So, im clearly new at this ..

Sarahhhlynn · September 2010

I dont know where to start to get the child support ball rolling. Baby isnt born yet, i have less than a month .. so i know thats step one. But is there anything i can do/say/fill out before he arrives? I dont even know where to start. My parents are divorced, so my mom went through it .. but it was somewhat of a different situation. First of all, we were already all born and alive for many years, and my dad was not denying paternity. So when i ked her, she had no clue where to go.

My ex never really DENIED LO completely, he just said "well i mean, is it even mine?!" When i had responded back with furious anger, he said "well i mean, idk what you do anymore." I told him my due date, meaning the days in which i was to conceive the baby .. and all three days i was with him, all day and all night. After that he said "well if you keep it, its yours." I told him theres no question im keeping it, and it will always be mine and he said good, and the conversation was over. The last time i talked to him he told me he wishes me well, and to know that i always have someone thinking about me, still in love with me, and wishes all my dreams come true.

I think he thinks im not even going to go after him. Our breakup wasn't really a violent one. We broke up about a week and a half after the baby was conceived, and i found out at about 8 weeks that i was actually pregnant. I already mentioned how he acted, but i did not flip out and go crazy when he responded that way. I havent stalked him, or wrote mean letters about how hes gonna pay for this and get his day. I just cut my ties with him and moved on. Moved out, got my own place and forgot about him. But now that time is getting close to when my LO is to arrive, not only does he deserve everything that a father and mother should give to him, he deserves to get the support. I may have alot of money now for myself, but i know i wont for the two of us.

ANYWAY, where do i start? who do i call, where do i go, what do i bring? Even if i cant do anything now, when do i start after LO is born?

r9stedt · September 2010

https://www.google.com/#sclient=psy&num=10&hl=en&q=connecticut+child+support+enforcement&aq=f&aqi=g4g-o1&aql=&oq=&gs_rfai=&pbx=1&fp=4bb5285778b46e7f

achase123 · September 2010

Definitely don't let him off the hook for CS. Whether or not he wants to be involved is irrelevant. He is financially responsible. He may request a paternity test, which will delay the process a bit. However, it will accrue in the meantime.

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