Shower for 2nd baby?

ju.vanderw · September 2010

It's not really normal to have a shower for your second baby, is it?

Mama_SAS · September 2010

Not really, at least not where I'm from.

I've found that this does differ depending on your location and your family traditions, etc. Some people feel that each shower is a celebration for each child.

Charlotte0283 · September 2010

No, it's not exactly normal. The shower is designed for the first time mom to help with getting her the basics plus some. It's assumed then that with the second child you didn't throw away everything and will have most of what you need already. Many do meet and greets for a second child.

qme09 · September 2010

Charlotte0283:
No, it's not exactly normal. The shower is designed for the first time mom to help with getting her the basics plus some. It's assumed then that with the second child you didn't throw away everything and will have most of what you need already. Many do meet and greets for a second child.

This is what I thought generally happened, but I think that in some situations or social circles, the second shower is acceptable. Really it just depends on whether or not someone throws you one, I think. I mean, I would never ever expect anyone to throw me a second (or first, for that matter) shower, but if they did, I would just request that a charitable donation be made in lieu of gifts.

mom2hay · September 2010

I think it all depends on the situation and if someone wants to throw you a shower. I have a good friend who is throwing me a shower even though this is my 2nd baby.

My daughter will almost be 8 yrs old when this baby is born. She is from a previous marriage and when her dad and I divorced, we got rid of everything because neither one of us wanted the other using it with other people. This baby will be my fiance's first and his family is excited to celebrate it.

My friend said there was no way she was not giving me a shower. This time around though we have pretty much bought all the big stuff ourselves and I kept my guest list extremely low. I only invited close family and friends. The people who planned my showers when I was pregnant with my daughter, invited everyone and their mom it seemed like.

genaT · September 2010

in your case i thinks it ok you kids are far enough apart that you wouldn't st ill have have yoru crib and everything

i had a friend who had a "spinkle" shower for the second baby which was cute BUT in my opion no need because everyone brings you gifts etc when they come visit the baby the first time anyway and her kids are only 18 montsh apart

mom2hay · September 2010

genaT:
in your case i thinks it ok you kids are far enough apart that you wouldn't st ill have have yoru crib and everything

i had a friend who had a "spinkle" shower for the second baby which was cute BUT in my opion no need because everyone brings you gifts etc when they come visit the baby the first time anyway and her kids are only 18 montsh apart

If you are talking to me yeah I just realized that even if I still had her crib, it has been recalled. It was a drop down or drop side or whatever it is called. It's wayyy too early to think. LOL

christen115 · September 2010

mom2hay:

I think it all depends on the situation and if someone wants to throw you a shower.

My daughter will almost be 8 yrs old when this baby is born. She is from a previous marriage and when her dad and I divorced, we got rid of everything because neither one of us wanted the other using it with other people. This baby will be my fiance's first and his family is excited to celebrate it.

My DD will be 9 next month, and was from a previous relationship. This is my DH 1st child, so his family (as well as mine) is very excited. I had a lavish and fabulous shower and received everything I needed and more.

I think if you have children close in age, no it's not appropriate to have another shower.

Lina1030 · September 2010

mom2hay:
I think it all depends on the situation and if someone wants to throw you a shower. I have a good friend who is throwing me a shower even though this is my 2nd baby.
My daughter will almost be 8 yrs old when this baby is born. She is from a previous marriage and when her dad and I divorced, we got rid of everything because neither one of us wanted the other using it with other people. This baby will be my fiance's first and his family is excited to celebrate it.
My friend said there was no way she was not giving me a shower. This time around though we have pretty much bought all the big stuff ourselves and I kept my guest list extremely low. I only invited close family and friends. The people who planned my showers when I was pregnant with my daughter, invited everyone and their mom it seemed like.

My daughter will be 9 in less than a week....also from my 1st marriage. We got rid of everything when we divorced (which was over 6 years ago)...I did not know when I would meet someone else and when we would get married and have children...no point in holding on to everything. So we are starting over and I had a 2nd shower. This is also the first baby on DH's side now. However, I do agree that each baby should have a "celebration" and should have his/her own shower. After all every baby book has a page on it...why should the 2nd, 3rd child have a blank page? LOL When we have a third I would like to celebrated him/her...obviously I will keep all the big items we got and maybe register for girly things if we have a girl or just simple stuff we may need at the time. I would also want a much smaller/intimate shower than I had this time (which was 60 ppl). I don't see anything wrong.

mom2hay · September 2010

christen115:
mom2hay:

I think it all depends on the situation and if someone wants to throw you a shower.

My daughter will almost be 8 yrs old when this baby is born. She is from a previous marriage and when her dad and I divorced, we got rid of everything because neither one of us wanted the other using it with other people. This baby will be my fiance's first and his family is excited to celebrate it.

My DD will be 9 next month, and was from a previous relationship. This is my DH 1st child, so his family (as well as mine) is very excited. I had a lavish and fabulous shower and received everything I needed and more.

I think if you have children close in age, no it's not appropriate to have another shower.

LOL yeah I should have mentioned that my family is also excited. Kinda sounds like it is just his. I honestly thought I would never have kids again because I didn't want another child to possibly go through a divorce or mommy and daddy not together etc until I met my fiance. Although we were not trying when I got pregnant, I knew that I did want to have kids with him.

Lina1030 · September 2010

mom2hay:
christen115:
mom2hay:

I think it all depends on the situation and if someone wants to throw you a shower.
My daughter will almost be 8 yrs old when this baby is born. She is from a previous marriage and when her dad and I divorced, we got rid of everything because neither one of us wanted the other using it with other people. This baby will be my fiance's first and his family is excited to celebrate it.
My DD will be 9 next month, and was from a previous relationship. This is my DH 1st child, so his family (as well as mine) is very excited. I had a lavish and fabulous shower and received everything I needed and more.
I think if you have children close in age, no it's not appropriate to have another shower.
LOL yeah I should have mentioned that my family is also excited. Kinda sounds like it is just his. I honestly thought I would never have kids again because I didn't want another child to possibly go through a divorce or mommy and daddy not together etc until I met my fiance. Although we were not trying when I got pregnant, I knew that I did want to have kids with him.

DH and I dated for 4 yrs before we got engaged, got married 4 mos later and started trying 5 mos after we got married...we wanted to start right away/within 6 mos...just had our 1 yr anniversary this summer. He has been AMAZING w/DD, better father than her own biological father...we are very blessed...I knew I would marry this man and have a wonderful life with him and grow our family. Good luck to you....glad things turned around for you too and you found a good man for you and your daughter.

ceeceesean · September 2010

Work had a lunch/sprinkle for me yesterday. Got a generous pbk gift card an adorable outfit and other cute little things. This is my third. It just depends on your circle of friends/family I guess - and people will give yu stuff anyway - formal shower or not. It just won't be any big stuff like car seat etc, which is fine. I prefer to buy my big ticket items.

MSC03 · September 2010

Not 'round these parts.

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