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Why do you BW?

tojo7306tojo7306
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I'm curious.  I've started to lurk here on AP sometimes, though I don't know much about the theories behind AP.  Some things I do, some I don't.  My son is just over three months, and I have an Infantino Wrap & Tie.  Maybe you're all familiar with it, but it can be used for front carrying, facing in or out, as well as on the back.  My son can hold his head well enough now to use it facing out, and seems to enjoy being carried so he can look around, instead of being in his stroller.  I certainly don't mind wearing him, but I'm wondering if him facing out negates the "point" of baby wearing.  I can't see his face when he faces out, but I can still talk to him.  If he faces in, it seems his neck is always craned to look around.  So, and this may be a stupid question, is there an intended or underlying theory to baby-wearing that having him faced out negates?  Is the convenience of letting him look around and keeping my hands free while we're on a walk enough?  Thanks!
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Re: Why do you BW?

  • poison489poison489

    I haven't read any books on AP, so I wouldn't call myself an expert.  Based on what feels like natural instinct to me, wearing LO just seems right.   I don't think that having LO face out would negate AP.  I believe the point is that you are having contact with LO and bonding together.  You are spending time doing things together and LO is learning by watching you do things.  My DS also spends a lot of time trying to look at his surroundings when he is facing me, but I know it is because he is curious about what is going on in the world around him.  Since babies enjoy being held you don't have to worry about running to soothe LO that might be in a swing, stroller, play pen, etc.  I believe this will result in LO being less frustrated because he is content more of the time.

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  • hikerbethhikerbeth member

    I babywear because I hate strollers (with the exception of my jogging stroller when used for exercise).

    I also think it helps with attachment.  My DD was worn all the time (she was really fussy) and has turned out to be an awesome, independent girl who is still very attached to me emotionally (if that makes any sense).  We have a great relationship.

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  • EmmieBEmmieB member

    snuggles.

    and it's way easier than maneuvering a stroller. and safer than balancing the infant seat in a shopping cart.

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  • Ruby_SohoRuby_Soho

    I love the closeness that BW affords. Now that DS is awake a bit more I love wearing him while I'm pottering around the house and garden. I talk him through what I'm doing, point out shapes and colours, explain what things are and how they work. He doesn't quite have the head control to face out yet nor the ability to stay awake for long enough but I'll do that too when he is ready. Babies learn so much from listening to is and when we have conversations with them. By conversations I mean asking him a question and leaving a gap for his turn to talk. He's obviously too little to reply but he's still soaking it all up and learning the art of conversation.

    I definitely would miss a lot of opportunities if he was just lying on the floor while I did stuff or if he was in a pram. We got a hammidown pram from friends and I think I used it twice before I decided I hated it!

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  • jolynreedjolynreed

    I have a connective tissue disorder, and my shoulders tend to dislocate, so carrying DS around all day would be painful, and a little dangerous. I love being able to snuggle with Atti without straining my joints, and I love being able to get things done around the house while my husband is at work.

    Plus, we have a fairly small car, and I only wanted a jogging stroller for when I exercise...it doesn't really fit in my car that well.

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  • Que*SyrahQue*Syrah member

    I enjoy wearing my son but don't do it nearly as often as the other moms on here it seems. A lot of times the stroller is so much more convenient for me. Also, my son gets heavy and carrying the diaper bag is awkward. I feel so loaded down. I do have arthritis though so this probably impacts the frequency of my BWing.

    I guess I mainly do it for convenience. It's easier to do grocery shopping, Target, walking to and from stores, pedi office, the house/car, etc. wearing him than trying to carry. It's also helpful around the house.

    I don't like him facing out though. I prefer him to face me.

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