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pinkmickey24 · September 2010

Well, it has been a long day at work with Family Book Fair Night. DH decided to share this with me and I thought you ladies might find it interesting, and thought maybe you would get a chuckle. Happy Reading!

Edit: Okay I decided to post the article in the link because I wanted to respect the privacy of the person who posted it. I hope you are still able to read it.

jb2rn · September 2010

I think Carolyn was out of line. I tend to agree with the person that wrote in.

Case in point: I have a good friend that has an 16 month old. She works the same hours as me (three 12 hour shifts a week as an RN) and has a sitter come to her home while she is at work.

However, she can't find the time to respond to an email, or call me back. I notice a huge change in her keeping up with our friendship so to speak.

We have a mutual friend and do a yearly girls weekend. Last year she was pregnant and then had a baby, so we didn't even try to get together.

This year, she can't go...because...she doesn't want to leave him.

I don't get it. I want a baby more than anything, but you bet I will leave a baby with my husband for two days so I can have girl time!

karaknr · September 2010

Bahahaha! Copy and pasted to my FB! Love!

TheMrsRN · September 2010

Alot of my friends have kids. We still hang out and they leave their kids with their spouse or grandparents...

None of them are stay at home moms though...

NeonEyeliner77 · September 2010

Stay at home moms don't have it easier than everyone else like people like to claim. Until they're in that position I agree with the answer she got in response to her complaining.

Syncronicity09 · September 2010

NeonEyeliner77:
Stay at home moms don't have it easier than everyone else like people like to claim. Until they're in that position I agree with the answer she got in response to her complaining.

Ditto

Actingdiva09 · September 2010

karaknr:
Bahahaha! Copy and pasted to my FB! Love!

THIS!!

karaknr · September 2010

NeonEyeliner77:
Stay at home moms don't have it easier than everyone else like people like to claim. Until they're in that position I agree with the answer she got in response to her complaining.

yes I agree. When youre a mom (SAH or working) your kids come first. While there are some moms that DEFINITELY take it to the extreme (like refusing to go anywhere without their child), that's not typically the case with SAH moms. Most of my friends are SAHM's and I see them all the time. In fact we even have a 1x a month girls night out where the husbands watch the kids and we all go out together. I think it's ridiculous to be upset if a mom friend doesnt call as much as she used to because she has a kid. My BFF and I havent talked in 2 months until today and neither one of us has a child. Life just gets busy sometimes. You have to get over it and realize it's not you, but their child is going to come first. Make the effort to call her if it bothers you.

Now if your friend just doesnt want to go out because she doesnt want to be away from her kid... that's a totally different story, but SAHM's are SUPER busy. Someone has to be with a young child, keeping up with them, playing with them, etc pretty much the entire time they are awake. It's hard to do a ton of other stuff while trying to entertain a child, and when you do get a few seconds of free time I bet its spent catching up on house work or you YH.

TheMrsRN · September 2010

While I agree that SAHMs are busy, I don't think being a SAHM is any more time consuming than the work of working moms. My friends who are working moms will make the time to hang out with their friends without their kids. If I had a SAHM friend who stopped keeping in touch despite my efforts to see them, I would probably let us go our separate ways.

jb2rn · September 2010

I don't dispute the fact that being a SAHM is very challenging. If I am ever lucky enough to do it, I know it will be the most difficult job I ever have.

BUT, I certainly hope I will maintain my friendships. I think the person that wrote in was getting at that. You do have time to make a phone call or reply to an email.

I just seem to have friends that lately, fall off the face of the earth. And they don't have infants, either. Or maybe it's just my friends

kattyleigh · September 2010

This is ALWAYS a constant heated battle on the months boards. I am a part-time working/part-time SAH mom. I am an RN and work two 12 hour night shifts/week. My DD goes to daycare one day a week, on the day after I work, so I can sleep a bit. I was a SAHM for the first six months of her life, but missed working, so I chose to go back. I feel like I have an educated perspective on both sides of the debate. I DEFINITELY had more free time when I was a SAHM. Not that it wasn't crazy hard. Having a child is hard work. Constant, hard work. But holding down a job and a family is even harder. But never at any point so far do I feel like I have neglected my friends. Granted, it is extremely difficult to hang out with my friends that don't have children. Their ideas are sometimes not practical for my life right now (for example, driving 8 hours to catch a concert). But I have left DD with the grandparents for a few weekends, and I have made time for girls' happy hours and nights on the town. I truly think this is a debate that will continue forever...and I don't think anyone can have a true opinion until you have actually lived it. Priorities change in ways you have no idea existed when you become a mom. And it's great.

megd06 · September 2010

I've been on both sides of the fence--I went back to work when DS was 6wks at a bank, where I worked full time. When he was almost 6 months old, we moved to OH and I've been staying home full time since (with the exception of a few occasional nanny jobs). I think the SAHM job is harder, personally. I spend my day with a 19 m old who requires constant care, for everything--eating, changing, going to the bathroom, etc--and has a limited vocabulary, so I fail to interpret what he wants correctly, he screams and wails until it's corrected. I have limited adult interaction, and limited help from my husband who is working 2 jobs and in grad school. But I love it--I know that me being with DS at this age is what's best. All in all...I agree (mostly) with what Carolyn wrote. At the same time, I have managed to keep/make friends. It's hard though, if for no other reason than you don't have a whole lot in common with your child-less friends. A lot of women don't like going to dinner when there's a 1 year old joining you, and a babysitter isn't always available. Just my 2 cents

Birdies08 · September 2010

Whether or not a mom should have time for her friends aside, I really agree with her last point that I good friend wouldn't judge/complain/care.

Last year I went through some health problems, and while I may have had the time to maintain my friendships, I just didn't have the physical/emotional/mental energy to all the time. I lost some friends over it, but I think it brought me a lot closer to the friends I still have. I know they care about me and they know I care about them, even if we sometimes lose touch.

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