening for me. I feel your pain! Arrggghhh!

punkymama · September 2010

((hugs)) sorry!!

Is it bad that I want to tase people who say "just relax and it will happen" I don't think that's too harsh Embarrassed

mdiblasi10 · September 2010

I am sorry ((hugs)). I hate when people say that to me.

brookelynpaisley · September 2010

Tomsbabyboo:
I'm sorry :-( I agree that it is so annoying to hear "just relax". I had someone imply that to me yesterday. It's so annoying that being proactive (with charting, etc.) is construed by some people as people "up tight" and over thinking everything. It's frustrating that because I am being diligent about this process that I am made to feel like that is the reason why it may not be happening for me. I feel your pain! Arrggghhh!

Thank you! This is how I feel. 1. I'd be so much more stressed NOT knowing what's going on and 2. All I'm doing is identifying fertile days so I can make the most of them. I sincerely wasn't stressed until today. A little baffled by a BFN and no AF, maybe, but still very optimistic. This is the most relaxed I've been and I'm stil lhearing the dreaded R word from people.

Bubs101 · September 2010

I told my friend that we're still not pregnant and that it makes me sad and I cry every time AF shows. Her response was, "You shouldn't do that to yourself honey. It'll happen when you stop trying."

Indifferent

I shouldn't do that to myself??? Seriously?

Sorry you're having a rough day. It's ok to be emotional. ::hugs::

Tomsbabyboo · September 2010

brookelynpaisley:
Tomsbabyboo:
I'm sorry :-( I agree that it is so annoying to hear "just relax". I had someone imply that to me yesterday. It's so annoying that being proactive (with charting, etc.) is construed by some people as people "up tight" and over thinking everything. It's frustrating that because I am being diligent about this process that I am made to feel like that is the reason why it may not be happening for me. I feel your pain! Arrggghhh!

Thank you! This is how I feel. 1. I'd be so much more stressed NOT knowing what's going on and 2. All I'm doing is identifying fertile days so I can make the most of them. I sincerely wasn't stressed until today. A little baffled by a BFN and no AF, maybe, but still very optimistic. This is the most relaxed I've been and I'm stil lhearing the dreaded R word from people.

This is why I love this board, because there are people here who know how I feel! I 100% agree that I would be more stressed not knowing what's going on (I have already barked up that tree and I was way more anxious then).

I am sorry about the BFN today, hopefully it is just too early. I am optimistic for you, fingers crossed and baby dust!

brookelynpaisley · September 2010

Thanks all for the hugs and love, ladies. I really appreciate it. Love and hugs right back to you all.

nirern626 · September 2010

I actually told someone during my last 2ww that if they told me to relax I'd throat punch them. They've stopped bothering me lol. It's great that we have a place to vent where others understand. Sorry you're going through it now.

Birdies08 · September 2010

Anybody you need me to beat up for you? I'm in a bad mood and could use the excuse to take it out on someone.

sapphirewolfkdv · September 2010

Agreed! I'm still waiting for someone that tells me to relax to come up with viable solutions on HOW to "relax..." It isn't so easy when your brain is going 100 miles an hour. And I agree with the ladies who have pointed out the difference between "stressing" and "being diligent." Thinking about TTC and wanting to be pregnant is not necessarily a negative thing, and it's not the same as being stressed, IMO. Sorry you're having a bad day, and good luck!