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Vent and ?? about CRAZY MIL
So, DH's mom is has no self esteem, is manipulative and drives me nuts. Thankfully she lives in CT and we don't have to see her often but she still gets to me. She does things like call DH and say "I was going to mail __ to you but I know you had mentioned going to Boston so I didn't want to mail it if you weren't going to be home this week". This is her way of finding out if we are planning a trip to her neck of the woods and haven't told her or are not coming to visit her while there, even if the trip DH had mentioned to her was for months from now. Please note, if we ever fly to within a 4 hour drive of her we always make an effort to see her so she can spend time with DS.
So, our 2 year anniversary was on Monday. She called both DH's cell and our home phone (he works from home when he isn't travelling, although he is away this week) starting around 2pm local time. It was a work day, DH was in meetings for most of the day so he didn't answer. She continued to call about every hour until around 8:30pm when I assume she got in touch with DH (I don't answer our home phone bc anyone who wants to get in touch with me just cals my cell). She left several VM's. She also wrote on his FB wall, texted and emailed to wish us a happy anniversary. Does this seem psycho to anyone else? Who is that intent on talking to their son on his wedding anniversary??? So, DH thinks she is crazy but his response is that he has to choose his battles with her and unless I really want him to say something, he figures he will wait til she does something worse to bring up with her.
Would you just let it go? I feel like it is really unhealthy behavior but am not sure if we should address it. Thanks if you made it al the way thru this post.
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Re: Vent and ?? about CRAZY MIL
Wait, do we share the same MIL. LOL. Sounds like a story I could have written, except my MIL lives within a few miles from us. If we don't answer the phone she comes over assuming that the worst may have happened and we are all decomposing in our apartment. We have tried talking with her about boundaries, and not always assuming the worst, but it goes in one ear and out the other. She says she is starting to see a therapist now. Hopefully she will stick with it. You might want to have your H talk with her about getting some therapy.
For now I try to just blow off her insanity, and avoid her when I don't think I have the self control to avoid saying something that will offend her. I don't want to deprive her of seeing her grandson, but it might be better to preserve our relationship if we get more space.
Is this a bit annoying? Yes. But I don't see it as a big deal at all. So she called a bunch and left voicemails... so what? You don't have to answer (like you didn't) and you don't have to listen to the voicemails. If she wants to take the time to call a bunch, let her. It doesn't have any impact on you, KWIM?
If she does it again, just turn off the ringer and ignore. She can talk to your DH when he's free. I guess I don't see how this is a big impact on your life. I wouldn't say a thing. If you're concerned she's too dependent, all you can do is encourage her to get involved in church groups or soemthing similar. You can't force her to become independent. As long as your DH doesn't let this interfere too much with family time, no big deal for you.
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