My (part time) nanny just quit :-(

LouiseB2001 · September 2010

Today was my first 'real' day back at work, part time. We had found a nanny who was super-sweet, a nursing student, 23 years old who had loads of experience with small babies. Today was a really tough day and DD was crying most morning and apparently refusing the bottle (which she never has done). I had to come home in the middle to feed her and as soon as I handed her back over she started crying really bad. When I got her back she stopped immediately. She must be getting very attached to me (and DH of course) but I was happy that last week's trial hours had gone so well. So this evening the nanny text me saying she need to focus on her studies. I am so stressed, now I have to go out there and search for someone new. I have a report due by the end of this week and DH is really busy at work too. At the same time I can't shake the feeling of rejection :-( Does anyone have a similar experience?

murfygirl · September 2010

Before DH and kids I was a nanny. I hope she doesn't just up and leave you high and dry without childcare!

LouiseB2001 · September 2010

Oh she did. She is not coming on Thursday :-( Desperately searching babysitting websites right now.

anna7602 · September 2010

I'm so sorry! It's excruciating to depend on someone else for something so important. I can't tell you the number of times our nanny called out sick or wasn't available (with advance notice) when I had a really big deadline and there was nothing for me to do about it. It's really hard to find someone your child is comfortable with at a moment's notice.

Is there anyone you know whose nanny might be comfortable watching two kids for a few days until you figure out a long-term solution? Can your DH take a vacation day or two to help you out in a pinch?

daenikoffre · September 2010

Yikes. That's a bit unprofessional, to say the least..

Are your jobs flexible at all? Are half days a possibility until you get things sorter? Also, where in SoCal are you? My sister is a nanny and has a 2 year old boy. She could put the word out to her friends. She's near Long Beach.

LouiseB2001 · September 2010

Thanks, that is really nice, but I am all the way down in San Diego. DH got home (he teaches really late) and said he would be able to take half a day off. Luckily I can do lots of work from home, so combined with working each evening when DD sleeps I think I will make it through this week.

murfygirl · September 2010

That is terrible! I feel your pain. As a nanny I can't tell you how many times I have gone to work, sick, exhausted or even overwhelmed because I knew parents couldn't miss work.

Uiowachick01 · September 2010

LouiseB2001:
Oh she did. She is not coming on Thursday :-( Desperately searching babysitting websites right now.

I was a nanny for years. I will say this, if she up and quit like that I wouldn't want her back. You WILL find someone that is AMAZING! And will not just give up because of a tough day. Keep searching, don't settle and you and your LO will find a great nanny/ caregiver

robinadorno · September 2010

I just posted about this last week! I did a trial run with a friend to sit for me, and she tried it and decided she would commit. I pulled my son out of day care and she then tells me she doesn't want the job. I was SOOO upset., so impossible to find decent childcare. But if your LO was crying a lot w/ her she wasn't the one for you. I have another friend watching him now and he loves her, it's even at her home and he doesn't mind the unfamiliar settings. At day care he cried a lot and came home totally not himself. GL.

LouiseB2001 · September 2010

robinadorno:
I just posted about this last week! I did a trial run with a friend to sit for me, and she tried it and decided she would commit. I pulled my son out of day care and she then tells me she doesn't want the job. I was SOOO upset., so impossible to find decent childcare. But if your LO was crying a lot w/ her she wasn't the one for you. I have another friend watching him now and he loves her, it's even at her home and he doesn't mind the unfamiliar settings. At day care he cried a lot and came home totally not himself. GL.

I remember your post, I'm glad things worked out for you in the end. You are right I'm sure I will find somebody else. I don't think it was because DD didn't like her though that she cried, I am more convinced that DD is developing more attachment towards me. I have been her sole care taker (apart from of course DH) and she has only been around other people when I have been there. So I do worry a bit about the transition to yet another new person. DD is very sociable though, so hopefully it will work out.

missjade21 · September 2010

Hey. I have a friend that just moved to San Diego that was a nanny when she lived here. She's not gonna be there all that long (just a few months) but I just talked to her and she said that she would definitely talk to you and maybe she could help for a couple weeks or something while you're finding someone new.

If you're interested, let me know, and I can send you her email address or something.

LouiseB2001 · September 2010

missjade21:
Hey. I have a friend that just moved to San Diego that was a nanny when she lived here. She's not gonna be there all that long (just a few months) but I just talked to her and she said that she would definitely talk to you and maybe she could help for a couple weeks or something while you're finding someone new.
If you're interested, let me know, and I can send you her email address or something.

That would be fantastic, can you pm me her email? Thanks :-)

missjade21 · September 2010

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