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Infertility
hurt by friends
it was my bday recently and one of my friends has no problems sending me a photo xmas cards, but seems to forget my bday lately or fails to wish me happy bday in an appropriate manner. in the past all of us would either send a card, make a phone call, or send an email.
she basically wished me a happy birthday through another one of our mutual lifetime friends this year. i am just shocked and disappointed. who does that?! it's just so hurtful and i feel so left out being the childless friend 
After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
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Re: hurt by friends
I am sorry about your friend.
I am notoriously late with birthday cards, but doing some many treatments this year has really thrown me off.
I sent my sister 2 birthday cards this year - one on time (surprise) and a belated one. Apparently I forgot that I sent one on time. Damn fertility meds!
TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN
IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
Lap 7/21/10
IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!
James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!
Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!
TTC since 12/06, PCOS w/ Endo & MFI - 3 Laps - 3 IVF's - 1 FET - 1 ectopic - 1 c/p - gearing up for IVF#4
My Fav Thing about Spring is Easter Candy!
I'm sorry girl. It's def not easy.
::HUGS::
Dx -Ute cancer, DOR from cancer treatments, and embryo quality issues. NOV 2010 CANCER FREE
2005-2011= 3 Rounds of Clomid, 5 IUI's, 3 IVF's- ALL BFN's
After 7yrs TTC, 5yrs of ute cancer, and 11 failed IF treatments, we got a surprise BFP! So thankful!
Gemma Grace born 09/30/12
Phillipians 4:6,7
you hit the nail on the head here. I've found through my many years of struggling with IF, fertile friends cannot truly understand what we're going through. (especially us "older" gals whose bio clock just seems to tick louder with each passing childless year)
And I don't know about you, but all my friends have multiple children (they are all pretty much finished with having children while I am just getting started) and they are just so consumed by the day-to-day of raising kids, working, and keeping their households together that things like birthdays (unless is their children's birthday, of course) fall to the wayside. It really is hard when you feel like their lives are moving forward and yours is stuck in neutral.
I'm sorry you had a crappy birthday. :-(
(((((((hugs))))))
First, happy birthday to you. Second, I'm sorry it wasn't a better one. Our struggles are different but similar in that we both feel as though our friends just don't understand. I've had such a hard time with how my friends have treated my miscarriages and it hurts, a lot.
So, sending you big hugs and hoping to see some great news on the adoption front sometime soon.
Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12
Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck. Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.
This Cluttered Life