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Stress while TTC? (Long-ish, sorry!)
I know I have been posing like barely once a week, but wanted to check in with all you ladies.
So, for those that read my recent posts, my little sister is all moved in with DH and me, her bedroom is painted and furnished really cute,so my house doesn't feel quite so crowded and and my Mom is *still* in prison, 2 court dates postponed so far.
DH and I made the decision to continue TTC-however, my VIP membership to FF just expired, taking with it all my predictions, etc. And honestly, I have not charted a temp since the beginning of this cycle, I have been too crazy.
We are settling into a pretty nice, comfortable home life, although I still have days when I feel upset and overwhelmed, and my sister has been having trouble sleeping, nausea, etc., from stress I'm sure.There's been a lot to do-speaking with school social workers, etc.
SO- the point of my post is- I was talking to a good friend a couple of days ago, and she knows we are TTC- she was like, "Oh my God, don't get pregnant right now, when you're so anxious and stressed. It won't be healthy!"
Do you think there is any truth to this? Should we stop, or stop charting (if I start again any day soon;) and just try to "let it happen"? She went on to say we should wait, that I have at least 10 years left to have a baby (I will be 31 next month). I know she said what she did out of real concern, not insensitivity. BUT- I have to say my inner clock has been ticking-we want at least two, with an option for a third, someday, and I feel like if we wait for life to calm down to an "ideal" situation, we'll be waiting forever. But the idea of stress leading to complications/ stressed out baby scares me.
What do you ladies think? DH and I need to make the decision for ourselves, but I am curious to know what your opinions are.
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Re: Stress while TTC? (Long-ish, sorry!)
From reading your posts, it sounds like you really have your head on your shoulders and a big heart. It also sounds like you are able to juggle a lot of things and keep a lot of people around you very happy. You seem like you really have your *stuff* together.
Get pregnant. You will be a GREAT mommy!
First off, I was wondering what you and your DH decided. I'm very glad you made that decision and GL.
Second off, don't pay any attention to your friend. Although she may be trying to help, I'm sure it isn't. I don't think the stress is unhealthy now at least, and once you do become pregnant, I'm sure you can cross that bridge when you get there. I wouldn't worry about it and I wouldn't change anything that you are doing. However, in the end that will be up to you and DH, but don't change your mind because of what your friend said, let it be only because of what you and your DH think!
GL!
Yes!!! All of this!
I'm glad you posted this; I've wondered how things were going for you. Good luck!
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There will always be a reason to NOT have children. I'd keep trying, and do it as dilligently as you want.
This, absolutely. GL with whatever you decide!
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This! Once you've decided on your path, don't let others distract you. And you being stressed causing a stressed out baby? I'm sure you'll do just fine. I'm so glad you updated. Just keep pushing forward, and GL!
Ditto to all of the above. You seem like you handle everything that's been going on in your personal life with such grace. I will be rooting for you and your DH to get a nice BFP and have a wonderful little family very soon
Thanks so much! You ladies are always so supportive! I'm hopeful I'll be able to be more active on the boards again soon, things have calmed down a lot.
I guess I'm just worried that if anything *else* happens while I was pregnant, I could have complications or it would somehow lead to health problems within the baby. My friend and MIL both cautioned against this, but I think maybe they're just concerned, you know?
DH is really adamant about continuing to try-I don't know if he cares whether I temp or not, and I very much want to, I just worry about whether my stress level could somehow lead to health issues in LO.
My sister is really making herself at home, which is great-she and DH made tacos together last night, and now she has a private space to relax (instead of our living room couch). She wants to stay with us for the remainder of the school year, definitely. Within 20 minutes of the bedroom being finished, she had a FB album up, entitled, "New Room!!!!!" which I thought was really cute. Although her friend immediately responded, "Looks SICK. SLEEPOVERRRRRRR"
What did I get myself into?:)
I was told long ago (before I even met my husband) by an older friend : "There is NEVER a perfect time. We planned our son and it still wasn't perfect. But when you have the baby everything becomes perfect. Even when it's hard."
GL and as PP said - you are a wonderful person that will make a wonderful mother!
TTC #2
Amsterdam,
Thanks for thinking of me...yeah, I was thinking the same thing today. I don't want to wait, but I have had a lot of ups and downs in recent years...as you can see from my posts. I come from a family that offered *no* emotional support growing up, and I want to be 150% sure DH and I are in a good place where we can give our LO the love and support she/he needs to thrive! So if i seem hesitant, that's for sure why.