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21 weeks pregnant and do NOT want to have sex AT ALL.......

villesprincessvillesprincess
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I have tried to expalin to my husband that I am SOOOO not in the mood. But I really think he does not get it. Maybe I am not using the right words or something. I am really not the type of person who can be intimate when I am not in the mood. I know many woman feel the same way. What do I tell him??????

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Re: 21 weeks pregnant and do NOT want to have sex AT ALL.......

  • chicsubchicsub member
    I'm the same way, but it was the opposite when I was pregnant with DS.  It takes me awhile, but sometimes I just need to do it and by the end I never regret it.  There have been more instances of me saying no though and I feel bad.
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  • nate_and_brittnate_and_britt member
    I'm really struggling with this too.  DH and I have had a wonderful intimate life having sex several times a week.  Since getting pregnant, I've had virtually no drive.  We're lucky if we do it once a week.  And when we do have sex, I'm not interested at all.  It's a chore.  I feel bad because he doesn't want to have it if I'm not into it, but I also know that he has needs!  This has been a very frustrating issue for me.  I keep hoping it'll get better, but as I'm getting closer to my third trimester, I doubt it will.  =(
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  • mamarazzimamarazzi
    I just keep telling my H that the baby is kicking me in the vagina and that totally ruins the mood for me.  The idea of the baby's foot *right there* (even though it's really not...just feels like it) kills his romantic feelings pretty quickly, too.
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  • *Taycie**Taycie*

    Not in the mood at all either.. With having a DS already and another one on the way, when I go to bed, I want to go to bed to SLEEP..Sleep

     I feel bad, I think I will have to suck it up though..

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  • villesprincessvillesprincess
    imagemamarazzi:
    I just keep telling my H that the baby is kicking me in the vagina and that totally ruins the mood for me.  The idea of the baby's foot *right there* (even though it's really not...just feels like it) kills his romantic feelings pretty quickly, too.
    hahahahahaha. That is a good one!
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  • KyleTriggerKyleTrigger

    I wish I had this problem. I am feeling the opposite way since I got pregnant. Now I know how guys feel! I start thinking about ways to get him in bed right after he comes home and when he shuts me down, I get so mad!

    But I wouldn't do it if I were not in the mood either. One thing that makes me feel better is if he does say no is if he tells me he still thinks I am sexy and he is just too tired or whatever. Then I don't feel unwanted.

     

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  • thebigmare4thebigmare4
    imageKyleTrigger:

    I wish I had this problem. I am feeling the opposite way since I got pregnant. Now I know how guys feel! I start thinking about ways to get him in bed right after he comes home and when he shuts me down, I get so mad!

    But I wouldn't do it if I were not in the mood either. One thing that makes me feel better is if he does say no is if he tells me he still thinks I am sexy and he is just too tired or whatever. Then I don't feel unwanted.

     

    It's funny what a double standard it is. I turned DH down all the time. But if he turns me, it's hard not to get my feelings hurt. It's a good thing that his mind can be easily changed.

    But on your topic, yeah, I'm not in the mood either. I can convince myself to suck it up like every two weeks.

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