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Single Mom's of younger babies..

Abeja1226Abeja1226 member
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Did you let your X/baby's father take the baby for a couple hours or did he just see LO at your house only?  My huge DB of an ExFI will NOT stop bothering me about taking our DD to his house/to visit his even bigger of a DB Mother, etc...she is only 3 months old and I don't know if that is too young to be carted back and forth (actually, I think it is!)

She's also just starting to get on a good napping schedule now and I don't want to mess that up.  I let DB come over every day to see her and all day Saturday and Sunday he watches her at my house so I can have some time to myself (except today because his football game isn't on TV so he's at the bar watching IT instead of DD)...

Were trying to avoid court due to costs and what not and right now I don't stop him from seeing her...only from taking her everywhere because I don't think she's a dog and she has NOTHING over either of his parents house...what are your thoughts?

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  • carrieannewcarrieannew member
    That's a tough one, every situation is different. At that age for me no, but that was because DB had only seen him 1 or 2 times and had not feed or even changed him. But it sounds like your ex has a good handle of the daily routine. I don't think an hour will hurt anything if its around a nap time. I think its important for your ex to get alone time outside of your home. Sorry not sure that is the answer you wanted. But it really does depend on the situation.
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    Unfortunately I think that you will have to wind up going to court.  It's always better to have these things ironed out, rather than trying to do it the "nice" way.  Because nice always....well, you know the rest, and if not, open any post that Sweetie replies to.  Sound advice right there.

    As far as letting him take her, I personally feel she's too young.  I also don't know your X's history (is he responsible, would you be worried about him driving with her, etc.).

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  • Meliss227Meliss227
    I tried being nice and it didn't work so well so now I only let him come to see Cooper at my place. I will go to court before the ex takes him anywhere on his own. 
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  • Abeja1226Abeja1226 member

    Thankfully, he is very responsible with her, the only time I worry about him watching her is at night time or overnight because he falls asleep VERY easily and I've caught him asleep with her on his chest on the couch many times (which freaks me out because I feel she could either roll right off or roll into the couch cushion).  I ended up letting him take her to his Dad's house on Sunday while he showered for an hour and she slept most of the time...it sort of ruined her "schedule" as she didn't take her afternoon nap until much later and slept till 6pm....but then again maybe it was just a coincidence?

    It's a tough situation no matter how I look at it but thanks for your insight ladies!  And as for the court thing...I am just being smart and writing down everything/stupid things he does (there is not much, just sort of stupid immature irresponsible things but I figured to write it down anyway) so I can be prepared when that day comes. 

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