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I'm really beginning to dislike DH

AcendaneilAcendaneil
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So, this week I told him that yes...we need to get the baby's furniture set up.  We have nowhere for her to sleep if she was to come right now, and I'm tired of having her clothes in a plastic storage bin thing.  I asked him if we could do it today since he has to work tomorrow.  He said yes. 

We went out to breakfast and I asked him if we were going to get things ready today.  He said, "We will soon."  Well when the are we going to get it done because on the weekends you are a pain in my ass and I can hardly get you to do anything because "You worked all week and you're tired!" 

I am so frustrated.  If I could lift the heavy objects and stuff, I would totally do it all by myself.  Screw him.  He seriously thinks we have all the time in the world, and not being prepared is killing me.  I'm so stressed. 

I also wanted to take the car seat in to see if another brand's base would fit, and he didn't want to drive all the way back home and then go up to BRU in his car...he wants to take my car.  I don't care what damn car we take, just as long as we get it done!! 

So he's downstairs...sleeping. 

No furniture will be set up today.  No search for a base.  He will be working Sunday - Thursday, and may have to work next weekend.

I understand that he works and is tired, but this *** needs to get done, preferably before the baby arrives.

 

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  • wife1014wife1014 member
    Good luck!  I am sorry he isn't wanting to help. I hope he's not like this when baby actually arrives.  As for the carseat base,  I hardly think another brand will fit. They bases are all different and specific for the seat.
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  • Soter1Soter1
    You need to whip out the tears and throw a fit! You are 38 weeks pregnant! What does he think, he will be LESS tired to do this *** after he slept 3 hours then worked.  I am so sorry you are dealing with this.  I felt like you did at 30 weeks, I would be on bedrest with high BP if I had all the stuff at home like you did and it wasn't set up yet at 38 weeks.  Maybe I am overreacting but I totally feel your pain.  Do you have someone else you can call to help you, that will show DH.  Whenever I can't get DH to do soemthing I ask my dad, it usually motivates him.  Good luck sweetie!
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  • 1BabyFritsch1BabyFritsch member
    I would seriously be going crazy! we have had our crib set up for weeks now... with everything put away. I dont think I could wait on DH I would just do it myself or call my brother lol. As for the car seat I doubt the diffrent brand base will fit but if I was you I would just leave and do it myself
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  • hewinkedhewinked
    DH does the same damn thing!  His excuse is always that he is tired and has a headache.  He has insomnia and gets migraines, so I get it, but when he uses it as an excuse conveniently whenever I want something done, I stop having sympathy for him.  We moved a month ago, and every weekend has been an argument cuz he says he'll do all this stuff and he doesn't.  Today, he was supposed to put together a dining room table we ordered.  Yeah, it's not done.  It pisses me off.
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  • monkiemmonkiem

    You know guys, it's all very simple.  Tell your husbands that they helped you get knocked up.  This means that, since your primary job is to keep the unborn child safe in your womb, their job is to help you do things you CANNOT physically do.

    OP, tell your husband that the only thing you want him to do is pick up the clothing container and set it down where you need it.

    My DH works.  He's a 7th grade English teacher.  Which means that he gets to be around 125 of OTHER PEOPLE's children, 5 days a week, all day long.  Is he tired when he gets home?  Hell yes.  Does he want to do more work when he gets home?  No, he doesn't.  But he realizes that if I could PHYSICALLY do it myself, I wouldn't ask him to.  

    Tell your man to man up.

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  • tslmom87tslmom87 member
    Yuck. I usually start doing things by myself and then when the groaning starts or heavy breathing kicks dh gets his ass up and helps me! lol try that!!

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  • MrsQuealeMrsQueale member

    imageSoter1:
    You need to whip out the tears and throw a fit! You are 38 weeks pregnant! What does he think, he will be LESS tired to do this *** after he slept 3 hours then worked.  I am so sorry you are dealing with this.  I felt like you did at 30 weeks, I would be on bedrest with high BP if I had all the stuff at home like you did and it wasn't set up yet at 38 weeks.  Maybe I am overreacting but I totally feel your pain.  Do you have someone else you can call to help you, that will show DH.  Whenever I can't get DH to do soemthing I ask my dad, it usually motivates him.  Good luck sweetie!

    Don't do this. Go out and  ask a guy friend or find a good looking man with muscles and ask him to help. See how fast your DH gets up to help then. Stick out tongue

    With how far along you are, I would only ask once before I found a way to get it done myself. Don't yell or get upset at him. Sit down and explain to him that baby can come anytime. Maybe he needs to see a calendar showing the days remaining until baby's arrival.

     

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  • Geback723Geback723
    I would be marching my full term arse downstairs with a big glass full of cold water, proceed to splash it on his sleeping face and tell him to get moving! That's just me though Wink
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  • yodasmistressyodasmistress member

    Our nursery is done but only because I did it 100% myself: scraping, patching, sanding, washing, priming, painting and then setting up the furniture.  Seriously. 

    My master bath on the other hand... DH gutted the shower in November 2009.  Despite promising me it would be done by the time this baby arrives, only within the last 3 weeks has he started working on putting it back together and at the pace he's going, it will be November 2011 before it's done.  And my DH was even unemployed from the time he ripped the shower out until April of this year so he *really* has no excuse.  Angry

     
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  • irishjulybrideirishjulybride

    Oh I hear ya... Our nursery has been done for 2 wks but only because I rode DH's arse.. he was working on our living room because of course we had 3 major renov. in the house this summer.. WHY not..  I am just preggo for the first time... LOL  We had our basement waterproofed...sump pumps, french drains.. new roof and gutters and plaster work done in the hallway/stairway and living room.. That was done in June.. so Dh decided to strip the paint of the baseboards and windows... Yea he has admitted it was a bad decision!!!  So now 2 wks from due date and I am naggin him to get the f'n living room painted so our new furniture can be delivered.. Men have their own thought process.. of ... "It will get done".  I lost it the other day and said... I have a ticking time bomb in my belly telling you to get it done... You can't paint and do all of this when our lil pumpkin is here.. So he is moving to get it all done this week but trust me I feel your pain.

     

    But if I were you, call a family member or friend and do the nursery yourself.. that is what I would have done if DH didn't get ours done.  GL!! :) 

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  • MJHersheyMJHershey member
    I think its time to ask someone else to help- mostly so you get what you need and it might kick start DH into manning up and getting a move on. Is it he in denial or something?

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  • ceeceeseanceeceesean
    imageyodasmistress:

    Our nursery is done but only because I did it 100% myself: scraping, patching, sanding, washing, priming, painting and then setting up the furniture.  Seriously. 

    My master bath on the other hand... DH gutted the shower in November 2009.  Despite promising me it would be done by the time this baby arrives, only within the last 3 weeks has he started working on putting it back together and at the pace he's going, it will be November 2011 before it's done.  And my DH was even unemployed from the time he ripped the shower out until April of this year so he *really* has no excuse.  Angry

    This was me. With all the LO's. Nagging doesn't really work with my DH. He is a born procrastinator and I am a doer, who can be pretty anal about stuff, so i usually always end up doing it. Oh well.

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