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Is there anyone you're not excited to tell?
If you could get away with it, who would you not tell?
me, my MIL, she makes me batty and its only going to get worse.
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Re: Is there anyone you're not excited to tell?
Ditto this!
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Grandmother, and my Boss.
Most definitely my boss! I am totally dreading that day, but at least I will be into my 2nd tri by then, so that will be the good news for me.
You girls make me very grateful for my wonderful MIL!
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I am not too excited to tell my friends Ryan & Sue only because they are getting married next year on May 13th and my due date is May 9th.... not sure how they are going to take that news.
I don't want to tell my grandmother who was never a big fan of me... she'll say I am trying to steal my cousin's spotlight (although I have nothing to do with this cousin).
I nanny for a family that I didn't want to tell because they just went through a miscarriage in June but I had to tell her. She took it really well and I'm glad I told her early.
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MIL.
I actually told DH he has to do it, and he did. He told me she is "thrilled" and if she honestly said that then I know she's not lol. She also told DH she is worried I wont finish school (I'm a grad student) which I knew would be a huge issue for her. I have taken extra classes for the past two years so I could go part time my last year because DH and I knew we wanted to start trying come year 3. Oh well, it's over now and she knows haha.
I have two coworkers I wish I could avoid telling, but that won't happen once folks here know. One is very fake-nice and sort of weirdly clingy when people are having babies. I believe in the evil eye/people wishing you ill, and I think she definitely does it.
Another coworker is SUPER clingy with me generally, and she's one of the few women in this office who has a child and is definitely going to take this as another opportunity to be really chummy with me. She's a total space cadet and I can only take her in small doses, so it will be challenging.
Honestly, I go back and forth between wanting to tell my parents ASAP and not wanting to tell them for a long time (they're overseas so they won't figure it out before I'm ready to tell them). DH isn't working at the moment, which he and I are both fine with, and financially we're also fine. I want him to take a bit of a break before he finds his next job, both while he does some work on the house and while he takes a mental health break, but my parents don't get that and are anxious to have him get a new job. My mom even said something to me when he first quit his job about not getting pregnant until he gets a new one. She's also made a few comments in the past few months about how it's good I'm not pregnant. When I called her on it she apologized and backed off of saying that, probably not realizing how much it upset me, but I'm afraid they're not going to be as enthusiastic as I want them to be when we break the news. Who knows, they might be, but they might not, and I'd hate to feel that. I want them to be excited!!!
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My ex-husband. We're on reasonably good terms (as good as you can be with an ex). I know this will kill him, but ultimately, I try not to worry too much about it. I've moved on and am happy. I wish the same for him.
And I am a little nervous to tell my family since we're not married and this was an "oops" baby (although a VERY WELCOME surprise). They're not uber conservative or religious or anything but I am the first in my family to get KU w/o being married so... it could be interesting.
My "friend" who made a rude comment when I had to tell her I was miscarrying last year.
I don't think she deserves to know, but I have no choice, she's part of my larger friend group.
The only one I can think of is MH's aunt (who's closer to our age than his mom's, only around 30 years old) because she's been trying to nearly 3 years to have her second and no luck.
We found out a few days after our wedding that she did get pregnant, but then lost the baby only a week or so later while we were on our honeymoon.
She'll be happy for us, but after knowing how it feels to try with no results, you just feel bad.
Ditto on the ex-husband part. We aren't friends, but we get along okay and have some mutual friend. It is just going to be plain awkward. We also aren't married, although we planned the baby. We are both divorced and don't want to be married, but are happily committed and want a family together. Therefore, I don't want to tell my grandparents, who are uber religious and very judgmental.
Oh the other hand I cannot wait to tell MIL. She talks about being a grandmother everytime we see her. She is going to be so excited.
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