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3rd Trimester
Would this annoy you?
I know Ive posted a lot but hey, Im addicted and things keep popping into my head=)
Anyways I was talking to a female friend that I haven't talked to since before being pregnant on facebook chat. Well something compelled her to say (without thinking I'm sure....or hope) "So Ive seen your ultrasound pics in your photos, had no clue you went and got yourself knocked up since the last time we talked" I couldn't even reply! I She said it in such a derogatory way! I'm not "knocked up" I'm expecting my first child, I'm pregnant, even "prego" if you will.
I just logged off of facebook, maybe I'm just being a *** but I didn't "go and get knocked up" . The way it sounds just sounds like I slept around and this was an accident... Does stuff like that bother you too or am I just a weird pregnant woman?
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Re: Would this annoy you?
Hm. I'd say think of your friends character. It you generally hear borderline comments from her, it's highly unlikely she meant anything by it.
For me, I'd only give a side eye if it came from my grandma or something.
It's a bit annoying, kinda one of those things someone can say if they know you really well, and if they know you'll take it as a joke.
yeah that's pretty tasteless for her to say that...some people see no problem in talking that way in everyday life. I don't know your situation...are you married? Or are you in a relationship that she didn't know about? "you went and got yourself knocked up" seems like such an inappropriate comment to someone who is married or has been in a long-term relationship. Well, it's just tasteless regardless...
ITA. If it were one of my friends, I'd take it as friendly, joking banter.
this. I refer to myself as KU, so I wouldn't take it in a derogatory way. I did however get offended when my dad told my then-future-FIL that so far all his boy was knock me up. (Yeah, my dad is an asss.) It depends on the context.
Honestly... unless her personality is usually a flaky chick who says stupid stuff... it was probably just phrased wrong and she was trying to be funny. My biggest problem with communication through technology - be it text, e-mail, FB, TB, etc. - when you can't see a person's face, or hear their tone of voice, you can't really know what they are trying to say or how they are trying to say it.
Guess I'm playing devil's advocate
...she could just be a total b!tch though!
I personally wouldn't be offended, but that's because I say things like that from time to time to joke with friends (who are equally irreverent), or to get a rise out of someone. But I wouldn't have said that to someone I didn't know as well. If someone I didn't know as well said something like that to me, I might say something in response (like "no, not knocked up - we've been trying for quite some time and this truly is a miracle").
I don't think you're wrong for being annoyed, I'm just saying that I probably wouldn't have been.
I think it all depends on your sense of humor/how you feel about that word and how you take it and really how close you are to the friend that said it. Dh and i have no problem saying im knocked up. We have our own jokes about the baby and thats how it is. But if someone i wasnt close with said that to me, it would sure as hell annoy me, if it was family or a best friend, id add to the joke and laugh!
The only thing that has bothered me is people asking me if this was planned(my dh was only home a month and we were pregnant) of course this was planned, i think its how we kept sane through the deployment!
I AGREE!
yes i forgot to add that i am married.=) lol
Now, how did I go and miss a post of yours
Geez, it sounds like she was joking around. No, I wouldn't be offended. Sometimes, I actually say that I am knocked up. I am an educated, married 36 yr old woman, using the term knocked up is not all offensive to me. Now, if you are insecure about that term based on your lifestyle or situations...well that's another whole story.