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3rd Trimester
visitors after baby
How do you guys plan on handling visitors coming to the hospital after LO comes? If this is your 2nd + how did it go the 1st time? What are you going to make sure you change and why?
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Re: visitors after baby
We only had family come visit. I had serious complications after delivery, so I wasn't up to seeing anyone. Some family friend found out somehow that we had a baby and came by to visit without calling or anything - I sent hubby out with the baby so she could see, but I did not want her to come in my room. We didn't let anyone else visit either.
Hopefully, this time it will go better - and I probably will still stick with just family and really really close friends. I like to keep it intimate, especially when I'm in a hospital gown!
When I brought this up to DH, he basically said he'd rather just our parents come to the hospital and everyone else (siblings included) visit us at home later. I'm perfectly happy with that (in fact a bit surprised that he choose it). Once we are settled at home, DH will call his siblings & mine and let them know when they can come over. After that, friends. Anyone who has the nerve to just show up at our house will be told they should have called first and we are not able to entertain them at that time. I hope most of our friends have the sense not to 'pop in' on someone who just came home with a newborn. I hope.
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I loved having the first couple hours pp, just the three of us. I was able to take a bath with LO, I got to put my face on, and change into my comfy maternity pjs (they looked like workout clothes). I was hesitant to let anyone visit at the hospital but after I was glad we did. Once we got home I would have felt completely overwhelmed to have to keep a clean house & entertain.
I would definitely let people come visit in the hospital where you can also use your nurses as the "time keepers". Ask them to come and tell the visitors you need to rest after a 1/2 hour. People are probably less likely to overstay their welcome in the hospital room than at your house. GL!
After reading all these posts about keeping visitors out of the room, I'm starting to think maybe we're lucky that we live in a different country than most of our families, so we really won't have this problem.
If we're lucky, my dad will be in town. Other than that it will just be DH's sister waiting outside (if she can get out of work and have someone watch her kids).
My parents and in-laws were in the waiting room while I was delivering so they could see the baby right away (I had her at 2 in the morning!) and then as soon as they saw her they left to let us get some sleep.
I ended up feeling really great after giving birth so I was showered, makeup, and dressed in my own jeans within 6 hours. I just told the nurses to let anybody come in and I didn't mind at all.
I wouldn't change a thing about how visitors were handled, but my advice would be to just see how it goes after delivery... you never know how you'll be feeling until after it's done.
I plan on letting whomever wants too visit come. However - if I need to BF and I feel uncomfortable they will need to leave. I will bring a cover just in case.
Well our first time was not normal. DD was a preamie so I didn't get to feed her right away or hold her.
My family was there. It was fine. They were too involved with looking at Ella in the isolette then to focus on me. When I got to BF her I went in with DH and tried...If people came while I was BFing it didn't matter. They had to be buzzed into the NICU. I had a few of DH's friends come in while I was Bfing. I didn't care I'm feeding my baby. They didn't care either.
Friends didn't come till later that day.
We were in the hospital for 5 days while I recovered from my c/s. We had family and a few close friends visit. Have a time limit in mind is my advice and tell the nurses. FIL stayed for 6 hours one day talking with DH (I swear, they were a foot apart and talking really, really loud) and I couldn't nap and he made it uncomfortable for me to BF.
After the FIL incident, one nurse actually asked if he came again if I wanted her to kick him out (she waited till DH was out of the room to do it). I loved her
Also, I've talked with my MW this time and have told DH but will have to remind him that IF I need another c/s, I don't want any visitors in the hospital until AFTER I am out of recovery and have had a chance to bond with baby. That killed me last time.
Wow! At my hospital visiting hours are supposed to end at 8 or 9 pm I think, but I told them I had relatives flying up from Virginia, and they BETTER be allowed in when they got there at 10:30 that night! They said it really was no problem and the visiting hours rule was kinda bs. lol So very lax at my hospital! The only security things they have are those ankle bracelets with an alarm on the babies.
I am in the same boat as a couple of people here. I think I would much rather have people visiting me at the hospital then when I get home. I have a large close family and know that tons of people will come by the hospital but I will be much happier with this then having to entertain them in my house after we get home. Bc then people def wear out there welcome.
I know they will stop by but I also know that they will be respectful and only stay for a bit at the hospital.
My best friend had her baby two days ago and we waited a day to go see her. She actually complained more about the nurses stopping in to see her then others, it was like a revolving door with hospital staff the entire time we were there.
when Amelia was born, my MIL paraded all of her friends in and out of our room and got all pissy if we told her they all had to leave so I could nurse....like she seriously had a temper tantrum stomping her feet b/c we kicked everyone out 2 minutes after they arrived becuase it was time for me to feed her.
This time around we are only allowing family and OUR closest friends to visit. DH will be letting his mother know this and we will also be telling the front desk in case she doesn't listen (which I know she wont). I also wont be having a bunch of people visit when we get home either...again, family only!
I had c/s with DD so was in the hospital for four days, and will have a c/s with #2 as well. I didn't want visitors coming to the hospital on the day she was born until I was ready, which was actually sooner than I anticipated. DD was born at 8:20 AM and I was ready for visitors around 12:30-1:00. I liked having visitors. I had a lot anxiety about becoming a mom, and got very lonely in the hospital overnight and days when no one came cuz they were all at work. My MIL or my mom came for a bit of day, and then it was non-stop visitors in the evening. DH would stay for a bit after visiting hours, but then he'd go home to sleep. (He went to work while I was in the hospital, other than the day she was born.)
I wouldn't mind it being pretty similar when #2 arrives, except if she makes to my scheduled c/s date (11/23), I will be in the hospital for Thanksgiving and Black Friday. So, either I will have visitors in and out all day those days, or no one will come cuz it's a holiday. (By no one, I mean no friends. I'm sure the fam will still come.)
ETA: For me, I preferred hospital visitors vs. home visitors at first. Even though I know people understand I just had a baby, I still felt the need to play hostess when they come to my house. Since I was in the hospital for four days, it gave more time for people to see me there, and I don't mind being seen in a hospital gown, or loopy from pain meds, so hospital visits worked out better.
no-one, besides DH of course.
And my mum, if she flies in before we are released, though I doubt it as we agreed not to tell her until we are sure im in labour (she has to use up her holidays to come visit us, so she will be getting a last minute flight as soon as baby is on his way out)