I'd start getting LO in to their own bed first, and then you can work on the STTN issue - but they'll kinda go hand in hand.
I would go "cold turkey" on LO being in your bed. Are naps in the crib now? If so, it should go easier. I used the book healthy sleep habits, heappy child - basically, notice the signs of a sleepy baby and start putting them to bed then. For DS, it's rubbing his eyes that means naptime/bedtime.
When LO cries, you have to decide if you want to go in there or not. I let LO fuss but not scream. When I went in, usually I'd pick him up and do a dipe change, offer more food, etc. and then lay him down again. Some people go in and soothe, others do CIO - that you have to decide.
As for the middle of the night feedings, start with no talking/no fun. It's just for eating then back down.
If LO doesn't have one, you might consider introducing a white noise machine and a lovey - both will help him feel more secure in sleeping alone.
I guess I am assuming the crib is set up in another room - is that correct?
Hope to help!
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Like the others said, get DS sleeping in his crib first. If he isn't at all right now, start with naps first. If he is already there for naps, then start putting him there for bedtime. He probably doesn't need to nurse at night anymore, he is most likely waking out of habit. As far as STTN goes, we did full on CIO. I tried Ferber, but that made him more angry. Fortunately, CIO works, and works fast. DS was not crying and STTN within 5 days. On the other hand, the first night was terrible. Once we did CIO, DS was (and has been) STTN 12+ hrs. every night.
A good place to start might be by reading Ferber's book. There's a section about sleep training when you bed share.
Good luck. Ferberizing was far less painful than I thought it would be. It's heartbreaking to hear them cry, but the enormous difference in my son's attitude once he started getting a full night's sleep was worth every second.
Re: How did you sleep train?
It's gonna be hard.
Are you trying to get LO in to their own bed, encourage STTN, or both?
I'd start getting LO in to their own bed first, and then you can work on the STTN issue - but they'll kinda go hand in hand.
I would go "cold turkey" on LO being in your bed. Are naps in the crib now? If so, it should go easier. I used the book healthy sleep habits, heappy child - basically, notice the signs of a sleepy baby and start putting them to bed then. For DS, it's rubbing his eyes that means naptime/bedtime.
When LO cries, you have to decide if you want to go in there or not. I let LO fuss but not scream. When I went in, usually I'd pick him up and do a dipe change, offer more food, etc. and then lay him down again. Some people go in and soothe, others do CIO - that you have to decide.
As for the middle of the night feedings, start with no talking/no fun. It's just for eating then back down.
If LO doesn't have one, you might consider introducing a white noise machine and a lovey - both will help him feel more secure in sleeping alone.
I guess I am assuming the crib is set up in another room - is that correct?
Hope to help!
For Evie, getting her to sleep in crib at night required CIO, so I decided to take care of sleeping in the crib and STTN all at one time.
During the day, she would sleep in her crib with no problems. Like the PP said, I'd start with naps.
A good place to start might be by reading Ferber's book. There's a section about sleep training when you bed share.
Good luck. Ferberizing was far less painful than I thought it would be. It's heartbreaking to hear them cry, but the enormous difference in my son's attitude once he started getting a full night's sleep was worth every second.
this!
took 4 days to get lo to take 2 naps a day when he was not taking any naps at all! and only 15 min to get to bed at night! LOVE this book