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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Need some help/advice mommies
Ok so DH and I have a trip to NY planned for a week.We are suppose to leave tomorrow morning. This entire time we were planning on taking DS with us the but the more we considered it the more we realized it might be best for him to stay with my parents. We are from AZ so there is a 3 hour time difference, we will be doing all the tourist(y) things, it's a long flight for a very active 14 month old and we just figured it would be best if he can continue with his routine, play time, nap time, bed time ect... My parents are wonderful and he will be in great hands, however this morning I woke up in a full on panick attack! I have even puked twice and have been crying hystericaly. I scared myself with how bad I got and I know I am being dumb but I don't know how to deal with this! It's my first time away from DS for more than a few hours and I can't help but to start thinking "well what if this happens"... like I said I know he will be fine with my parents but I can't help and think that he might think we abbondoned him after a few days. It's to the point where I am thinking of not going at all which would not be good since DH and I could use the vacation.
So has anyone had such a hard time leaving their LO for the first time and how long were you away?
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Re: Need some help/advice mommies
I haven't left DS for more than a "Date Night" but I could imagine I would act the same way as you. How long will you be away for?
Try to enjoy those moments with DH alone. Many women, such as myself, would love to have a vacation time with their spouse.
That is a huge jump to go from all the time being with DS to gone for a week. I am not saying that you shouldn't go to NY. I am jealous, I would love to make that trip. Your DS is still young enough that I doubt he will realize you will be gone for that long. I think you should go and enjoy yourself, you deserve it.
The first time we went away, DD was 5 months old and we were gone for 4 days. The second little vacation was 4 days and she was 14 months. The time away from her was great for all of us. We got to relax, sleep in, and she got to play with her aunt & uncle.
My first full get away was when she was 16 months. I left her for 4 days, three nights. And it was GLORIOUS!!!!!
Do not get me wrong, I love my daughter. But everyone needs alone time, where you are not doing anything for the people you are getting away from.
I am going to be going away for 2 nigths and 2 days this weekend and am counting down the hours.
DS is 17.5 months and I have to leave him about once a month for a business trip. Usually only 1-2 nights but occasionally it can be 4-5 nights. It's terrible...I hate it. Mainly because I'm working so I don't even get to enjoy "freedom" of sleeping in, etc.
However, DH and I went on vacation once for 4 days when he was about 6 months - LOVED it. Missed him SO MUCH but we had a great time and it was a great time for US to connect. We haven't had a chance to do that again...but I think we may try to plan something similar in the next few months. He stays with my parents and has a blast. As long as she is good hands that love her, you will rest easier than you think. The absolute WORST is saying goodbye. After that, it's fun and relaxing and you'll be SO excited to see her when you get back!