I think she might be trying to wean herself : (

KelliLynee · September 2010

Last night & tonight we've gone about our normal bedtime routine, and Lilah will sit down and nurse for no more than a minute before sitting up. I used to just lean her back down or see if she wanted to switch sides, but both nights she has resisted and gotten upset when I try to put her back on. Last night she even said "bed" and tonight when I asked her if she wanted to go to bed or nurse she pointed at her bed.

Is this what its like? I dont want my breastfeeding relationship to end on a bad note, with her flipping out every time we go about our normal routine. Can you ladies share your experience? How did you know your toddler was done nursing?

Also, we dont do "dont offer, dont refuse." She probably would have never asked if I didnt offer, so I feel like that wont help me, because "dont offer, dont refuse" in our case would most likely mean weaning (which I would be okay with, if thats what she wants).

mandyclaire579 · September 2010

If she doesn't ask, then she's probably okay with it. DS was asking every.single.time I sat down on the couch. I could see that it was a conditioning of nursing. If I was on the floor with him, or even holding him in a different chair, he wouldn't ask. He didn't need it, he was just so used to nursing when we sat down there. He would also only nurse for about 30 seconds and get down. I simply stopped sitting down. I did follow "don't offer, don't refuse". I don't see a single thing wrong with that when DS was 19 months. It wasn't truly a nutrition thing since he wasn't really nursing long enough to get more than a tablespoon.

Some kids wean earlier than others. My brother weaned at 10 months. No joke. I understand you not wanting it to happen but I really don't think moms should press their kids to nurse. MIL pushed DH to nurse until 3.5 and he really doesn't like that she did because it was for her own reasons and not something he was asking for. I know that it is very hard to go through this. There were times when I just wanted to pull DS to me to nurse, but I knew I was doing it for me, not him. I really am sorry you're going through this. It's one of the more difficult things to go through as a mom. But you will still be the most important thing to your LO. I really do promise that!

webMistress0609 · September 2010

Is she still nursing during the day? Ari stopped nursing to sleep around 13 months. Nursing is still part of our routine, but he usually only nurses for a minute or 2, & I have a feeling this will be dropped soon. He's still nursing 3-4 times during the day though.

KelliLynee · September 2010

mandyclaire579:
If she doesn't ask, then she's probably okay with it. DS was asking every.single.time I sat down on the couch. I could see that it was a conditioning of nursing. If I was on the floor with him, or even holding him in a different chair, he wouldn't ask. He didn't need it, he was just so used to nursing when we sat down there. He would also only nurse for about 30 seconds and get down. I simply stopped sitting down. I did follow "don't offer, don't refuse". I don't see a single thing wrong with that when DS was 19 months. It wasn't truly a nutrition thing since he wasn't really nursing long enough to get more than a tablespoon.
Some kids wean earlier than others. My brother weaned at 10 months. No joke. I understand you not wanting it to happen but I really don't think moms should press their kids to nurse. MIL pushed DH to nurse until 3.5 and he really doesn't like that she did because it was for her own reasons and not something he was asking for. I know that it is very hard to go through this. There were times when I just wanted to pull DS to me to nurse, but I knew I was doing it for me, not him. I really am sorry you're going through this. It's one of the more difficult things to go through as a mom. But you will still be the most important thing to your LO. I really do promise that!

Thank you so much. I totally dont want to keep nursing her just for my own personal reasons. She is an excellent eater, and really doesn't drink much when she nurses (even when she actually will stay & nurse). I will probably try just a bit longer since I dont want to wean if this is some type of phase. Ill just see how she is at night the next few nights...

KelliLynee · September 2010

webMistress0609:
Is she still nursing during the day? Ari stopped nursing to sleep around 13 months. Nursing is still part of our routine, but he usually only nurses for a minute or 2, & I have a feeling this will be dropped soon. He's still nursing 3-4 times during the day though.

No, she just nurses at bedtime now. We dropped the morning session about 3 weeks ago actually. Sort of for the same reason, she wasn't really nursing much, and I was pregnant at the time and thinking about weaning to give myself a break before baby # 2 (see siggy... I've since had a miscarriage), so I thought since she didnt seem to care about the morning nursing session at all I would just not offer it (and enjoy sleeping in every now and then), and she really didnt even seem to notice. But now that we are down to the last remaining nursing session, its really hard to let go : (

Soon2BMrsN · September 2010

My DS is kind of doing the same thing. He still nurses twice a day but hasn't nursed before bed for about a month now. Today, he only nursed once. I had parent/teacher conferences at school and by the time I got home around 7pm, we'd missed our normal 4pm session... I offered, but he refused. He doesn't nurse for more than 5ish minutes these days anyway. I think the end is near.

ETA: I'm kind of with you on the don't ask/don't refuse. I don't think my DS would ever ask, so I don't know when I want to stop offering....

Traycee1242 · September 2010

So you are only nursing 1x a day now? Is it possible your supply is low?

Ditto others... I understand. My DS doesn't ever "ask"... If I didn't offer we would just be done.

GL!

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