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Babybear70Babybear70 member
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I'm sure all you girls have been in this position before...first cycle TTC, you are all hopeful for a BFP, you get weird feelings and things going on in your body that you have never had before, that are certainly more than phantom since they cause you physical pain, it gets closer and closer to the days that you expecting AF, and you are hoping that the spotting that you are getting is really implantation bleeding, but you know that it is too early to get a positive test. The feelings of hope overwhelm you and when you think about the spotting, and the possibility of having the test be negative, you get a little down, maybe cry a little....but know that there is still hope since you haven't taken the official test to say you aren't PG, then the hope starts up again, and the vicous cycle continues. Has this happened to all of you before?...how do you cope?
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  • amandalorenamandaloren member
    You just got to take remember that it can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive. I know everyone hopes and thinks it will be sooner for them, but you just got to take each month as it comes.
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  • M&M227M&M227

    It's difficult, last month was our first TTC and I had so many phantom symptoms I was convinced I was pregnant.  Then two BFN and spotting crushed me.  It was really hard to because it was Labor day weekend and I was not really drinking during parties bc I thought I might be pregnant. I felt like I changed my life without any proof.

    This cycle I'm trying to be better and not think about it, but just got CHs this morning and it's all I can think about now.

    I know it can take a while and lots of women are on months 6, 7, 8, etc and I give them tons of credit, it's really hard.

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  • katieworekkatieworek member

    Yup, definitely been there.  It happens every month, sad to say.  Our bodies have minds of their own when it comes to phantom symptoms though and it can be tormenting to say the least.

    Just remember that even if your not KU this cycle, you'll always have the next cycle to try and that things truly do happen when they are supposed to! Smile

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  • MillerTime13MillerTime13 member

    I think this has probably happened to everyone on this board at some point. How to cope? Hang out here and know that you're not alone Smile And know that some days suck, some are better, and every CD1 is a new start.

    Oh, and wine. Wine helps.

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  • jb2rnjb2rn member

    I hear you. I am obsessed with my chart. This is only month two for us, but I am old (34) so worry about being "advanced maternal age" if we don't conceive before I am 35 :(

    I don't know how to make it better, other than stay as busy as you can!

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    I think this has probably happened to everyone on this board at some point. How to cope? Hang out here and know that you're not alone Smile And know that some days suck, some are better, and every CD1 is a new start.

    Oh, and wine. Wine helps.

    MillerTime, I couldn't have said it better myself, especially that last bit!

    OP, my first cycle off BCP was emotional hell for me, so know that you're not alone there.  I'm now on cycle 3 and I feel completely different hormonally/emotionally than I did that cycle.  I even posted in sheer panic because I thought I was going crazy. (Anyone remember that? Embarrassed) You'll even out a little and figure out your own coping strategies.  I personally promise myself (and make DH promise) that we'll do something really fun when CD1 comes- this time it was gorging myself on sushi at my favorite restaurant. And, you know the TTGP ladies are always here for you!

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  • Babybear70Babybear70 member
    Thanks girls. I'm glad that I have all of you here for support. This is such an emotional rollercoaster for me, and for all of you I'm sure. WE all want this so bad....and when that CD1 comes, or spotting happens or whatever....it feels like the world is slowly crashing down. Upon my last visit to the ladies room, the brown spotting has turned bright red and is continuous...so I guess I'm officially out. My heart is a little broken....but I know that another shot is only a couple short weeks away. Thanks for listening and being there. I need you girls more than you know.....Thanks! :)
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  • jessa513jessa513 member

    We're all in this together.  What I've been trying to do is tell myself that everything I feel are AF symptoms to not get my hopes up.  I told myself this past week that if I didn't get my period by today and if my temp went up a little that I would test with FMU this morning.  I woke up to a slight temp increase and I went into the bathroom and I PIAC and I dipped my test in right then and there becaue I was so eager.  Then I wiped and saw the blood.  I was so pist!!  I wasted a test for nothing.  I literally have been a raging biitch all morning because I'm mad at myself for finally giving myself some hope, on the day AF comes.  Not to mention now I'm too emotional.  ::sigh::

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  • Babybear70Babybear70 member
    Yep!!! I think that bottle of wine in the refrigerator is finally going to get drank. I knew this was going to happen, but the excitement of finally starting to TTC overwhelmed me. So now I know what it feels like, I will be more diligent with tracking EVERYTHING and I will be sure to just play it cool this next cycle, and for sure I need to talk to DH tonight about it all. He is always so calming and comforting to me when I'm all out of whack. Such a good man.
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  • pamster917pamster917
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    I hear you. I am obsessed with my chart. This is only month two for us, but I am old (34) so worry about being "advanced maternal age" if we don't conceive before I am 35 :(

    I don't know how to make it better, other than stay as busy as you can!

    We are TTC twins Wink! I'm 34 & this is cycle #2 for us too. I had to stop reading about all of the risks increasing over 35. I was driving myself (&MH) crazy! Good luck to you, I hope you get your BFP soon.

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  • MillerTime13MillerTime13 member
    imageJessi.a513:

    We're all in this together.  What I've been trying to do is tell myself that everything I feel are AF symptoms to not get my hopes up.  I told myself this past week that if I didn't get my period by today and if my temp went up a little that I would test with FMU this morning.  I woke up to a slight temp increase and I went into the bathroom and I PIAC and I dipped my test in right then and there becaue I was so eager.  Then I wiped and saw the blood.  I was so pist!!  I wasted a test for nothing.  I literally have been a raging biitch all morning because I'm mad at myself for finally giving myself some hope, on the day AF comes.  Not to mention now I'm too emotional.  ::sigh::

    Wine tonight!! Drinks

    Sorry for CD1 No Not a good week for us Buckeye girls.

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