Adoption Facilitator??? — The Bump

Adoption Facilitator???

What do you think about adoption facilitators?  I have never even heard of them until this week.  We are going through a traditional agency, but I am interested in learning more about what facilitators do.

Re: Adoption Facilitator???

  • I started our process not in favor of facilitators.  That said, and after a twenty month wait with a traditional program, I see that they have a place.  At month nineteen, we grew weary and starting working with facilitators.  Within six or seven weeks, we matched with two birthmoms!

    The downside is that it is an additional expense.  I found several that had no or very low sign-up fees (no more than $250).  But the match fees range from 1500-5000. 

     The reason that I was not originally in favor of using facilitators was because an agency told me that facilitators tend to "lie about situations" and often only have really difficult to place situations (alcohol and drug use in excess).  I found this not to be true-  it seems that there are lawyers and small agencies that rely on these facilitators to get PAPs to present to birth moms.  I also liked that we saw info about birth moms before we were presented.  It allowed DH and I to have more discussion about our comfort level with certain lifestyles. 

    Aside from  the $$$, the down side for me is that the emotional expense of knowing the details was hard.  It made it all seem more real. 

    image Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
  • I was going to ask the same question! Silliestbunny, Are you going through your agency you were using for finalization or just hiring an attorney? We have found a facilitator who has lots of situations with a lower match fee, however, I'm not really sure what we would do if we were matched!!!!

    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
  • Loading the player...
  • We used a facilitator that only does private, independent adoptions.  Our fees ended up being considerably LESS than any agency we looked at.  They meet with the BM's themselves, and set up the match meetings, and follow everything through from beginning to end.  Unlike other facilitators that take a fee, then refer you onto to somebody else, lawyer, agency, etc, that also charge a fee.
    TTC since 4/07
    Type II Diabetes - 6 insulin shots a day
    Dx: Fallopian Tubes lack the ability to move an egg - Moved onto Adoption in 2009 and brought our amazing DD home at 3-days old in 2010.


This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards