So depressed :(

scyriacks · September 2010

I'm very happy to be having a baby and I'm almost 15 wks pregnant. Up till 2 weeks ago I haven't gained any weight and I've been very careful about what I'm eating, making smart choices and continuing to exercise (i'm borderline overweight to begin with). Over the past 2 weeks I feel like I've developed this layer of fat all over my body and I can't even bare to look in the mirror. I'm not looking pregnant, just sloppy. I have a dr's appt tomorrow and I'm so afraid to go because I'm dreading getting on the scale. I've always had an obsession with my weight, like fear that comes over me just when I get on the scale. My husband just doesn't understand and I keep explaining it to him by taking his greatest fear and exposing him to it for 40 weeks straight. I know I have to gain weight and I want a healthy baby but I also want to be healthy doing it. I see other women and they have a bump, I just look like I'm piling on the lbs all over. Does anyone else feel this way?

PonyMaid · September 2010

I had a hard time at the "just looking fat" stage too. It was around 14-16 wks and I just felt like I had gotten fat! I didn't feel like I looked pregnant yet but my clothes weren't fitting. It WILL GET BETTER!!!!! I promise. You will pop in a few weeks and you can still be healthy while getting more...bumpy! Don't stress too much. *HUGS*

SarahTx5701 · September 2010

it can feel like that for a while.

You'll feel much better about gaining weight once you have a bump.

I bet you dont look anyway near as bad as what you think you try.

I lost 10 lbs before my bfp and the scale just now showed my pre weight loss weight and it sucks.

But....such is life. To be fair my food choices have sucked lately.

Hang in there. early 2nd tri is a trasitional phase.

Nurselorie · September 2010

PonyMaid:
I had a hard time at the "just looking fat" stage too. It was around 14-16 wks and I just felt like I had gotten fat! I didn't feel like I looked pregnant yet but my clothes weren't fitting. It WILL GET BETTER!!!!! I promise. You will pop in a few weeks and you can still be healthy while getting more...bumpy! Don't stress too much. *HUGS*

This! That phase sucks. I worked hard to get in shape and to see my stomach (and back, and legs...) get that chubby look made me want to cry. I'm starting to show and feel cuter (besides the acne and looking tired). It will get better soon! Buy yourself a cute shirt to make yourself feel better. It worked wonders for me last week

BlondeDutchess912 · September 2010

I know exactly how you feel. After my appt last night I attempted to shower in the dark in an effort to avoid seeing myself naked. Thankfully DH came in and told how rediculous I am before I hurt myself.

hollerjeepgirl · September 2010

That's the sucky part about being a female, especially if you've had weight issues all your life. I definitely have but you gotta think that it's the first time in your life you get to get away with eating anything! Well, not anything but that you can't be judged. You'll go through an awkard period until you start looking more preggers - this could take a while too, each person's body is different. Tell your DH that he better compliment you and that pregnant women are beautiful!! You're growing a baby in you so think of it as a miracle in disguise

lokieros · September 2010

I have a friend that has always gotten on the scale backwards at her appointments to keep herself from stressing over her weight. The day-to-day looking bigger still affects her, but she says that little trick has always helped take at least some of the stress off lol.

Whitney DD · September 2010

I felt "just fat" between 14 and 18 weeks, and NOW I think I am finally starting to look pregnant. Sometime it still just looks chunky to me though. Hang in there lady.

scyriacks · September 2010

Thanks everyone I feel better, especially since the office just called and has to reschedule my appointment till next week

My husband is the greatest and I'm very lucky. All he does is tell me how great I look and how much he loves me. He is a personal trainer on the side for fun (who really does that?) and his only problem is not being able to bulk up (yeah I wish) for body building. I'm going to try that getting on the scale backwards trick. I just feel like I look tired, my skin is breaking out and my hair is looking thinner and now this (blah)

HoolahZinger · September 2010

I feel like Im in a chubby stage at the moment. The good news is that the weight around the middle may just look like fat but remember, the uterus is expanding! I always remind myself that so that I don't feel SO frumpy. And as frustrating as it is...you gotta get passed the weight number. We are supposed to gain some weight so it will go up - and if it doesn't then it's not a good thing (unless way overweight). Hang in there and stay strong!

katkat74 · September 2010

You are sooo not alone. This is supposed to be the happiest time of my life and I feel sooo blessed to be pregnant but I am really struggling feeling unattractive 24/7. I feel mega chubby and just keep telling myself one day at a time. As the above poster said..don't look when you get weighed. I just close my eyes every time and tell the nurse that ignorance is bliss:) They just laugh and some have said they have a lot of patients who do this so we are obviously not the only ones who can't bear to look at the scale. Tongue Tied

green bean · September 2010

yeah Iam at the feeling chubby and chunky stage too, no fun , but at least there is a reason that we are looking and getting bigger right? It not like you just randomly started to gain weight, I dont get the option of getting on the scale backwards at my appointments , they have the patients take our own weight before every appointment so we have to look. Sad

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