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DH's grandmas are starting to creep me out...

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One grandma has talked to me a few times this weekend and keeps saying that if I'm scared to call her. I keep reiterating that I'm not scared to give birth to my child -- I'm so excited to meet him and birth is a wonderful, beautiful thing! She keeps pushing this fear mentality on me though and it's disturbing.I feel bad that giving birth was such a traumatic experience for her.

His other grandma decided to tell me all about her three dead children... which is incredibly sad and I feel terrible she had to go through that (two late miscarriages and a preemie who only lived 10 days after being born)... but it's disturbing to go on about it to a girl who is excitedly expecting her first little baby boy any time now. It was really creepy. Plus she also is refusing to send the gifts she bought him until he's born because she's scared(?) & she doesn't know his name yet (huh?!). It's just clothes! Nothing embroidered/personalized etc. 

Of course, all of these weird conversations have to happen on the weekend when I'm home by myself while DH is on a trip. Argh. 


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  • J+MSJ+MS member
    Hmm
    "Seriously, mommy forum people are some crazy ass bitches." New Year New You
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  • OctoberBabyHOctoberBabyH
    Yeah...you need to not answer the phone for the crazy old women, relax and enjoy your alone time.
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  • mom2haymom2hay
    Maybe they are just old and losing it.  My grandmother always comes up with crazy stuff and us grand kids have just learned to ignore it.  If she doesn't want to send a gift, she doesn't have to.  If it makes her feel better to wait, so be it.
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  • OctoberBabyHOctoberBabyH
    Yeah I know it sounds bad, but I try to avoid my grandmother these days. (She has been pregnant 12 times, has had 6 miscarriages and has had 2 of her children pass on. She is 91, so this is a common thing for "back in the day" ladies for sure.) But it is no longer the olden days and old women think they know everything. Take it with a grain of salt if anything.
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  • taesmommytaesmommy
    While I am certain they are well meaning sharing this info before I got pregnant with baby #2 and even tho my DD was almost 2 ANY stories of death or injury to a young child or baby would freak me out like no other! I would have to say your a better woman than I because I would have had to of told them to hush as soon as the stories of their experience went south!! Thats the lastthing you want to think about as a pregnant woman or mother!!
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  • Under.the.RoseUnder.the.Rose member

    Yea I'm definitely steering clear of them now. It was just shocking! And yea I think they're getting to that age where they're losing it maybe just a little bit too... which increases the creepiness factor.

    It really opens my eyes to how things have changed in terms of healthcare for women and babies... and even the mentality around childbirth and pregnancy. Things are so different now and I'm so thankful that having children doesn't have to be horrifying, traumatic, dangerous and mysterious anymore.

    They also talked about how they were completely put to sleep or drugged up so much they couldn't remember anything for a vaginal birth... so scary! I'm guessing they had to pull the baby out? The worst part is that they don't seem to care!  This was just normal and it breaks my heart.


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  • kg_08kg_08 member
    That really sucks, but please try not to let it get to you! For the grandma who thinks you're scared, you've already told her you think it's a beautiful thing so I guess there's not much you can do. For the grandma with the losses, I'm sure it's still very sad for her so I'd just let her keep telling you about it.. don't want to be rude about something like that. And lastly, the clothes. Someone I know held back gifts as well until after DD was born, and it was because #1, she didn't want to jinx anything. #2. It was just a tradition in her family to wait.
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