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Littlejen22
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People with no kids will always be the best parents
Littlejen22
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And by that I mean without bio-kids (or without REALLY raising a child themself). The below post made me come up with this post but it certainly is not just her. Wait until you have a child, and really wait until you have two, and then come back and tell me what your child "will" do or won't do because I can promise you that there will be many things that you do or don't do that you would have never imagined before having a child.
For example, I never in a million years though I would be the parent with the 1yo running/walking through the store while I push a cart. DD is 21mos and can get out of any harness besides her car seat and she will just stand up or hang out of the cart, if I stop it just gives her more opportunity to do so. I can threaten to leave but she is 21mos and honestly could not care less, she would probably prefer leaving anyway.
I also never thought I would let my almost 4yo dip any food in ketchup, that I would actually offer ketchup for his pasta or veggies just so that he will eat them. There are so many other examples that I will not bore you with, if you have never had a little kid I will let you discover your own issues for yourself.
Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies
Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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Re: People with no kids will always be the best parents
Shockingly, I have to agree.
Although I can't think of any examples at this moment, I KNOW there were many things I said I would "never" let my children do or do as a parent. Then I physically had a child. Truthfully, I think having DS has made me a better parent to SD in some ways. You can't possibly control everything, and to try will make you crazy
Wow, i'm so glad you're perfect. Can you teach me how to be?
Honestly, My mom was a really good mom and my sis and i were pretty well behaved kids, but we still had incidents like the time we were in Target with my mom and got in an argument and she kicked me in the shin. And then when we were leaving target (after my mom gave us a tongue lashing) I got in the car and proceeded to pour a glass of Coca Cola over my sis's head....in the car.
You can say all you want that YOUR kid will never do that, but honey EVERY kid does that kind of stuff. You cannot POSSIBLY prevent bad behavior to that extreme. I mean, heck, my mom didn't have any clue she would ever need to teach us the rule "Don't kick your sister in target" or "don't pour pop over your sister's head in the car" But we certainly learned those rules AFTER we misbehaved. That's what misbehavior is all about, an opportunity to test boundaries and learn where our parents stand.
To say your kid will NEVER misbehave is just stupid. OF COURSE they're going to. And that's how you're going to teach them NOT to do those things. But there has to be a FIRST incident before you can teach the lesson.
Ok, first I will be the grammar police and it is "follow through".
But just because you did something a certain way as a child does not mean your kid will. My DS at almost 4 sits nicely in the cart but DD will not, it looks pretty funny that my older child is in the cart and the little one is not. They are both raised the same. And I hope you never have a kid that is a screamer (luckily mine do not do that at least never in public so far) and that if you do that you are able to leave them at home with your DH while you shop because many people have no choice but to bring their kids. My point is that until you raise a child it is impossible to understand that you do not have control over everything that you think you can control.
I never said i was perfect or that i would be the perfect parent. I expect my kids to behave a certain way and especially in public. Im using my mother as a teacher to me. Im not saying we never bugged each other as sisters thats going to happen, but in public we wouldnt think of going as far as we do at home. I understood and so did my little sister that a certain behavior was expected. Now im not dumb to believe that my children will never act out ever but believe me it wont go far. Im not the only one in my family who thinks like this. I know if my kid is out with my sisters, or mom that it will get the same toung lashing that i would give it or worse and i thank god for that.
One of the funniest things I have ever read!
I'm glad your children will be well behaved little angels due to having such a wonderful mother. Unfortunately, it looks as though there is a good chance they will also be gramatically ignorant.
Get off your high horse already. Wait until your child is 2 or 3 then come back here and try and tell us what a "perfect" child you have.
LMAO. How will a tongue lashing after the fact prevent the event from every happening? You said that your child will never scream while out in a store so to get a tongue lashing that would assume they have already done what you said would never happen. And this assumes that your child will never make the same mistakes twice b/c they get yelled at. Or will you beat it into them?
Honestly, I had to re-read it. The first time I thought it said "Poop".
Yay!! Someone else who knows what "pop" is
I swear when I say it out here people just stare at me with this blank look :P
Littlejen you are so correct. DH and I are famous for it. We constantly comment (to each other) on how his sisters raise their kids. We tut tut at my brother all the time. We have it down how we will raise our little angels. No spoiling, no giving in, routines all the way.
DH got up in the middle of the night last night because our puppy was crying and let him into the kitchen. Our first rule was that he slept in the utility room and not the kitchen as he will chew the furniture.
I was mad with DH for doing it and he was mad with me for putting in ear plugs and sleeping through it lol.
DH is already bugging me with how he is constantly trying to train Marley to sit, I feel he is on his case 24/7. He feels that I am to lenient and make an eejit out of him but always lifting him and hugging and kissing him.
I think I see a parenting course in our near future lol.
YES!
I always said I would NEVER co-sleep with DD. It's a bad habit, sanctity of the marriage bed, blah, blah, blah.
Yeah, I was woken up this morning by a certain 9 month old kicking me in the head.
When it's 2am, and you know she'll go back to sleep if you put her in your bed, you just do what you have to do.
I also swear I'll never co-sleep (I'm not sure why the 18 month old was in my bed this morning!) Oh, that's right, I had a baby - realized I needed to BF, sleep, and keep her sleeping - only way I found to do, was co-sleep.
The truth is, we are not our parents. I am 1 of 5 and we never, and I mean NEVER misbehaved in public. My parents used to get compliments all the time. But, I will not raise my children like that. We were well-behaved out of fear, not respect and I do not want my children to fear me. I will find my own path, thank you. And my hope is that my DD won't be yelling in the shopping cart at Acme (she only yelled while in line last night), but the truth is, when you work and you are keeping house and your husband is traveling and you need food so you drag a toddler to Acme at 7:00, sometimes they are not going to act perfect!
And - my Mom was a SAHM - we were poor, never vacationed, wore hand-me-downs that didn't fit, listened to parents fighting all the time, and she was 20 when she had her first - not 35. But sure, we were weel behaved.
Have a child first and experience the bond, the magic, the love (the inability to let your baby cry - even though all the books say you should), then tell all of us how great you are and how you achieved all the expectations you set for yourself while pregnant.
LMAO!!! Good luck with your "perfect" child!
Great analogy!
YES! We were well behaved little chillin's. If we werent we got the belt. But thats not how I want to discipline my child. So therefore he acts differently than I used to at his age.
I always miss the good stuff....I had no idea until I read her previous post.
Sigh! (off to get some coffee......)
I'm with ya, LittleJen - I swore my kids would be perfect restaurant kids. No yelling, no throwing food, etc. Having worked in the restaurant biz for 8 years, and with DH being an AGM, I just KNEW our kids would be well behaved. And mostly, they are.
But just last month, I had to get up and leave DH'S RESTAURANT (while he was working) because SS was so out of control that tables were requesting to be moved away from us. And I had to let him yell for a few minutes, because I was in the middle of feeding Drew. After I finished, we left. I didn't even get to eat! And DH STILL thinks its hilarious that I walked out with my tail between my legs, haha.?
It's true. And with my SKids I have had the same experience. There are rules that we have now (such as, do not climb on the top of your bed and attempt to walk across your wall...you will fall and hurt yourself) that I never in a million years thought needed verbalization.
Kids will come up with the craziest off the wall things to do that you're like "Um.....thought it was common sense.....but I guess not. So now I'm telling you, don't do that".
I did not even think of it in these terms but yeah, there were many things that I thought were common sense that I had to tell SD as if they were rules that only I would have.
because it's NOT!
"Pop" is totally a michigan thing! LOL.
My cousins down south either say Soda or they're like "You want a coke?" "Sure" "What kind, we got pepsi, mountain dew, sprite..."
Absolutely correct. It's actually very easy to say that. In fact, I think I'll go ahead and say that tomorrow when my kids are running around the store screaming. It might make me feel better!