Bedsharing 'position'

two-pink-shoes · September 2010

We don't typically bedshare b/c DH is a wild sleeper and we only have a queen-sized bed but in the past several days I've found that we avoid a bedtime meltdown and I'm less tired if I nurse DS to sleep in our bed and sleep with him until DH comes to bed. (I'm probably less tired b/c he goes to bed at 7:30, lol). My only issue is that I've been scared to sleep in any position except on my side facing DS so I can keep one arm on him, and this makes me sore. Do you move around or sleep on your back when you bedshare? How do you know where your LO is if you do?

poison489 · September 2010

When DS first arrived we were scared about bed sharing and I would only sleep facing him. I would switch sides with him throughout the night for nursing sessions before DH would join us in bed, so I wouldn't be on the same side all night. Now that DS is stronger and able to move around, I feel comfortable with turning my back to him and changing positions. We keep pillows on the other side of him (at the edge of the bed) just in case he rolls around. He is usually pretty good about staying in one spot though.

BFab11 · September 2010

On my side facing him, and if i need to move I'll go to his other side so I'm still on my side facing him.

Or on my back with him against my side.

Bride2b2004 · September 2010

BFab11:
On my side facing him, and if i need to move I'll go to his other side so I'm still on my side facing him.
Or on my back with him against my side.

WSS. But DS doesn't really roll around yet. When he starts, we will put a rail on the side of the bed to make sure he can't roll off. I don't like pillows, I don't even use one when DS is in bed with me, because of suffocation hazard. Our bed rail is mesh and has long things that go under our mattress to hold it in place, with a drop down side. I think we got it at BRU (bought it when DS1 was a baby).

LouiseB2001 · September 2010

I did the very same when we started bed-sharing, sleeping only facing her, with my arm above her. I got so sore as well. Now that she is a bit older I can lie on my back for part of the night or I sometimes even put her in the middle between us so I can be on my other side; I know that DH won't roll onto her or anything, especially in the morning where we both sleep a bit lighter. I have to admit that this is the reason I will be trying to transfer her to her own crib (in our room to start with), because neither of us get very good sleep (our bed is queen sized too).

bliss611 · September 2010

BFab11:

On my side facing him, and if i need to move I'll go to his other side so I'm still on my side facing him.

Or on my back with him against my side.

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dmogmo · September 2010

BFab11:
On my side facing him, and if i need to move I'll go to his other side so I'm still on my side facing him.
Or on my back with him against my side.

DS is 17 months and this is still how we do it when he comes in with us.

Lyssapee · September 2010

Do you have a bedrail? We have a queen and DH is a bad sleeper too. She won't go to bed until we do usually. I start with her by the rail, after a few hours I slider her to the middle and put myself against the rail.. I also make sure DH is on his side facing the opposite side. I also put a firm pillow behind him so it reminds him not to roll over.

After the next week which is probably 2 hours at most I will hope over to the other side.

I also only feel comfortable on my side, or at times I will turn on my back for short periods of time.

I always know where she is because she always squirms to touch me. Sometimes she will wake up and reach her arms around wildly, once she touches me she lets out a sigh and goes back to bed.

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