first post here, hello ladies... :(

AmyRM · September 2010

This is my first post over on this board. I know most of you from TTCAL, but with my frustration over how long we've been trying unsuccessfully and where this seems to be headed, I think you all understand.

Deep sigh. I just received a call from a clinic where I've been referred to an OB to do further testing and such. My doctor was great to set this all up for me, knowing how we don't want to waste any time. Of course, she's calling because they're pushing back my appointment from Oct. 8 to November 10th. Thanks.

As she's explaining to me why they have to change it, she said repeatedly "the doctor only does infertility on Fridays" - but he's on call for three Fridays in a row so they have to change things, or work out another day for him to "do infertility." She must have said the word infertility 20 times while explaining "the doctor only does infertility on Fridays." Thanks again. (Shall I point out now that Nov. 10th is a Wednesday?)

I'm already feeling so defeated today. I really managed to convince myself I would be pg by the time my EDD came along and that would make it easier to face, but now it's just around the corner and I am seeing a doctor for "infertility" instead. We're not young, we've been trying for two years, and I am just so sad that it's come to this.

side vent:

The whole process of charting frustrates me. I know I might get flamed for saying this, but even a perfect chart doesn't mean a BFP is on the way. It can be a huge tease, getting hopes up more than they already are. It's great to keep track of O and LPs and such, but personally, temping has only confused me more than helped. I know this doctor is going to want to see charts, and have me keep more charts - and I know this is going to mess me up so bad.

With all the back problems I have I just don't sleep soundly. My schedule is generally the same, but a few late nights here, a glass of wine or two there and the chart is a mess. I want a baby so bad, but I don't want to be a robot in the process. ::::deep breath:::: Crying

Now the pressure is on to get pregnant by Nov. 10th so I can turn that OB appointment into something special instead of dreaded. Yeah right, dream on Amy.

*sigh* Thanks for listening.

CarrieLeigh84 · September 2010

((hugs)) I'm sorry you're over here, and I hope your stay is short.

AmyRM · September 2010

Sorry, I have to post and run - my Mom is being released from hospital today..YAY!!! and she just called to say it's go time, she's "getting sprung."

See you all later Wink

Olive44 · September 2010

Welcome to the board. I'm sorry you have to be here and that your appt. got moved back. Good luck with the new doctor though!

AmyRM · September 2010

CarrieLeigh84:
((hugs)) I'm sorry you're over here, and I hope your stay is short.

Thanks Carrie... I am glad to be where you are, not just for the Australians we love, but you do offer the best entertainment on these boards! GRIN

CarrieLeigh84 · September 2010

That's right! We're both Canadians with Aussie DH's!

Good luck with your mom!

surfergirlkona · September 2010

AmyRM:
CarrieLeigh84:
((hugs)) I'm sorry you're over here, and I hope your stay is short.
Thanks Carrie... I am glad to be where you are, not just for the Australians we love, but you do offer the best entertainment on these boards! GRIN

She is pretty fab

I am sorry that you are venturing over here, keep it short and sweet.

jcath · September 2010

I completely hear what you are saying. I got so frustated charting - I finally quit. I hated starting every single day off thinking about ttcing. My Dr actually wasn't that interested in my charts and did not request that I continue. I use the CBEFM or just OPKs now and really that's plenty.

My EDD was in June and I was so frantic trying to get pregant before it hit that I was miserable. Since it's passed there is no looming milestone I have to worry about and it's made it easier.

I hope your stay here is short.

Clerk9 · September 2010

I'm sorry you're coming here, but welcome.

I'm also sorry that you're dealing with insensitive people at the doctor's office. Unfortunately, I think we could fill this whole board with similar stories of thoughtlessness. People who haven't experienced it just don't understand.

And milestones can be really tough. Right now, I've got the one year anniversaries of our BFP & m/c coming up, & I'm trying so hard to not get tunnel vision about getting another BFP this cycle...

The ladies here are PHENOMENAL & will help to lift your spirits, make you laugh, & talk sense into or give you a reality check whenever you need it. Best of luck as you continue your TTC journey, & I hope you can find some comfort here in the process.

dandyelle · September 2010

Hi Amy,

Welcome to the board. I am so, so sorry for your loss.

I think you'll find that a lot of us have thrown charting to the wayside. I personally did it because DH felt like a seal at the circus ("Perform! Perform!"), and it was affecting our marraige. I know it's a lot, and I don't blame you for being frustrated.

I would mention your conversation with the nurse to your new doctor. He might not even be aware, and I'm sure he would want his INFERTILITY (sorry, couldn't help it- what a beast that nurse is) patients to feel valued and comfortable.

I'm hoping you'll soon get better news and be an OBSTETRICS patient!

-Danielle

babes12 · September 2010

sorry you have to come over here. and hopefully you'll be pg. before your appt.

as for charting i stopped after my m/c but just started again. i really needed a nice long break from it. i only started it again b/c i felt ready and was just curious to see if things were still the same. i was fine w/ just doing opks. so i'm only going to temp when i want. i usually start temping around O time and around af time and then i don't feel like a crazy temping woman. lol

bbhalphen · September 2010

((HUGS)) I'm sorry you have to be on +6, but welcome!

Aubs13 · September 2010

butterfly843 · September 2010

Sending hugs, welcome to the board. Hope the new dr is great and has an awesome plan for you guys. I charted when I first started seeing the RE, but I was a terrible charter and she had me stop. I just use opk's now when I'm not cycling with the dr.