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becoming terrified!
Ok, after reading all this stuff about throwing up, pooping, having trouble pooping & peeing after birth, painful recovery, etc etc...I'm becoming more & more terrified of having a child! LOL
Is this normal?
I am like the biggest wuss bag ever!!
Who has gone all natural on here? I really want to do go this route after talking with a couple friends. But again, I am a wuss bag! So if all this other stuff is freaking me out, I have no clue how the F I'm going to deal with going all natural!! 
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Re: becoming terrified!
Oh, I'm completely scared of labor and delivery! But it can't be all that bad if people have more than 1 child! And just keep thinking that all the pain and craziness is totally worth it once you have that little bundle of joy!
Carollyn went all natural, I'm not sure who else did?
You're totally not the biggest wuss bag ever. No one looks forward to these things. The way that I dealt with everything was just by telling myself that nearly all women do this and most do it multiple times. Yes, there are a lot of not so fun things to deal with, but in the grand scheme of things, they're not so bad.
I'm not sure if you read my birth story (if not, it's on my blog probably in August) but my plan was to go drug free and I semi got what I wanted. Although I gave into the epidural 13 hours into labor, it didn't work for me. Yes, the pain was hellish, but you just know that it has to be over eventually. Next time around, I am also going into it with the mindset of not getting the epidural. Granted, I don't the wonders that all of these girls speak of from the epidural, but I'm guessing what I don't know, I won't miss. I have tons of books on pregnancy and natural childbirth if you want to borrow any to get yourself started reading.
Totally normal to be terrified of all this. I know I was. But keep in mind we all lived through it and some of us are crazy enough to do it again!
You are so right! This alone is one of the best reasons to be Team Green!
I wish I had the guts to be team green! I am too much of a planner!
and I plan on having twins so......
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There are lots of books to read for going natural. I would say if you are determined enough, then you can do it (of course this is assuming you don't have any 'issues' along the way to break up your plans).
And the farther along you get, the more done you are with being pregnant. Labor still sounds scary but it isn't a permanent part of having a baby. It is way less permanent than having a beast. ETA- I called my belly a beast.
And I say, it can't be that bad. Most people go for round two. I am not and I didn't even labor. That labor wasn't so bad - but don't listen to me, I didn't have any labor and still don't know what a contraction feels like. It is post partum that should be feared, IMO.
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Yeah, I am pretty freaked out too after reading the posts about pooping/puking, etc, but I figure, it's too late for me to back out now and I am SOOO excited to meet my baby boy at this point that I know I will make it through (one way or another).
Now, I have no intentions of going naturally - the more pain relief the better in my opinion, but that's just because I know myself and know I don't deal well with pain at all.
And as far as the pooping and puking - yes, I will be embarrassed if and when either of those things happens, but since it happens to so many women, I know the nurses and doctor will not look at me like some sort of freak or anything, so it's all good. And DH has strict orders to stay north.
Its normal to be afraid but keep in mind that no two births are the same. I never thought I wanted to have kids again after Rowen. It took me 4 years to get pregnant again because I was terrified to go through labor again. This time around was nothing compared to last time. I also never had a problem peeing after birth. The first time I did have a hard time going poop and I was taking my little pink pill everyday to try not to have a problem. This time I took Metamucil every single morning in my OJ after Phoebe was born and I didn't have a single problem. I say this having stitches from tearing too. Yes, labor is painful but just try to educate yourself. I found that it wasn't as bad as I was thinking it would be. It did hurt but you know that it will end.
ETA: Oh, and about the pooping and puking during labor- its not that big of a deal. I didn't puke but I did poop both times. It happens at a point that you honestly don't care you just want that child out of you. You probably won't even know if it happens. They just clean it up and get on with it. And honestly most women do it when pushing. Its just a normal part of childbirth.
I know the puking/pooping thing really freakes everyone out, but my mom (L&D nurse for almost 40yrs) says its really no big deal, almost everyone does it and the nurses and Dr's dont even give it a second thought and neither should we. It's just par for the course.
I just told DH last week about what might happen and that if he thinks he'll he be grossed out, to just stay up by my head. Up to him. At least he was warned
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You can do it!!! I went natural and I am THE BIGGEST WUSS on the planet- truly, I am. Immediately when my BFF came to the hospital to see Hayden & I, she said, "Dude, no offense, but I totally didn't think you were going to be able to go natural because you are normally the biggest baby!" My own mother said the very same thing. That being said, I am also a very determined person. I did the research, prepared myself mentally, and went for it. I'm being completly honest when I say, yes, it hurt, but it was NOT that bad. I would take labor over the flu any day!!! It also helps when you think that the pain is there for a reason...every contraction brings you that much closer to meeting your sweet baby.
Let me know if there's anything I can do to help or recs I can give. I think the PPs are pointing you in the right direction with Ina May. I also rec "Your Best Birth" by Rikki Lake & Abby Epstein.
I've attended a few births now and at all of them the Mom pooped. But the midwife just scooped it up and it was gone. I didn't even notice it until later when I was looking at the pictures, it happened that fast! So I really wouldn't worry about that. I puke all the time, I seriously have a weak stomach, so that doesn't bother me at all but if it's something you're afraid of just keep your mind on the end product- a baby!
And some women have really fantastic pregnancies and births. I have a friend who's on #4 and then considering surrogacy after that because she loves being pregnant and loves delivering. I can't be certain they've all been drug-free but I know at least two of them were and all four were vaginal. So maybe you'll get lucky and be like her.
And if it does suck it'll be over in just a few hours and then you have the choice to never do it again. 
I agree with Sarah. Check out Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and The Business of Being Born. I honestly had no desire to ever give birth or be pregnant. I had plans to adopt only until someone told me about BBB.
I honestly don't ever think of the labor part now that we're TTC. One step at a time, and right now I'm focused on doing what I can to get a BFP!!