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DD Prefers Daddy

Another JenniferAnother Jennifer
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Okay maybe I'm being totally neurotic here and maybe if I was a better "attached" mother this wouldn't be happening but I'm getting jealous of DH because I think DD prefers him to me. 

I work full time and DH is a very involved father.  We're pretty egalitarian in how we run our house although I do most of the feedings and diaper changes.  I'm usually the one who puts her to bed.  

Last night she woke up at 3:00 and I pulled her into our bed (she sleeps in a crib in our room).  She turned right over to snuggle up with DH.  She's been reaching for him lately too when I hold her.  

I think DH is more fun than I am.  He cracks her up all of the time.  Also I feel like I'm the one who does the not fun things, e.g. diaper changes and fighting with her to go to sleep.  I think she might be resenting me.  

Is this a normal thing?  Do kids go back and forth as to which parent is their favorite?  

 

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  • 7river7wed77river7wed7
    Yup. Totally normal.
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  • sweetkakes419sweetkakes419
    DS is all mommy, all the time, right now which frustrates DH, but DH knows that one day it will switch and it will be him with the blessings and curses of being the favored parent.  Just try to enjoy your own time with DD, and if you think she is reaching for DH while with you, maybe try walking into the other room with her and spending time together that way?
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  • kdellokdello member
    Totally normal behavior! Plus, it's sort of nice to have a Daddy who can make LO happy instead of it being ALL you, all the time.
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  • MrsErinnElizabethMrsErinnElizabeth

    Oh, Confused . (Wink)

    DD has just started this as well.  DH is always playing with her and making her laugh, while more often, I'm the one that's stuck with 'the dirty work'.  She snuggles with him at night and even starts crying when he leaves now, which she never used to do.

    In saying that, if she's hurt or hungry or tired, she still always wants me.  So she switches back and forth throughout the day, even.  Haha.

    I figure it's ok to let DH have a turn being in the spotlight.  He was always a bit disappointed that she wasn't as happy with him (when she was a newborn and whatnot) so he's totally eating all of this new behavior up.  It's too cute to be sad about ;) 

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  • tmp-214118062502913tmp-214118062502913

    We JUST got to the point where Emerson prefers me to Daddy.  My husband is a SAHD and he knows best how to comfort her, understands her toddler speak better, has private jokes with her.  I work full time and I always feel that my only parenting power is the milk that comes from my breasts.

    Well the past month or so suddenly I am the super cool parent.  When she wakes at night and my husband goes to her she screams for me and as soon as I arrive she immediately calms down and goes back to sleep.  When I get home she almost cries she's so excited, singing and dancing.  Now my husband says he's a bit jealous.

    And I know a month from now, he will be the favorite again.  It's always changing. Smile

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