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Pregnancy Planning? Long, sorry:)

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Hello.  CD1 over here and I am beginning to evaluate this process. We're about 7 months in TTC.  SA normal.

 I am teacher, and I know that you can't plan a pregnancy, but I was hoping to sort of try to plan my due date within a 5 month time span, so i would be able merge my 12 week FMLA time off with some/most of my 10 week summer vacation.

Staying home isn't really a great option for me, but I am not that comfortable with putting a 3 month old baby in daycare. I know for some people that's perfectly fine, but I am just anticipating myself not feeling comfortable with that. 

So, I guess I am just asking for advice, or what you would do and why.  Should we keep trying past next month (which would put me due early July of 2111, or if that  doesn't work should be stop, and wait to start up again next May, or just keep trying?

 One year isn't that big of a deal to me to delay TTC, I'm 27 and DH is 26, but I'm worried this could be cycle.

 Advice?  Opinions?

 

 

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  • sbrowns08sbrowns08 member
    I'm a teacher too, and I thought it would be great to plan as you said. Right now I would be overjoyed for a baby any month of the year. We will keep trying every month regardless of due date.

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  • BecoshBecosh

    I think you should just keep trying. Who knows how long it will take you (hopefully not long!) but I'm sure you would hate to waste time because the timing wasn't perfect.

    I have pretty severe spring allergies and when we started TTC we had wanted to get pregnant in the right time frame to avoid being pregnant during March and April. It didn't happen and instead of stopping and trying again when the timing is right, we decided to just keep trying.

    This is just my personal opinion and only you and your husband can make the decision. Good luck! 

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  • MaddikakesMaddikakes
    This really isn't a question any of us can answer for you...
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  • nic5606nic5606 member
    That is a personal choice you and dh have to make. Are you doing everthing possible to achieve pregnancy each month?  Like opks and cervix position( i see u already chart). if you are and really dont want to put a 3mnth old in day car, then wait, but know it just may prolong ttc even longer.  Good luck with whatever you two decide.

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  • soontobe05soontobe05

    imagenic5606:
    That is a personal choice you and dh have to make. Are you doing everthing possible to achieve pregnancy each month?  Like opks and cervix position( i see u already chart). if you are and really dont want to put a 3mnth old in day car, then wait, but know it just may prolong ttc even longer.  Good luck with whatever you two decide.

    This. And FWIW, I didn't want to put my three month old in dc either so I understand.  

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  • meganrunsmeganruns member

    I agree with what all of the PPs said.

    I, too, am a teacher and started out the TTC journey trying to plan it "just right."  Then I realized that the perfect timing doesn't really exist.  At this point, I'll be thrilled to get KU just about any time of the year because what matters is that a hopefully happy, healthy baby will be on its way.

    You and your DH should talk it out to see what the best options are for you.  Good luck! 

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  • kmv68kmv68
    I am a teacher too, and like everyone, having a baby end of April would have been perfect for timing, BUT, that didn't happen.  I am not going to stop trying based on my time off.  I want a baby and can't put off trying for a few months when I already have no idea how long it will take to get KU.  I guess it depends how badly you want a baby.
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  • jb2rnjb2rn member

    If you want it this badly (and it sounds like you do, like most of us on here), then I would not sit it out a month.

    If I got pregnant this cycle, I would be due right as we move. My husband is in the military, so it might mean a different state, maybe a different country! It's not ideal, but I wasn't willing to sit it out a month or two due to bad timing.

    good luck with your decision.

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  • zoe_catzoe_cat

    I would keep trying.  You reeeaaally can't plan these things.  I've learned that the hard way.  For a variety of reasons, having a March, April, or May 2011 would have been perfect.  I ended up getting pg but then miscarrying, and per my doctor's advice had to wait a cycle to start TTC again, and that "perfect" time frame didn't work out for us.

    I understand not wanting to put your 3 month old in daycare.  I had to do that with DD#1 and it was really hard.  If you don't mind waiting until next year to try again, that's understandable and I don't blame you one bit.  But personally, my desire for another baby outweighs my desire for perfect timing.

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  • ealongealong member
    Thank you so much for your kind advice and thoughts.  I guess we have a lot to think about, but ultimately having a happy, healthy baby is really what's important in the long run:)
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