Scared... Follow-up Appt

bryanandkatrina · September 2010

I have my first post-m/c follow-up appt and u/s tomorrow afternoon (I just had a natural m/c on Saturday) and I'm scared to go Embarrassed

DH has to work and can't take anymore time off, so I'm going alone. I'm actually ok with the idea of going alone, it's just that I'm more scared of what they're going to find and/or tell me.

More than anything I'm having difficulty dealing with the unknown (i.e. this entire process) and I'm really just hoping for some closure and relief.

What should I expect? What do they tell you? Ask you?

MrsR25 · September 2010

My doctor just checked me out. I also had blood drawn. Then he just talked to me about how I would feel and when we could start trying again.

Snowbride02 · September 2010

Well, I started bleeding Monday night and found out Tuesday afternoon that our baby had no heartbeat. On Wednesday I started cramping and bleeding. It was pretty severe and lasted about 6 hours. My doctor had me go Thursday morning for another ultrasound. The nurse told me I was close to completing the natural miscarriage. I was still bleeding a lot while they did the ultrasound but it was only a little tiny bit uncomfortable and the tech kept the screen away so I couldn't see anything. I passed a lot more "stuff" on Thursday after the ultrasound, so I'm hoping everything is out now. I go Wednesday morning for another ultrasound. My husband isn't coming with me either. Here's how I look at it, my baby is already gone. There really isn't any devastating news they can give me. I am praying that they don't say that I still need to have the D&C. But, even if they do tell us that, we can handle it right? This entire process is horrible, but we will make it through. Good luck tomorrow.

bryanandkatrina · September 2010

Snowbride02:
I am praying that they don't say that I still need to have the D&C. But, even if they do tell us that, we can handle it right? This entire process is horrible, but we will make it through. Good luck tomorrow.

I think this is what I am most terrified of hearing.

But you're right - look what I've already been through, how much worse can it get?! I am trying desperately to gain strength from this whole experience.

Thank you ladies, for the advice and well wishes.

lovely40 · September 2010

I hope your appointment tomorrow does bring you closure and relief. I'm not sure what they will do as I have not had a follow up appointment yet and I had a D&C. I think it's good that they are doing an ultrasound though - they will check to make sure everything has come out so there is no risk of infection. I think the hardest part may be being back in the office surrounded by other pregnant women. It may hit you hard and that's okay. Don't feel like you need to apologize about crying or being upset. I hope they are kind and loving to you. I also found this link that has a section on the follow up visit that may be helpful. Please post about how it goes. https://www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm

jenniferb1974 · September 2010

I agree - the worst 2 things....

- being around the pregnant people in the waiting room/the exam room where you learned you bad news

- possibility that you might need a d&c (Mine didn't pass on its on, had a d&c 5 weeks ago - the physical part of it was the easiest - you already are dealing with the emotional - I don't think it gets any worse!!!)

Good luck - I will be thinking of you!

LuckyMe2005 · September 2010

bryanandkatrina:
Snowbride02:
I am praying that they don't say that I still need to have the D&C. But, even if they do tell us that, we can handle it right? This entire process is horrible, but we will make it through. Good luck tomorrow.
I think this is what I am most terrified of hearing.
But you're right - look what I've already been through, how much worse can it get?! I am trying desperately to gain strength from this whole experience.
Thank you ladies, for the advice and well wishes.

If this helps you at all, if you end up needing a D&C, the procedure isn't all that bad and it really helped me with having closure. It was emotional for me, because I knew that the process was complete, but I was able to mentally start healing afterwards. I hope you don't need one, but if you do, I hope you feel peace. I'm so sorry for everything you're going through.

SarenaF · September 2010

Agree that you've dealt, or are dealing with, the worst now. I got a lot of closure from our follow up Friday. By that time, I was testing negative, so it was just a lot of questions and advice. That was when I really started to feel like I could start focusing on a future pregnancy. Doctor was terrific and patient. Nurse, however, asked if I wanted my tubes tied after the baby came....

I hope your appt goes well. Let us know how it goes. GL!

dayjessica · September 2010

I have my follow up tomorrow from my D&C. I just wanted to say that although I knowa D& C is just another bad thing to go through during this hard time, its is by far the easiest part of everything. I hope you dont have to have one, but I promise it is painless, and very easy. Nothing to worry about there. So if that is your main concern, try to relax.

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